When did it become a thing to bring your dog to other peoples houses ?!

Any if you want to be friends with Fungipie

I have had the ‘my dog is nervous, can you put yours out? ‘ also had that crap when one decided to try to hump my old boy.

Err, no. If the guest can’t behave, the guest leaves/ goes in the garden in the perpetual rain/ stays in the car.

Nervous small child - absolutely, my two will be in another room. Before I get jumped on.

I'd say no if anyone turned up either a dog.

They won't do it again.

I hate it! I have dogs so people assume it’s fine. Have had dogs piss up my sofa, run around in rooms mind aren’t allowed to go, be (owner decided) ‘anxious’ so kind had to go out, have NEVER seen them pick up a poo. Pet peeve.
Meanwhile I have never taken mind to anyone else’s house. If I did I think they’d be horrified.

I feel like this is a post pandemic thing. People seem to think their dogs are equal to human children these days. I have friends that go everywhere with their dogs and cancel plans if they cannot bring them - they were never like that before covid, but they do ask first though.

My relatives will only come over if they can bring the dog. If I say no I don’t want the dog they get upset that I’m keeping them from seeing my toddler. Sick of it.

Can’t you say yes dog can come but will need to stay in the garden.

YANBU but I can’t say this has ever happened to
me. I also wouldn’t take my dog to someone else’s house or out for brunch or to John Lewis. Dogs like to do dog things.
As a dog owner, I don’t really want someone else’s dog at my house if I’m honest. I know I groom and bathe mine regularly; he’s very small and a non shedding breed. Unless someone has similar, I’d rather not have their dog over.

@Calliopespa it wouldn't matter what breed she was tbh, I'm not a dog person but have grown to tolerate love her as she's my sisters!

Mn must have an “ ist” term for this attitude! Maybe breedist? 😂

YANBU, they KNOW you don’t like dogs so shouldn’t even ask you!

I like dogs a lot but I still don’t allow them or their hair into my home.

When you invite someone with dogs, pre-empt them that by reminding them that it’s humans only.

They should decline if they want but they should not act pissy about it and definitely should not turn up with the dog despite your wishes.

That is very strange!

I don't mind dogs but I wouldn't have one in my house even if I didn't have 4 cats of varying temperaments.

Just say no, they can then decide what to do.

The only people I know who take their dog uninvited to my house also change their children's nappies on my carpet so I'm saying there is definite CF overlap there.

I have a dog but never bring her anywhere with me, even to people who also have dogs. I attended a birthday party once of a colleague of mine. She lived in a tiny one bedroom apartment but had invited a huge crowd of people. One of them brought in her dog. It was a huge dog, a puppy still, so full of energy and she ran around the whole time creating chaos. I do not get how people can be so inconsiderate.

Yes, it just seems that people have to take their dogs with them everywhere these days. Is it because they haven’t trained them properly? Surely you can visit and leave your dog in the car with the window open. Just take it for a walk after a couple of hours. I do not allow dogs in my home, but fortunately I don’t have many friends with dogs.
Honestly, I know someone getting married and a wedding guest asked if they could bring their dog!

Absolutely no way. A dog is not a child. Say no to the CF!!!

Probably about the same it became acceptable to take them to the pub at every hour of the day and night.
Pub lunch the other week, felt like I was actually in a doggy daycare. toddlers in the middle of it all. only gonna end in tears.

I actually think it’s rude to ask as well as assume.

Asking puts the askee in the awkward position of having to say no and they might end up agreeing even though they would rather not.

I won’t allow dogs in my house. I like to maintain a high standard of cleanliness and DH is allergic and hair everywhere would affect him for days. I would allow docile dogs to remain in my garden if it were a deal breaker for attending my home.

What is wrong with dog owners these days?? How is it that its become completely unthinkably cruel to leave your dog alone for even a couple of hours while you just get on with your life.? Since when did they start to be treated like children and absolutely be accepted everywhere? I was at B&q the other day and a dog was wandering round, off the lead, while it's owner was browsing the aisles nonchalantly oblivious. Do not get me wrong, I love dogs, and if I was home more, I'd love one, but I certainly would not expect everyone to love my dog as much as me, and for it to be accepted everywhere.

The only dog allowed in my house is my sisters dog and that's only cos we sometimes look after her when they go away. She's a cockapoo and lovely and my sister always checks before she comes round in case I've had carpets deep cleaned or if asd son is having a moment.

Generally others don't bring their dogs round no.

Our dogs go where we go, but we do check it's ok at the time of invitation.

If we don't bring them, we have to find someone to look after them and add an extra 1-2 hours into our journey transporting them or pay the dog sitter £50 for the day.

If dogs aren't welcome that is absolutely fine and the inviters prerogative, but there's a strong chance we won't accept the invite.

We do often host to avoid the issue. All dogs are welcome.

of course you can just say no- easy.

But friendships may well be compromised- and you may end up with few friends and few relatives happy to visit you or to invite you. If that is ok with you, fine.

No I was meaning more generally. Why do some people think cats are ok but not dogs. It’s just a genuine question not barbed.

It’s always been a thing but it didn’t used to be that everyone (every man and his dog) had a dog.

When I was a child in the 70s/80s none of our friends or neighbours had dogs (only elderly neighbours with little yappy things). However my country cousins did have dogs and always brought them to our house when visiting - huge dogs in our tiny terraced house where there wasn’t even room for the visitors let alone the dogs, even as a 5 year old I didn’t understand that.

If I was you I’d get cats, then dogs aren’t allowed to come round (plus you have cats, bonus). Or just say no dogs.