Should petrol money and accommodation be charged?

if this is your boyfriend who you have made threads about before and who has now told you he can't be alone for a week, and you said previously that he had told you that he has anxiety and that lots of men take their own lives because they have nobody to talk to. If this is what is happening then you are in an abusive relationship.

This puts such a worrying slant on things.

@PinkStarAtNight

If anyone ever threatens suicide, the only thing to do is phone for an ambulance and let the professionals deal with this very serious situation.

Please do not waste your life with such a manipulative partner. They care nothing for you and are just selfish.

was invited to tag along

Who invited them and why did they do so before agreeing the impact on the costs.

If they are literally invited as a second class citizen with no voice in what happens, because they are struggling and can't afford then own holiday, it seems a bit off to then ask them for any equal contribution or, really, any contribution at all.

I like to discuss and agree arrangements in advance, always, not just on holiday.

This does not bode well for me, for the whole holiday.

I've just looked at the OP's posting history on the back of this and it could very much well be the situation. 

@PinkStarAtNight if this is your boyfriend who you have made threads about before and who has now told you he can't be alone for a week, and you said previously that he had told you that he has anxiety and that lots of men take their own lives because they have nobody to talk to. If this is what is happening then you are in an abusive relationship.

Oh god. That's so awful. Poor B.

For some reason, this is one of the best ‘who should pay?’ Threads ever .

Surely nobody thinks that they can bring their partner of a holiday with their friend for free! Surely!

Very much expecting a rap on the knuckles but if you are a and c is the same Andrew tate loving dp, I can't imagine why on earth b would want to go! Basically is now a 3rd wheel on a couples hol!

Did the bear attack the villagers? Because that makes me less likely to leave the 27 year old alone at home with them.

I take it that is an absolutely 'hilarious' and oh so clever comment on SPAG by someone who had to edit their own post.

At the beginning you made it sound like C was a independent person, you even said they lived alone, but they don't live alone - they live with you and can't manage alone because of this 'tough time'.

It all just sounds like you have manipulated B into having to say yes to your presumably adult child coming along on this holiday but for free. B thought they were going away with a friend. But now this has changed everything.

The best thing would be for C not to come after all. Can't they do something with a friend? Or just manage.

I just imagine you constantly shoe horning this family member into things.

C should offer to pay.

To me this sounds like a conversation best had at the time of inviting person C. What were they led to believe the arrangement would be?
If they're really hard up I'd maybe ask them for a smaller contribution, particularly if them paying nothing is going to cause friction / resentment. Be clear with them though.

They don't have to hand over cash they could just do a transfer if that makes you feel better?

But I don't think person C should be paying identical costs to A&B but then gets no say whatsoever in what happens on the holiday.

Person C needs to start behaving like a grown-up and either deal with being alone in the house or invite a friend to stay.

It depends what was agreed at the time of the invitation, but person C should at least have the decency to offer a contribution.

I wouldn’t charge C towards accommodation but split all other costs three ways. Unless C had severe money issues as part of their problem. Hopefully C would offer anyway and make the problem irrelevant. I guess the dynamics of the three makes a difference to whatever gets decided.

C should pay their share or not go.

Sounds like a rubbish holiday

C should obviously pay a third but doesn't seem to want to do that. B sounds cheap.

This sounds like a friendship breaker to be honest. I’d shelve the lot!

Petrol costs £40 are split by the two who did not drive. Driver does not pay for petrol.

Caravan cost split 3 ways.
Change to £40 bedding charge split 3 ways or alternatively B provides own bedding, other beds cost split between A&C.

If A wishes to give C some or all of the money for their holiday then they can.
Obviously if A & B both decide that they don't want to charge C for anything or just for a smaller portion of the costs that's fine too.

Did the bear attack the villagers? Because that makes me less likely to leave the 27 year old alone at home with them.

I bet C always is, yes.

Boy this gets better and better..

So Cindy lives with Alice… Bethany is cheap and there will be no drinking on the trip while all 3 eat leftovers and random stuff from the home fridge. There are no plans to do anything during the day except for the first day when they all must make their beds.

ETA: and apparently fighting about who owes what as I’m sure this isn’t the first time the three have been in this position

New question 🙋‍♀️ why would anyone want to go on this trip?

C needs to pay to go on the holiday not expect to go for free. The holiday costs should be split 3 ways as there are 3 people going. If A and C are sharing a room and B has their own room then C could pay slightly less than 1/3. C is very cheeky to think they should get a free holiday.

C should pay something towards it

But if they don't have any money the person who invited them should be paying some extra - maybe not 2/3 of the cost but more than half

It depends on how they worded the invitation. They could have said would you like to come on holiday with us, it's a really good deal and it would onlycost X pounds or they could say would you like to come on holiday, our treat.

Either way it should be clear from the first conversation what's happening.

Person C should not expect a free holiday holiday though unless they were specifically told it was going to be free.