I just don’t know anymore.
I earn 58k, ex 90k. He pays 950 a month which is slightly more than the maintenance calculator and on top of this he will buy Dd things she needs now and then, if i prompt him. For example last month he bought her a table and chairs set and new sleeping bags and bed sheets. Cost probably around 80 quid in total.
However nursery is 1600 a month. I feel he should be paying half this and his maintenance. The main reason I think this is because I am literally doing everything. My career is taking a huge hit as I am rushing every day to do drop off and pick up. He visits most weekends so I get around 3 hours on a Saturday and 3 hours on a Sunday to myself but essentially I do it all… all her washing, expensive heating bills … you get the picture.
He lives in a more expensive area (for work) and often claims he has nothing left at the end of the month. I don’t see how this is true.
I don’t want to rock the boat but also I know that I am in a precarious situation. I’m hoping to get a promotion but I can only so what I can do and I’m just managing to stay afloat as it is.
do you think this arrangement is fair? I don’t know.