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Should petrol money and accommodation be charged?

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PinkStarAtNight · 11/04/2024 10:23

I am looking for opinions on whether a person should be charged petrol money and accommodation fees or not.

So the situation is, person A and person B agreed to go on holiday with each other and booked a holiday together last year. They paid half for the holiday itself and, because it involves person A driving them there, they of course agreed they would split the petrol money.

Months later, person C, who is a close family member of person A, is going through a tough time and was invited to tag along on the holiday as they live alone and are struggling.

There is now a debate as to whether person C should pay a third of the petrol money and a third of the accommodation costs.

Accommodation has already been paid in full between person A and B, so paying for accommodation would involve person C handing over cash to person A and B to make it so they have essentially all paid a third each. And petrol money would be split three ways on the days of travel.

So...
Should person C pay an equal share of accommodation and petrol?

Or should they not have to pay, because person A and B planned this trip a while ago and would be paying half regardless of whether person C attends or not.

Person C will not be increasing costs in any way as the accommodation has always been big enough for three people, as person A and B booked a large caravan. Person C has agreed that they will not be dictating what happens on the holiday or factored into any decisions or plans for the activities, as they are only going because they don't want to be alone right now.

Also, does it make a difference that person C is close family member of one of the original people?

OP posts:
Codlingmoths · 12/04/2024 15:51

C doesn’t pay accom, you don’t get invited or told you’re coming on holiday because you need support without also being clearly told cost. Suck it up. B brings bedding, and A & C split bedding costs. It’d be nice of c to kick in for petrol, but again if she doesn’t offer you probably have to suck it up and communicate better next time. Eg c: I can’t be alone right now! A: you could come, it would be £xx and petrol money if you wanted to do that?

Emptyheadlock · 12/04/2024 15:44

C should be paying a third. It shouldn't even be a question.

A and C are cheeky as fuck.

B should run for the hills.

User56785 · 12/04/2024 14:29

My previous OPs or partner has nothing to do with this situation.

That's good to hear. Really.

I think C needs to pay the same as everyone else but the beat solution would be for C not to come at all.

MoonWoman69 · 12/04/2024 14:10

And @PinkStarAtNight I never even mentioned your previous threads or partner, so I don't know where you got that from?
And yes, you have drip fed the information, it wasn't all in the original post at all. Read your own updates ffs! 🙄

DumpsterBaby · 12/04/2024 12:41

Yes they should. Particularly as A and C are related and therefore B is less likely to feel as comfortable as they would if they were just with A.

Plus? It’s the only way this is fair.

TinyYellow · 12/04/2024 12:38

You’ve had lots of helpful opinions OP, so it doesn’t seem too much to ask for you to contribute your own.

CelesteCunningham · 12/04/2024 12:33

Well then OP, have you reached a conclusion? Is C paying their way?

PinkStarAtNight · 12/04/2024 12:25

MoonWoman69 · 12/04/2024 10:27

All the drip feeding and subsequent revelations about OP! Why can't OPs put the full story in the original post? Drives me absolutely mad!
And having read the updates... No booze, no fun? Sounds like a dream time away!
I'd also pay double not to go! 🤣

The full story is in the original post. My previous OPs or partner has nothing to do with this situation. I never even said that I was one of the three people!

I was asking for opinions, not an enquiry into my life.

Thank you to the people who have offered their opinion in a useful way.

OP posts:
Abitofalark · 12/04/2024 12:22

How can you vote if you don't know what the OP is proposing as reasonable or unreasonable?

Anyway, this has disaster written all over it. And if they insist on having an awkward or disastrous holiday with three people instead of two, of course the third person should pay. Otherwise there will be simmering resentment if not actual falling out and estrangement.

Lucytheloose · 12/04/2024 12:11

If B puts a thread up, I will definitely advise her to step away from this mess and write off the money

Shinyandnew1 · 12/04/2024 11:05

Is C the partner or child of A?

I feel really sorry for B!

2chocolateoranges · 12/04/2024 10:57

If person C is person As partner then as person B I’d be unhappy about going on a holiday with them now. It was supposed to be a friends breakaway and the dynamic has all changed.

not for me, as person B I’d be dropping out.

Saymyname28 · 12/04/2024 10:55

PinkStarAtNight · 11/04/2024 21:57

No. Not all. Just person B. Person B likes to save money wherever possible.

Person B doesn't want to pay for bedding and not get bedding. Either their bed gets made up or they don't pay.

Person B is getting screwed over here and should at the very least get some if their money back. They didn't respond happily that Person C is coming just "yeah I thought this would happen"

Even think of the small things. There were two people in a car. Now there's 3. Who's sitting in the back? Presumably the person who doesn't live in the same house as the driver, so B.

If caravan is designed for 4, surely there's a double bed and two singles. So why wouldn't the double bed be made? Surely it would be the double and one of the singles for 3 people.

frequentlyfrazzled · 12/04/2024 10:55

The trip is now for 3 people so needs to be a 3 way split. Alternatively, A and C go together and B gets a full refund if that is what she would prefer. I agree that B has been put in a difficult situation and might not feel she can be honest. If I was B, I would rather give it a miss altogether than have someone's partner, child, mother or whoever tag along, as it will completely change the dynamic and clearly the whole thing is already fraught with tension if you are arguing over money before you have even left the house.

wutheringkites · 12/04/2024 10:45

Op, if you are A and you're trying to bring your boyfriend but not pay get him to pay then you're taking the absolute piss.

TinyYellow · 12/04/2024 10:29

A has no right to be annoyed with B, especially after they’ve been accommodating and agreed to C coming on the holiday. A and C could have offered to pay for the bedding seeing as B is doing them a favour and hasn’t been offered any money off the cost of their holiday even though it’s now being split between more people.

bellezarara · 12/04/2024 10:29

PinkStarAtNight · 11/04/2024 21:57

No. Not all. Just person B. Person B likes to save money wherever possible.

Surely it’s A who likes to save money by using C to fund a relative’s holiday?

MoonWoman69 · 12/04/2024 10:27

All the drip feeding and subsequent revelations about OP! Why can't OPs put the full story in the original post? Drives me absolutely mad!
And having read the updates... No booze, no fun? Sounds like a dream time away!
I'd also pay double not to go! 🤣

hagchic · 12/04/2024 10:17

@Riverlee Maybe that's how it will end up if C 'needs more space' and B is thrown out of the caravan to fend for themselves into the woods (with the bears)

She might get a pillow if she's remembered to bring on for herself.

B - you might want to pack a tent.

Riverlee · 12/04/2024 10:13

I’m beginning to think a holiday in the village
with the bears would be preferable!

Isittimeformynapyet · 12/04/2024 10:08

DoreenonTill8 · 12/04/2024 10:06

As was l.

Oh....sorry 😞

DoreenonTill8 · 12/04/2024 10:06

Isittimeformynapyet · 12/04/2024 09:46

I believe @MetalFences was being sarcastic.

As was l.

hagchic · 12/04/2024 10:04

B- run for the hills, give up on the £65 you've spent on the caravan and leave A&C to it. They can pay the transport and bedding costs as they will be the only ones there.

Pay not one penny more and I would cool the friendship too.

LaCouleurDeMonCiel · 12/04/2024 09:52

Clearly OP is A or C. FFS just accept that everybody needs to pay their share and split everything 1/3.

Isittimeformynapyet · 12/04/2024 09:46

WhereIsBebèsChambre · 11/04/2024 22:45

You say that like it's a bad thing 😱 NOT to want to fund a dramatic free loader?

Edited

I believe @MetalFences was being sarcastic.

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