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When did it become a thing to bring your dog to other peoples houses ?!

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Flowersandforests · 11/04/2024 16:42

DH & I bought a house last year & have been really enjoying having friends / family over - but I’m getting soooo fed up of people asking / assuming their dog is invited too!!

I spent all of last Saturday cleaning my house & then friends bought their dog along so I had to reclean the whole house the next day to get rid of all the dog hair etc. I even found dog hair in my bed the next day 😱

We even had a friend who bought some manky sausages & asked us to cook them for the dog!!! I was trying not to gag.

I’ve started trying to say no, but find people take it soo personally if you don’t embrace their dog too. We’ve also had friends say they can’t leave the dog so would have to cancel (an hour before they were due to arrive) so I feel like my hand is being always being forced.

Has this always been a thing ??!! AIBU to think it’s rude and you should leave your pets at home.

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AlohaRose · 11/04/2024 16:52

It’s your friends. Also, how many people do you know with dogs?! Really rude and entitled to just assume that their dog would be welcome and then cancel an hour in advance, also presumably they’re not keeping these pets under control at all if you are even finding dog hair in your bed following a visit.

SquigglePigs · 11/04/2024 16:52

We have a couple of friends who (with agreement) bring their very well trained dogs with them when they come to stay for the weekend, but local friends have never just brought them round when they've been round for an afternoon or evening.

To be honest I wouldn't much mind, especially for a summer BBQ when we'd predominantly be outside but the dogs would be restricted in where they could access. Having said that, our friends dogs are very well trained and friendly. I would have a very different opinion if they weren't!

BettyShagter · 11/04/2024 16:51

No of course it's not 'a thing'.

I'm surprised you even think it might be.

You just know some very strange/rude people.

K0OLA1D · 11/04/2024 16:51

I take my dog to my mums and nans. Sometimes my friends if we're going to be there a while. But never unannounced.

It doesn't bother me if people bring their dog to ours if they have asked before hand and they get on with our dog, and don't chase cats and are generally well behaved.

Alittlefrustrated · 11/04/2024 16:50

I'm a dog lover, but YANBU, it's very rude to assume. OK to ask though, in some situations eg. used to take mine to close family barbecues, with clearance. My family are dog lovers though. Definately OK to say no, regardless of the situation. Stay firm.

DoYouSmokePaul · 11/04/2024 16:49

Definitely rude not to ask! And cooking for a dog?! Good God, you’d should have drawn a line there.

KreedKafer · 11/04/2024 16:48

It's rude to bring them without asking first.

In my family when I was a kid, my aunt and uncle always brought their dog to visit us and my grandparents, and we did the same with our dogs. That was in the 80s and 90s! But everyone liked dogs and everyone was pleased to have them visit. Obviously we wouldn't have taken them to visit people who didn't want them there.

stayathomer · 11/04/2024 16:47

While yanbu and I wouldn’t do it it’s true they possibly wouldn’t be able to visit/stay as long. Never had anyone bring their dog!

Overthebow · 11/04/2024 16:47

This has never happened to us before. It’s rude and I’d not be having a dog in my house.

Londonrach1 · 11/04/2024 16:46

It's not a thing. It's your friend's, they cf and rude. You ask if you can bring your dog.

vodkaredbullgirl · 11/04/2024 16:45

Wouldn't take mine to someone house, unless They were invited. Just like anywhere else I wouldn't either.

Caspianberg · 11/04/2024 16:45

Just say no. Say no every time, and they won’t keep asking.
I don’t let any dog in our house, a) we have a cat b) Ds is allergic c) I just don’t want dogs in my house.

LuckysDadsHat · 11/04/2024 16:44

Let them cancel. I will not have dogs in the house. Even before we got our cat it was still a blanket no to dogs in the house. Now my cat would actually try and attack them so it is an easy no.