When did it become a thing to bring your dog to other peoples houses ?!

Before people come over remind them the dog isn't welcome

If people turn up unannounced with a dog they can't come in

If someone turned up at my house with their uninvited dog, they could either leave the dog in the car or turn around and go home again. I actually like dogs, but my cat does not and it's her house too. People's cheek knows no bounds, it would appear.

We used to have a toy poodle. 8lb utterly benign little thing. Still left it am home when we went to other people’s houses!

Still got to have a pee and a poo somewhere!

MIL insisted on bringing hers, which was not agreed with me beforehand (she told DH she was bringing him). I insisted that he wasn’t allowed on any of the carpets. She took offence, but didn’t try to bring him again.

We also had friends ask, as their dog ‘gets stressed out when left alone’. At least this time DH had the courtesy to tell me beforehand that they had asked. I said no.

People really do get offended, almost like you’re telling them that their children aren’t welcome in your home.

You need to specifically start telling your family and friends who have dogs that they can't bring them when you invite them over.

Otherwise you are either going to have to acquire an allergy or a cat who hates them. (Some nosey neighbours cats are obliging.)

All dogs are welcome here because my dog loves the visitors but I would never take my dog to someone else's unless he was specifically invited. He's very old now and like @peakygold 's Mum, I totally use him as an excuse to go home whenever I want to 😀

Your house your rules.
My friends all have dogs and bring them to one anothers houses, but the dogs all get on and they're already "dog homes" if that makes sense.
I wouldn't take mine to a non dog house unless specifically being told to bring the dog. Would never ask to bring him.

I can see why non dog owners would find it unreasonable as it does add paws and mud from walks into the mix. Just tell them no!

We have our closest circle of friends who all have dogs, so we meet up together with all the animals, and DH's side of the family (my side is allergic) all welcome the dog, but we certainly have never assumed we can take her to anyone else's house! We even don't take her sometimes if she has been invited if we think it's going to be too noisy or busy.

I have a feeling that some dogs that were acquired around the lockdowns have not been acclimatised to being left and that's why their owners don't want to leave them. But the solution would be working with professionals to address the dog's separation anxiety, not just taking them everywhere. It's a real issue if circumstances change and the owners suddenly can't be around as much.

I’ve had this done to me once, I’d just given birth and dh’s aunt&uncle (lovely people) were invited over to meet baby. Dh went to answer the knock at the door (can’t see who’s there til it’s open) and their two big labs came bounding in the house FULL of black sludgy mud and ran all over the living room, up onto the couches leaving prints everywhere and bumped into baby’s moses basket that he was in!
I literally stood there opened mouthed that anyone would actually do that and thinks it’s ok. My and dh’s faces must have said it all as neither of us uttered a word and aunt suddenly said ‘oh uncle, quickly get them and put them back in the car!’

Then we all sat and had a brew and they held baby etc almost like it didn’t just happen, I think they were very embarrassed. Once they’d left dh just told me to go upstairs with ds while he dealt with the mess. We really aren’t the type of people not to call someone out but we were about 3 days post partum, shattered and quite literally speechless! The house was rented too and we’d only been in two months!

Your post brought them memory flooding back haha

The only dog I often have in my house often is my mum’s who we all adore. There are a few friend’s dogs I have looked after while they’ve gone on holiday too but don’t turn up uninvited or cancel an hour before as a way to force your hand, it’s rude, yanbu!

Bringing a dog without asking first is very cheeky! It’s completely your choice if you want dogs in your home/garden or not.

We only take our dog to places she’s been invited before and we still always check it’s ok on that particular occasion. If we can’t bring her, then either we both stay for a shorter period or only one of goes if it’s going to be longer than half a day. Usually our friends and family make it clear that the dog is invited too, I’d feel cheeky asking someone if we’d not previously been there with her.

It does limit things sometimes, but we signed up for that when we got a dog. It also means we often host at our house which I love anyway.

I wouldn't take my dog anywhere if she is not welcome. Trying to work out why the house needs a full clean after dog visit. Was it rampaging around the whole house?

Nope, you absolutely ask first with understanding that people may well say no so you make other arrangements. Myself and my ex had three small dogs and we'd invited some friends to stay for the weekend. We met up with them in town first and were astounded to see they'd brought their large - and sometimes 'edgy' - standard sized terrier with them. This had not been mentioned up to this point at all. Luckily for everyone all dogs concerned got on when we arrived home and a big growly fight was averted but it was definitely CF on their part. It's wrong whether you have dogs yourself or not. Not fair to the dogs either.

It's just rude to take your dog unless the dog is specifically invited.

She has a standing invitation to family houses though, and her own bed and toys there....

Say no. If I wanted a dog in my home, I'd get a dog. It's okay to say no.

I've wondered about getting a pet crocodile and then if people ask if they can bring their dog I can say "Oh yes please, Snappy will love to meet it

It’s not a thing. I would never take my dog to somebody else’s house without it being invited and don’t know anyone who would, I have never had anyone turn up with their dog without checking either. You must know an unusually large number of rude people.

I think it has become a thing as the OP says. Never ever growing up would anyone bring their dog to your house. Just maybe if it was family or if you happened to be out walking. But then again not many people put their dogs in cars than either.

I would not have a dog in my house. I actually like dogs but my house is dog free and that’s that. I would just say no.

You are NOT being unreasonable at all. It has happened to us only once. We simply told them that sorry but we don't want dogs at our house and off they went.
This situation with dogs that we describe is another demonstration of the skyhigh level of entitlement of many individuals in todays society. The whole "I go as I please and you MUST adapt to my circumstances".
Well, fuck you and, in this case, fuck your mongrel. This is my house and I don't want no cur running around and putting its paws in my bloody sofa or my childrens toys.

So rude.

A colleague brought her dog into work a few weeks back and now we’re all being bitten by fleas.

Grotesque.

DM always used the dogs as an excuse to leave, as in: "Labradors will start eating the kitchen if I don't go home now. Thanks so much for having us".

Wow. I don't know if this is a thing but people seem to be becoming more selfish and entitled generally, so maybe it's iust part of that!

It’s not a thing, you need to have a conversation with the friends who keep doing it, that you don’t want and will not have dogs in your house.