To think this is rude?

Very rude

So rude. I’d never go back and make sure I told anyone else who asked about her that she’s horrible. There’s no excuse for that kind of comment but ESPECIALLY when you do a personal services or aesthetic job, as I do, it’s disgracefully unprofessional. It’s a big part of our job to make people feel welcome, comfortable and confident in themselves.

Had a birthday last month (not a special one) and didn’t receive a card or present from my eldest child who left home 2 years ago. The relationship is good, I did receive a message wishing me a happy birthday but I felt quite hurt by this and I’m wondering how others would feel? If it makes any difference I always make sure I send cards / presents in advance to all my family so they have them to open on their actual birthday - I suspect they will bring mine at some point but to me it feels kind of pointless after the date. I saw them a few days before my birthday so some slight planning would have avoided this and I doubt money is an issue.

I don’t want any bridesmaids at my wedding but have several close friends that asked me to be theirs. Is it rude not to return the ‘favour’ and ask them? I feel like when you’re mid 30’s it seems a bit childish but completely appreciate others feel differently.

I don't know you but I'm sure you're not ugly.

I'm also sure the hairdresser wasn't implying you were ugly. She'll have meant that your friend is stunning.

I had the same. My best friend was my chief bridesmaid. Honestly, she did look more beautiful than me, she couldn't help it! But I didn't care. I had a fabulous day and felt very lovely. I really hope you do too.

Don't give hairdresser a second thought. It was clumsy and tactless but not meant to be rude.

I would take that as she’s abit jealous of your friends looks and her (hairdressers) insecurities
Enjoy your day

NO! I’m certain you aren’t ugly at all, but you maybe lack confidence. To your husband to be, you are the most beautiful person in the world! Would he be marrying you if he didn’t think that? Sack the hairdresser off! You will look amazing in your day & all eyes will be on you! Take
some time to work on yourself & your confidence prior to the wedding, don’t let an airheads stupid comment affect it x

She's not talking about you she's talking about how stunning your friend is x

Hmmmm its more of a comment on the beauty of the other person not necessairly rude to you, but pretty stupid on her part.

Get another hairdresser...

Aww op! That's really shitty of her! Please don't let it affect you and please don't say you are ugly! I don't know you obviously but I do believe everyone is imperfectly perfect in there own way. No one can be you, like you can! It's your wedding, ditch the hairdresser and shine like the beautiful star I have no doubt you are!

I'd take it as a joke. Maybe because it was about your wedding your being a little over sensitive.
When I got married I joked I'd have to mess my bridesmaids up lol.

That was my first thought as well 😂

That’s really rude. Please don’t take it personally. I know I’d be overthinking a throwaway comment, that she is probably cringing every time she remembers saying it. Congratulations on your upcoming wedding. Wishing you many happy years together.

It was a thoughtless comment made without considering the OPs feelings but in what way is it disgusting?

I think the hairdresser said it without thinking rather than it being malicious. However, I would probably say 'why does she need to wear a bag?' to make her think.

Beyond rude it was a disgusting comment to make

Thats really not appropriate, whether she meant it or not if you had insecurities on how you looked that would really be a painful lasting comment.

My wedding hairdresser who my MIL goes to told my MIL about me telling me daughter off on my wedding morning - btw the 5 year old decided she wanted to stand on the garden table for attention haha so yes I did shout for her to get down. Anyway she told my MIL how I ‘made her jump’ when I shouted. The fact they discussed me in a negative way and that shouldn’t have been repeated I never went back.

Don't see it as rude
She was saying friend is VVVV good looking where as you, she and everyone else is just good looking

I bet you're not in the least bit 'ugly' but I do know you'll look amazing on your big day.

Although I’d expect her to then say “if it were me”. She instead said “you’re brave” which blatantly meant that the bridesmaid would look better than the bride. I’d be really pissed off.

Thats the way i took it, it was a compliment to friend but not the OP, IMO

Sadly, too many people open mouth and spout... no manners, no thought for others feelings etc etc

That’s so so rude. I’d send her a message and say I’d found a different hairdresser for the wedding who wasnt going to call you ugly.

Seeing as you only just met her that's extremely uncalled for.

She doesn't know if you have any hang us about your appearance.

I would have replied, 'Well, I could ask her to step down and you could take her place HA HA HA HA HA!'

That sounds like a foot in mouth moment. It would bother me tbh. Unless she performed miracles with my hair, then I would be looking for another hairdresser.

I would have tried to embarrass the hairdresser and said "A bag? What do you mean?"

Then let her explain away ...😂😂😂