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To desperately ask what age you found like easier after having a baby?

92 replies

helppleaseeh · 10/04/2024 21:53

Just that really. 19 months and oh my god it’s too much. I really need my own space and time to function well and basically do not have much of this for obvious reasons. The tantrums, the nappies, the constant changes of clothes. When will it feel easier?

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BertieBotts · 10/04/2024 22:17

Do you have a partner, do you have involved grandparents (of your child)?

BertieBotts · 10/04/2024 22:17

Around 4 definitely felt different.

But honestly my youngest is 2.5 and I'm already feeling a shift like it's less relentless. I am going away overnight! Which will be the first time I've been away from the children in nearly 6 years.

I have a teenager and I do understand the point about teens being worrying in a different way but teenagers do not relentlessly NEED you every second of every day like babies and toddlers do.

Boredwiththinkingofanotherusername · 10/04/2024 22:16

When they left for Uni 🙄
Tb really h when they slept through the night properly because they were knackered from school - so say 4ish! Mine were not good sleepers.
As a mum you always worry about them - the challenges are just different as they grow up :)

elliejjtiny · 10/04/2024 22:15

My youngest is 9 and I'm still waiting. But he is autistic so probably harder than an NT 9 year old. I find that some difficult bits get easier as they get older and some things get harder.

Femme2804 · 10/04/2024 22:14

I found it the easiest is before 1. Especially when they do not need solid. Only breastfeeding. Its soo easy for me in the baby phase.

easy phase number 2 is when the start reception. Its getting better from then until they are teenager and its hard again

Caroparo52 · 10/04/2024 22:12

Mine are in twenties. Same shit just different shit

Chatonette · 10/04/2024 22:11

My 15 yo is giving me a hard time ATM. We too have tantrums and constant changes of clothes. I’m thinking 18, once they’re out of the house…

FunnysInLaJardin · 10/04/2024 22:10

14 and 18! But honestly once they were about 4

remembe · 10/04/2024 22:10

It's about to get so much easier, honestly, especially if you are able to potty train right around 2. Both mine were pretty delightful from age 2-3. I can't handle the thought of having another baby simply because of the thought of age 1-2! It's hard. Age 3 on just flies by and they get more and more independent all the time.

Yourethebeerthief · 10/04/2024 22:10

I'm really enjoying the 2-3 stage.

But I look back at the really little guy who's changed into the toddler, and I miss him. That little guy.

DappledOliveGroves · 10/04/2024 22:09

With DD1, I found things got a lot easier after two and a half. DD2 is now 26 months and things are getting easier as she gets much better with speech. Certainly by the age of three/four, it's infinitely easier.

Moier · 10/04/2024 22:08

Don't wish it away..
I didn't find motherhood hard at all..
It's as easy or hard as you want it to be..
Mine were born in the 80s and 90s though.. now age 40 and 32.

LividAA · 10/04/2024 22:07

I found 1-2 really hard but 4 (while not without its challenges) is getting much easier.

Aquamarine1029 · 10/04/2024 22:05

The days are long and the years are short.

Georgesbar24 · 10/04/2024 21:56

I think two is a glorious age, especially the second half. It’s bit easier as such but they talk properly so the communication makes it so much better. And they’re bloody adorable.

1-2 is a tricky age imo - active but completely dependent.

thecomingbrave · 10/04/2024 21:56

Turning point around 2/2.5 when they can talk more, another milestone around 3 when you can reason slightly more, 3.5/4 is a huge change and gets way easier imo.

4.5/5 they start school and I find that hard in different ways - worrying about him behind behind in reading writing etc, friendship/popularity worries etc. Physically very easy

ShillyShallySherbet · 10/04/2024 21:54

It gets easier when they start school in my experience.