To distance myself from this friend?

This.

I think if you want to be friends but for the situation to change you need to be firmer. -

"Sorry I'm busy".

"No im not leaving you alone in my house. If you want peace and quiet go home"

"No im not ringing friend to ask of you can come to lunch"

If you don't care about continuing the friendship, phase her out or break up with her. But consider the repercussions on wider friendships.

Fuck Off is universal. Love it! 🤣🤣🤣🤣

She's being a bit rude. I'd tell her I was busy/out next time.

Just tell her you don’t think she should visit tomorrow as you’re sure she’d have more peace and quiet to read at her own house.

^^ This. Maybe even, “so please don’t come round again.”, assuming you’re over the friendship and just want to end it.

Simply ask her if she can just ‘leave you alone so you can read the magazine you selected ' 😉

This.
Id have told her if she wanted to be left alone she could go home , Infact I'd have fetched her dd and booted her out in a no nonsense manner, with a cheery goodbye ( and never darken my door step again)

Was she actually reading it? Or installing a camera in your house or something ?! Depositing a dead body under your carpet?

That’s a super sweet story!

And actually I think your suggestion as to what to say to her is the best.

Just tell her to bugger off.

She’s so odd I might be scared to try 2!

I mean, it would be different if she'd said it in a "Sorry, I don't mean to impose, if you've got stuff to crack on with in the kitchen, I'm happy to flick through this magazine for a bit" kind of "don't mind me" sort of way. But to actively invite herself over then ask you to leave ...? That's definitely a bit strange.

I wouldn't ignore her though, I do think you need to just let her know what the issue was. And if she invites herself over, you're allowed to be elsewhere or busy. Don't feel like you need to give in to any demands.

Don’t know much about her country’s hispitality culture though (their flag is black, red, yellow)

So German or Belgian?

Whatever nationality she's a very VERY rude and ignorant person.

Fuck Off is pretty universal.

How bloody rude asking you to leave her alone in YOUR house so she can read YOUR magazine in peace! I'd be telling her to eff right off! Who needs 'friends' like that?!

You just don’t answer the door surely?

You're napping. Your DD is napping. Keep making excuses and tag on to the end of every message you send her that she needs to let you know when she is thinking of calling around to make sure it suits you.

I can’t think of many people who just ‘pop in’ other than family who might live nearby.
As for asking to be left in peace, I’d have been dumbfounded but after the first time, she’d never be given the opportunity to do that a second time.

I think in this case I'd actually just be brutally honest. I'd say that I found it really rude being asked to leave the room or sit in silence by a guest and that you feel that you were being used for childcare purposes. I'd then block her and move on. Who needs "friends" like that. My life has been much improved since I ditched the users and fakes.

"No. I'm not available tomorrow."
Don't apologise.

Do you think she might be autistic?

She wants her kid occupied and to be fed.

Tell her no tomorrow isn't convenient and you'll get in touch with her at some point and to enjoy her day, if you don't want a confrontation.

She's just plain rude, self-centred and inconsiderate.

Her nationality is completely irrelevant.

Politely ditch and block. You sound like a really nicd person, spend your time and energy on people who appreciate you.

I’d just tell her straight. I had a similar situation, I was being used for childcare and she was taking the piss massively. I think I had a bit of pnd also and so I sent her a text saying how I didn’t want her coming round anymore, for the following xyz reasons. I still cringe thinking about it now as it’s not something I’d normally do but anyway, it worked and she never came round again!

This 👆🏼
Life is FAR too short to spend time in the company of someone you dislike, who is rude, asks you to leave her alone in your own home and wants a convenient playmate/childcare for her child.

I’d do exactly as this PP and not take anymore of her shit and see people who are your friends and whose company you enjoy.

If she says she wants to be left alone while in your living room you could say "Ok I'll let the girls know you're leaving" and go and tell your child that her friend's going home.

You have no obligation to tell her your lunch plans and can just say "I'm going out soon, I have some errands" and leave it at that. If she keeps at you to find out what and you keep with vague statements and she won't let it go then she is the rude one, not you.

But that is all a what if as she's already been and gone, but that's what you can do if it happens again.

However the easier option is just don't let her in your house again. Ignore the doorbell.

She’s taking the piss. I wouldn’t mention the lunch thing- it will just get into a debate. I’d simply say, “sorry tomorrow isn’t going to work for me- I am always happy to see people for a natter, but you can’t just stop round here to read- it’s no fun for me but prevents me from getting on with my day” be fully honest. She counting on you not or being too nice.