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To think this is rude?

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anxiousmumy · 11/04/2024 12:58

Discussing my wedding with a hairdresser who is highlighting my hair, When I realise she knows a friend of mine who will be my maid of honour.
When I tell her said friend is my maid of honour, she says oh, you're brave. I'd make her wear a bag when she stands next to you.

Now friend IS stunning and I'm very much not, but it stung a little.
Am I being a snowflake or is this rude?

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lavenderboux · 11/04/2024 13:15

I personally would be feeling uncomfortable, what an inappropriate and insensitive thing for them to say.

I'd also be looking for a new hairdresser!

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anxiousmumy · 11/04/2024 13:13

Tatas · 11/04/2024 13:05

If you're close with your hairdresser then I'd take it as a friendly joke - like you say, your friend is stunning and normally brides can be concerned with being "upstaged". It's probably not the most tactical comment, but I've heard brides say similar themselves!

It's the first time I'd met her.

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WarshipRocinante · 11/04/2024 13:10

Maybe on a night out, differences in looks are noticeable and might matter if that sort of thing bothers you. But I always think, when looking at wedding photos, that it never ever matters in that situation. The eye is always drawn to the bride and groom, the bride always looks wonderful and happy, surrounded by friends and new husband. What your bridesmaids look like doesn’t even come into it. Your hairdresser is an idiot. You will look beautiful.

HelloMiss · 11/04/2024 13:10

You'll be a beautiful bride that no maid of honour can outshine

She was rude! And nasty.

Riverlee · 11/04/2024 13:07

That’s rude.

Rickrolypoly · 11/04/2024 13:06

Yeah it probably is a bit rude but sometimes people say things without realising. She probably just meant that friend was very good looking rather than you were ugly.
Try not to dwell on it.

Onetiredbeing · 11/04/2024 13:06

Wow what an insult. Yanbu very rude but maybe she was trying to be funny in a clumsy way.

Tatas · 11/04/2024 13:05

If you're close with your hairdresser then I'd take it as a friendly joke - like you say, your friend is stunning and normally brides can be concerned with being "upstaged". It's probably not the most tactical comment, but I've heard brides say similar themselves!

SamBeckett · 11/04/2024 13:04

That's uncalled for and rude and the hairdressers would be told so

CreateAUsername2024 · 11/04/2024 13:02

Sounds a bit of a cunt. My auntie is like this, makes these sort of comments to my mum but she's actually doing it to have a dig.

DarkHollowTree · 11/04/2024 13:02

Yes she sounds a bit of a twat.

Olika · 11/04/2024 12:59

I find it very rude and wouldn't go back because of that.

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