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Today's telling off from DH

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Wowohwow88 · 11/04/2024 21:00

DH and I are not in a good place at the moment. I have really tried but everything I say or do is wrong in his eyes.

We are going away for the weekend with the children for 4 days tomorrow. I had to work today in the office, and he the day off. Today I have been moaned at for:

Staying half an hour late at work to handover to the team some work they need to cover for me

Went into the office rather than asking to wfh as we're taking my car and he wanted to load it up (Thuraday is a day I have to be in the office and I wanted to do my handover in person. We're not leaving until 12pm tomorrow)

Got a text message to say I had stacked the cups in the cupboard wrong (they didn't fall out he just didn't like the way it was done)

He has been off all week while I have been working do naturally a few bits for the holiday have fallen to him although I have done all of the clothes washing, loaded and unloaded the dishwasher and the general day to day house stuff as well as dropping off and picking up youngest DC from nursery.

It feels like because he has to do a few bits he feels like he is fed up and makes me feel like i don't do enough

OP posts:
EverybodyLTB · 11/04/2024 21:36

LTB

FarmGirl78 · 11/04/2024 21:36

Wherever it is that you're going on holiday, leave him there and come back without him.

FictionalCharacter · 11/04/2024 21:34

Got a text message to say I had stacked the cups in the cupboard wrong

Surely, surely you can see how abnormal this is? No normal adult texts another adult to complain about cups that have been stacked in a way that displeases them.

And you don't have to skivvy around while he has a week off. This isn't a good marriage. You must know that.

12CatsAndCounting · 11/04/2024 21:34

What was your response to the complaint about the stacking of the cups?

MrsTerryPratchett · 11/04/2024 21:33

You not in a good place because you're married to a complete dickhead.

I really am sorry. My advice is to seek a divorce. If you have to stay, I suggest going nuclear sometimes, "I'll stack the fucking cups any way I please. You're not my manager and I'm not staff. Stack them yourself if you care but don't waste your breath telling me. FFS." I could be more grown up and talk about assertiveness skills but he's clearly doing it in full knowledge he's a wanker.

ThePoetsWife · 11/04/2024 21:29

He has been off all week while I have been working do naturally a few bits for the holiday have fallen to him although I have done all of the clothes washing, loaded and unloaded the dishwasher and the general day to day house stuff as well as dropping off and picking up youngest DC from nursery.

Why?!

What's wrong with him that he can't do these jobs? And who made him boss of you?

Urgh.

ElloiseMcTavish · 11/04/2024 21:22

What @pointythings said. If my DH had mentioned the cups weren’t stacked right he’d be in charge of putting anything away in the cupboards from now on. I’d also have had serious words with him if he’d text me about it. Does he have nothing else going on his life other to whine about the way cups are stacked?

pointythings · 11/04/2024 21:16

If this is normal for him then you should consider replacing him with an upgraded model who can handle the basics of domestic life with a woman who has a job and not resort to moaning.