When did it become a thing to bring your dog to other peoples houses ?!

It's not just about impacting the house. I like cats, I'm meh about dogs. My cats impact on my home is fine by me as I love them. Someone else's dog impacts my house more, to me, as they're not my beloved pet.

Cats don't tend to be boisterous, smelly, or imposing though do they. Especially if you're not used to them. If you took a cat to someone's house 9 out of 10 of them would dart off and hide somewhere

Most people don't tend to take their cats round other peoplea houses. So it only impacts the cat owners house and life.

Yes. I completely understand why people might love to have pets, or not like them; but I can never get to the bottom of the view some people have that cats are fine but dogs are somehow outrageous because I am like your friend and find cats impact a house more.

What a weird question. I prefer cats. I don't have the lifestyle for a dog, I like dogs, but I prefer to have cats around.

I always check with friends if it's okay to bring the dog but tbh I wouldn't take the dog to a pet free house or to a friends house if meeting for coffee.

It's very rude to turn up with a dog without checking it's okay first.

It's not so much the hair, as the dander. Which cats spread far more effectively than dogs due to the amount of licking they do. Plus they get to places a dog can't get to.

I aren't remotely allergic to either but I have a friend who is so allergic to cats she has to have a antihistamine before she sees me!

Yes I suppose a collie would shed a lot.

But cats - esp long haired ones - make me really sneeze.

I leave my Labrador at home unless they know and like her and want her to come.

I have 4 cats, all of them combined don't shed as much as my collie

I vote YABU because you are at fault here. You have allowed dogs into your house.

Not a single dog would be allowed through our front door under any circumstances and whoever they were. You just say no. That’s it. The humans are welcome, but the dog will have to stay in the car or the garden if they bring it.

Act like a door mat and don’t be surprised when people walk all over you.

Why did you need to put ffs?

I mean why are cats ok in a house generally ? I find they shed more.

I’d never assume it’s ok to take my dogs - I wouldn’t ask if I could either. If I have a young dog or a foster I either stay home, or get another mad dog person / pay my trainer friend to look after them do I can have a break

im ms cross dog person because I’m becoming judgey - new fir me - about people who call their dogs fur babies and never leave them, never train them. They’re in wine bars. Lunging barking growling at each other eith osners laughing indulgently. Sorry / I’ll go and do some deep breathing

I’m not sure that’s a good analogy. Mum can probably let herself out to toilet and you can explain to her how long until you’re back. She could even use a phone if she needed you. I don’t really think of my mum and a dog as equal substitutes in an example.

I'd start saying someone in the house has an allergy if it continues....

Huh? It's the cats home! Of course it's OK for the cat to be here. Ffs.

I’ve got a dog, but I would never do this unless he was invited- which he generally is as he is very good, but also very hairy. I take my own hand held vacuum too as nobody wants dog hair clogging up their vac, I keep it my car!

I don't go to other people houses for this reason ,I wouldn't take my dog where it may not be wasted .so I usually turn an invitation round and say I can't leave the dog so please come here.problem solved. Anyone coming with a dog is welcome to come with our asking .

@Calliopespa

Because it's their cat and it lives there?

Because cats aren't dogs?

Why are cats ok?

i don’t think it’s unreasonable to ask, but it is to assume the dog is invited. i don’t really like dogs, but my former housemate’s parents would check with me that it was okay to bring their dog when visiting, and i thought it was really considerate of them to ask - it was a lovely dog and i had no problem with her coming, and after having them ask every time i assured them she was always welcome. i now live somewhere else and have shy cats so wouldn’t like a dog to visit, but would certainly not mind someone asking as long as they took no for an answer, however I’d equally understand if they weren’t able to come/not come for as long due to not being able to take the dog. just put your foot down and say no if somebody asks, if they show up with the dog just don’t let them in, it’s your house after all.

A few years back my SIL and BIL messaged saying they were on their way up and “we’ve got the dog”. Told my DH to message and say no, no dogs. We have two cats that would be terrified, would definitely pee where the dog was and wouldn’t settle for ages after the dog had left, and the reply was “we’ll have to see you another time then”. Yes, yes you will.
The assumption is mad though. If I wanted dogs in my house, I would have a dog.
It’s a lovely little dog to be fair, but it’s a dog and smells like a dog.

holy hell no! That’s outrageous. YANBU. I have four dogs who I love - and I wouldn’t dream of taking any of them anywhere they weren’t explicitly invited.

I do think this is a relatively new thing - people who got dogs during Covid or are the sort of of dog owners who assign their pets personhood…. Well walked, adult dogs can be left for the day occasionally - especially if a neighbour pops in for a midday lunch walk / wee. Your friends are being ridiculous - set your boundaries + stick to them!