To think this is rude?

No one is ugly, unless they are ugly on the inside.
To not be fickle or jealous to even think about not having a good looking made of honour shows your character, which I am sure makes you beautiful.
The hairdresser may have being bitchy or it may simply have been a clumsy way of expressing how SHE(the hairdresser) wouldn’t have the confidence to have someone stand next to her (ie the hairdresser was expressing a lack of confidence in her OWN looks.) Who knows.
Im sorry she hurt you. You will have a beautiful day surrounded by people who see your beautiful self: your maid of honour, and your partner.
Have the best day.

Don't ever call yourself ugly!!! Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder and your future husband sees your beauty.

You will be the prettiest woman on your special day and your maid of honour will be horrified if you told her someone said this to you.

She's a cheeky fucker and I would have said something, even a "jokey" well thanks that's nice of you!!!!

Don't let one comment play on your mind and spoil your wedding prep, keep enjoying this amazing run up to your wedding I hope you have an absolutely amazing wedding and wonderful marriage

It's a joke on how stunning your friend is. I would have just laughed.

That was rude and tactless of her OP

It might be that she has often thought this person is beautiful and might have said the same to 90% of women. But don't know. It is a bit off and I'd be a bit hurt but maybe assume clumsy rather than intentionally rude.

Really rude thing to say!

Sounds like she was trying to be complimentary to your moh but it did sound like a rude comparison. Its worth noting, everyone is stunning to someone 😊

It's rude but I've never seen anyone outshine a bride yet, you will look amazing.

I agree

But you are and will be pretty. Noone is truly ugly or pretty, yes there are different levels of attractiveness but the "ugly" one will still have pretty eye/lips/hair/PERSONALITY and the pretyy one will have a "fault" too . The "pretty" girl will have her own insecurities about her appearance, just because the outside world sees her as pretty doesn't mean she will see that in herself. Hairdresser is obviously insecure in her own looks to make a comment like that.

I don’t know how to delete it! 😂

Errr yes she is!

If your friend is stunning Id say she was just being honest. As an adult you should probably take it without being upset and not paranoid that it was a dig at you but an acknowledgement of how attractive your friend is. Or would you rather she lied? Sounds a bit teenage to get upset over something when you know the truth of it.

That's horribly rude. I would find a different wedding hairdresser.

I think you’re being a snowflake. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with acknowledging someone is highly attractive.

ETA I don’t think she was calling you ugly. She was saying your MoH is an absolute stunner. That’s not the same thing. You can still be a 9, but if she’s a 10 then she’s more attractive.

Haha! What a dumb thing to say! I'm sure she was joking though.

I disagree that she's calling you ugly. Saying your friend is stunning, doesn't make everyone outside if that category, "ugly".

The hairdresser would feel insecure with your friend as her bridesmaid, she is more likely poking fun at herself with her joke and just didn't think it through.

She sounds unhappy inside and jealous.

YANBU- she was being mean.

You are on the wrong thread.

This. She probably said it without thinking and then realised afterwards how clumsy it would have sounded. I don't think it's rude at all, unless you found her rude throughout the whole appointment. People are so sensitive nowadays.

This is really rude and unnecessary but at the same time I don't think they meant harm, I think they were just saying a throe away comment to praise your friends looks but not intent to bash yours if you get me. Your going to look beautiful on your day regardless and there's someone who she will stand next to who will need to wear a bag next to her to not outshine her the world is full of beautiful women and your one of them X

This is so true, I have never once looked at a photo of a wedding and admired the bridesmaids mroe than the bride.

Shes just saying how beautiful your friend is shes talking about her not you

She was clumsy bit i Don't think it was meant nastily

It was rude, but in reality probably just a thoughtless comment.
She might internally have wanted the floor to open up after she said it. I think everyone at some point have said things that afterwards they realise have come out wrong.

Anybody can be ugly if that is their point of view about you or themselves. Same with beauty and I bet to your partner you will be the most stunning person in the from on your wedding day!

Your hairdresser has no situational awareness! She has lost personal skills from her days filled with idle gossip and wouldn’t know a happy radiant bride if she landed in her “chair” by the sounds of it.

Yes your friend may be beautiful. But you are beautiful too xx

Exactly my thoughts.

Shes said something completely innocent and because of your insecurity you’ve made it way more than it was.

at worst it was a daft comment