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To think this is rude?

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anxiousmumy · 11/04/2024 12:58

Discussing my wedding with a hairdresser who is highlighting my hair, When I realise she knows a friend of mine who will be my maid of honour.
When I tell her said friend is my maid of honour, she says oh, you're brave. I'd make her wear a bag when she stands next to you.

Now friend IS stunning and I'm very much not, but it stung a little.
Am I being a snowflake or is this rude?

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lateatwork · 17/04/2024 15:00

She is your MOH- your aren't fellow pageant contestants competing so very odd if your hairdresser to comment (like why?- who cares about her opinion?!)

Blondebrunette1 · 17/04/2024 14:50

@anxiousmumy I initially gasped and thought what an awful person. Giving the benefit of the doubt I think she probably was just saying how stunning your friend is and also implying she herself would make her wear a bag so it wasn't directed at you so much. It's tactless really. I will never forget my hairdresser insulting my hair piece, at the time I looked at them as super trendy and felt quite upset about it, doubting myself .... Well, the suggestions of a more edgy hair piece actually would've dated badly and I look back at my more subtle hair piece and know it was the perfect choice x

aLFIESMA · 17/04/2024 09:46

Sometimes in life we come across nasty people. Thank goodness you don't have to see her again!

BobbyBiscuits · 17/04/2024 08:59

I doubt it was anything to do with your looks being inferior, just that the other lady is extremely attractive. She is basically saying she's jealous of your friend's looks. In a very crass way. I'd avoid using her again. It could get awkward if you have a friend in common. I stopped using my hairdresser when I slagged off my boss to her, and it transpired she was his girlfriend!

burnoutbabe · 17/04/2024 08:51

www.brides.com/gallery/celebrity-bridesmaids-pictures

Taylor swift as bridesmaid.

burnoutbabe · 17/04/2024 08:48

thismummydrinksgin · 13/04/2024 11:02

She's not talking about you she's talking about how stunning your friend is x

Indeed.

Imagine say your bestie was Taylor swift. She's definitely get more attention at a wedding thsn you from sone guests (and she is of course happy to be a demur bridesmaid in the past)

I don't like this thing around weddings that you the bride will suddenly be this stunning person. I would hope I would look a nice version of me but no one expects or says grooms look stunning and beautiful on their wedding days - usually clean and shaved is all that is expected there!

If I am generally a 5 then my partner loves me as a 5 and so do my friends and family.

Proudbitch · 17/04/2024 08:04

anxiousmumy · 11/04/2024 13:34

I am ugly, I don't need a hairdresser to point it out though :(

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I don’t believe for a second you are ugly. Just in your words you sound so sweet and lovely, and have the love of your life marrying you who knows how lucky they are.

I don’t care what your face looks like, your beauty is shining through just by a MN post.

Clearly your hairdresser is shallow.

DodoTired · 16/04/2024 08:09

Just wow. What a dumb and rude thing to say

GoldEagle · 15/04/2024 16:14

Not just rude, it's fucking rude.

MrsB74 · 15/04/2024 13:29

Katbum · 15/04/2024 10:34

If your friend is unusually attractive, take it as a comment on that rather than on you. Don’t go back to that hairdressers - a good beauty worker knows their job is to make clients feel lovely, so if you left feeling shitty, she’s not done a good job.

I agree with this, find another hairdresser.

Also I bet your future spouse thinks you are gorgeous and that’s what matters.

RhiannonTheRed · 15/04/2024 12:36

I'd find someone else to do my hair if I was in that situation. Incredibly rude, and you don't want to be feeling like that on the approach to your wedding. If she's not confident enough of her skills to make you look and feel beautiful on your wedding day she should just say that instead of trying to bring you down!

Katbum · 15/04/2024 10:34

If your friend is unusually attractive, take it as a comment on that rather than on you. Don’t go back to that hairdressers - a good beauty worker knows their job is to make clients feel lovely, so if you left feeling shitty, she’s not done a good job.

PoppyCherryDog · 15/04/2024 10:30

I think it was clumsy. She probably meant to highlight how stunning your friend is rather than what you look like.

Greenkindness · 15/04/2024 07:33

I would have thought it was rude. Tactless, probably clumsy yes, but still rude. You feel
how you feel.

If you don’t want the hairdresser anymore I would say that’s fair and most importantly, up to you. Honestly, you don’t need any kind of negative energy on the day. Congratulations on your upcoming wedding!

Yummers8 · 14/04/2024 22:50

Bl00d¥ rude and insensitive.
But ignore it, you will be the star of the show and your husband to be chose YOU . And your beautiful friend also chose YOU !

AimeeD13 · 14/04/2024 22:20

My jaw dropped. Wow, rude!

Daisyblue77 · 14/04/2024 21:37

its extremely rude. I would of said so as well

Elaina87 · 14/04/2024 20:34

Yeh thats really rude!!! I'd be sacking her as my hairdresser I think! What insensitive thing to say. I am sure you will look beautiful.

jackstini · 14/04/2024 20:10

Unbelievably rude. What a horrible thing to say - and she should know better being in a service based job.
So sorry she said this
I would not be having her do your hair ever again

joannabanana18b · 14/04/2024 20:01

My maid of honour was really beautiful and I never felt upstaged by her. Just here to reassure that even plain ladies look beautiful on their wedding day. Very silly comment from hair dresser!
Pics for evidence Grin

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Baba197 · 14/04/2024 19:42

She was prob trying to be funny but I’d be a bit upset as well and woujj lol don’t go back to her

Mrschickenn · 14/04/2024 18:55

You should’ve said I look even uglier now with this stupid hairdo (even if you loved it 😂) and refused to pay

PenelopeTitsdrop1990 · 14/04/2024 15:52

Or was she saying she'd make her wear a bag as in a paper bag over her head? Meaning she's not all that?

Lavender14 · 14/04/2024 14:59

Rickrolypoly · 11/04/2024 13:06

Yeah it probably is a bit rude but sometimes people say things without realising. She probably just meant that friend was very good looking rather than you were ugly.
Try not to dwell on it.

I think this is the case that it's been more meant to point out that your friend is beautiful without meaning it to be a criticism of you at all. However it was tactless. If its only a trial I'd be tempted to go elsewhere . I'm sure you'll look amazing on your big day!

Iloveyoubut · 14/04/2024 14:57

No, that’s out of order! I’d change salon and I’d tell her why. And I’m pretty shy irl. That’s terrible!