When did it become a thing to bring your dog to other peoples houses ?!

A few years ago, my Uncle's latest girlfriend turned up on Christmas Day with her dog. The dog couldn't come in the house because of my cats and I wasn't going to stick them outside. She was furious! The dog was absolutely not invited, nor was it ever implied it was invited. I think she just thought we'd let the dog in. I did feel a bit bad it was stuck out in the cold but it was either the dog or my cats in the cold.

It does seem a thing with some dog owners to assume their dogs are always invited. I've been tempted to turn up at their houses with my pets to see the reaction, being as they think it's an OK thing to do.

YANBU. No dogs in our house. DH is allergic, not that I need an excuse, I wouldn't allow them anyway.

I’ve only had one person ask if they can bring their dog and that was SIL, she doesn’t like leaving her dog for very long, but we refuse to have any animals
or anyone smoking in our home as we’re asthmatic.

Absolutely not OK to take your dog into someone's home without asking, and absolutely OK for the home owner to have a 'no dog' rule.

However, a pet owner's responsibility to their pet rightly trumps their desire to socialise, so if their dog is not welcome and cannot be happily left at all or for long, then the dog free home owners need to accept that their invitations will be declined, visits cut short or meet ups relocated to dog friendly venues.

I agree it’s annoying. I think it’s to do with the amount of time dogs are left alone with folk working so they feel guilty leaving them to do anything else.

I wouldn’t take my dog to a friend’s house. Perhaps if we were going on a long walk and they had a dog too, but even then I would ask.

I ask once, then assume that the answer will always be the same. If it’s a no, then I do have to make plans accordingly because I can’t leave him for more than 3/4 hours. He’s very good in the car, though, so sometimes I bring him and leave him there, just popping out occasionally to make sure he’s okay. It is completely fine for people not to want visiting dogs, and I would never assume it’s okay, but you do have to realise that it makes a difference to what yoju can do.

I love dogs. I have dogs that I obviously adore.
I haven't met a dog I didn't like. Much rather dogs than people.

I would never- NEVER- take my dog to somebody's house unless she was specifically invited! You are not in the wrong at all to start saying no!

When we got a dpuppy my mate invited me round and specifically asked I bring it. It shit me the new rug...
She wasn't invited back. Her choice and made no difference to our friendship at all. My ds had a ddog once and brought it over. But we had some ourself and huge outdoor space so he never came in further than the utility room anyway. Never ever taken any of them to anyone else's in 15 years of owning a ddog..
As a dc family ddogs went to each other's houses..

Nobody has ever asked if they can bring their cat.

Better class of person a cat lover.

A couple of people have asked us, but it’s a hard no. The cat doesn’t like them, and it’s her home. I don’t particularly like them either, but the cat is an unanswerable reason.

We say no now. The same guests still come.

That's rude. Its not happened to me, but if it did with a casual caller, I would say -"We don't have dogs in the house. Can you leave him/her outside?" Maybe suggest where they could tie it to something.

The “compromise” is to leave your animal at home. You may have welcomed it into your home but nobody else has to.

Difficult. If you have a pet you must prioritise it but at the same time it’s wrong to expect you to have an animal you don’t want in your home. Talk to them and see where the compromise is.

Was your friend having you on?????

We have family and friend's who do this too. Now we have a rabbit my MIL is sooo sad that she can't visit the grandchildren as they can't leave the dog for a few hours 🙄

I also absolutely hate the way people drag their dogs about getting under everyone's feet thinking they are wonderful. They're not.

From what I have seen I think it is people who got lockdown puppies who are not used to being left alone and therefore they take them everywhere with them.

I was at an out of town clothes retail outlet last week and the amount of people wandering along looking at their phones and trailing these poor wee frou-frou dogs around behind them was ridiculous. A man tripped over one and accidentally stood on it and there was an unholy row that ensued.

A friend told me that she saw a couple at a restaurant putting their dogs in a bloody high chair at the table FFS.

Much as I do like dogs I would have to decline allowing one in the house as it would terrify the cats.

Drives me mad when the in laws brings theirs. They live 3 1/2 hours away so finding someone to have her is difficult for them. The dog is getting on a bit and very subdued. She just lies there farting the most soul destroying smells and gets the squits as she seems to get a nervous stomach when away from home. She eats all our cats food so we have to remember to move it out of the way. Their dog then ends up throwing up from the cats richer food. Can't leave the dog in the room with my kids, I could go on and on. She's the sweetest dog but there are many reasons to why we don't own one ourselves. The in-laws have said they are finding a way not to bring her next time...yes!

we always take our dogs with us to my parents, they have a dog too. my in laws do not allow dogs in their house nor do they have a dog. we can however walk to visit them and they allow the dogs to have a drink of water in the garden.

I would never take my dogs to a friends unless they specifically invited my dogs too.

There are certain people I know where I'm frankly crestfallen if they haven't brought the dog because it's the dog I actually wanted to see.

maybe, but no one has tried to change a dogs nappy on my cream carpet or feed it a yogurt on my sofa!!!🙈

Hahaha! I wondered when this would descend into a “dogs are better than kids” slanging match!

I'd rather have a well-behaved dog than a 'spirited' toddler visiting my house 😱
<runs away>

Never needed to drag my dog anywhere. Like I say, holidays are surely an exception?