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Would you be offended if your Bil picked you up?

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Stressedjustthinkingaboutit · 11/04/2024 15:12

If you were flying to visit your sister on your own with your kids to another country. Would you be offended if her other half came to pick you up at the airport and drop you at your hotel?
Reason being, it’s at night and your sister is doing bedtime with their dc, would this bother you? Or would you expect your sister to be the one to come?
They will see each other the next morning

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IvorTheEngineDriver · 17/04/2024 11:30

Why on earth would anyone be offended.

I've picked both of my SILs up from stations and airports over the years. Nobody had a problem with it.

backslashruby · 17/04/2024 11:27

@StormySpanielz Sorry (not sorry) to derail the thread but your username made me laugh out loud. Fabulous.

Goodtogossip · 16/04/2024 11:43

Why would anyone be offended? It's very kind of BIL to pick you up & drop you at your hotel considering you're not even staying with DSis & him.

Imouttahere · 14/04/2024 15:30

I've been the visiting sister. Short haul flight, arrived about 9pm local time with my 18 month old and 8 yr old dc. BIL (who speaks a different language to me) picked us up and dropped us to our B&B. Slightly awkward but not the end of the world. I'm easy going though

MumTeacherofMany · 13/04/2024 11:37

I'd be very grateful

Mt61 · 13/04/2024 10:07

Depends which country? Maybe he doesn’t like her driving around at night (I don’t). My BIL always came to pick me up from the train station when I went visit them both down south. Depends if she feels comfortable with him, if not get a taxi.

Axx · 13/04/2024 08:15

You're way overthinking this

Noicant · 13/04/2024 07:16

Wouldn’t bother me, but my BIL can both put their kids to bed so it probably wouldn’t happen.

Shestolemyboyfriend · 13/04/2024 07:13

I think anyone offended by a lift from the airport is an ungrateful human.

BingoMarieHeeler · 13/04/2024 07:08

cherish123 · 13/04/2024 00:34

It's a bit lazy of your ds. She could easily have picked you up and bil could have done bed time, unless sis can't drive.

OP is the sister at home doing bedtime.

BadLad · 13/04/2024 01:02

GentianCoffee · 13/04/2024 00:31

Who is Bill?

Shorthand for Brother-in-law.

Sister A is arriving at the airport. Sister B is not meeting Sister A on arrival. Instead, Sister B’s husband (and therefore A’s BiL) is going to meet Sister A.

cherish123 · 13/04/2024 00:34

It's a bit lazy of your ds. She could easily have picked you up and bil could have done bed time, unless sis can't drive.

GentianCoffee · 13/04/2024 00:31

Who is Bill?

Mamanyt · 13/04/2024 00:29

Good grief, no, I wouldn't be offended. It's such a small thing. I'd be grateful for the lift, and it isn't as if he is some stranger. BIL or not, he is part of the family.

Mama2many73 · 12/04/2024 22:55

Wouldn't bother me.at all.
Personally I'm not confident in picking up from our airport . I'd do it during the day but would be less happy doing it at night. DH would probably offer to go.

MooFroo · 12/04/2024 22:47

@Stressedjustthinkingaboutit just ask your sister?!

as long as she knows beforehand, it’s perfectly fine I’d say

just tell her the outline of what you’ve told us, say you’ll FaceTime her when your DH has picked her up but too tired to come and pick them up after the time with you’re parents and DC and will send them in the morning

FeetLikeFlippers · 12/04/2024 21:03

Are you the person arriving at the airport in this scenario? I assumed so until I read the last sentence. When you say “They will see each other the next morning” who is “they”?

Ilovecleaning · 12/04/2024 21:00

I don’t know what the problem is to be honest.

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 12/04/2024 20:26

My DH has regularly collected my sister or friends from places because I was at work, or dealing with a child who only wanted me. Sometimes life just happens like that and if you want a lift, you take it from whoever is available.

TeaWithHobnobs · 12/04/2024 20:25

Please put all relevant details in your OP if you want accurate, honest answers about what posters would do/think/say in any given situation, otherwise what's the point of posting as it's just a waste of everyone's time.
You've given info out in dribs and drabs throughout this and not everyone reads updates - some only read the first post and give their opinion based on that one post. If they don't have all the facts in that first post then they can't give you an accurate answer! I've seen a few threads like this lately where an Op is asking "what would you do?" etc but only vague details are given in the opening post.

As for collection at the airport I'd be grateful for any lift so no, I wouldn't be offended. If I hadn't seen my sister in a long time, I'd be excited to see her so I'd probably be a bit disappointed if she wasn't there but it would be disappointment at having to wait a bit longer to see her.

If it was the other way around and I genuinely couldn't collect her from the airport I'd speak to her before her flight and explain why. I would probably send snacks like sandwiches, biscuits or muffins etc plus drinks with Dh so she and the kids could have something in their hotel room. Just in case there was nowhere suitable open at that time. Plus a message saying that I was really looking forward to seeing her!

payens · 12/04/2024 20:22

Get a grip

Juicyj1993 · 12/04/2024 19:28

Unless my bil and I had a really really poor relationship and this was we'll known, then I would have no issue with it. A lift is a lift.

TwoBlueFish · 12/04/2024 18:48

I wouldn’t be offended at all.

Toptops · 12/04/2024 18:45

I wouldn't be offended and would be glad of the lift

Platypuslover · 12/04/2024 18:44

better than a taxi

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