To desperately ask what age you found like easier after having a baby?

First of all this comment doesn't answer the OP's question. You literally did not confirm when you felt it got easier unless you're saying when they hit 40 and 32.

Secondly, 'it's as easy or as hard as you want it to be'? Who would proactively want parenthood to be hard???

My mum's friend loves to tell a story of how when her babies cried she put them in a cot and shut the bedroom door until they stopped crying (hours later). She figured they would fall asleep eventually. Is this the sort of thing you did to make things easy? Shame on you.

It does go through ebbs and flows of being “harder” and “easier” but they are always…. there 😆 Personal space and alone time is in short supply (have a 10 year old and a 3 year old).

I’m reminded of the meme/joke of the daughter on the phone to her mother (for the 4th time that day), “Mum, the kids aren’t listening to me, please tell me when they stop being so needy!” The mother, “Um, well you’re 35 and married with your own kids and I’m still waiting…”

3.5 onwards was a huge turning point for us so far. As much more independent and can be reasoned with. 0-3.5 was a hard slog, not going to lie. Hang in there. It's hard but each of these phases do end.

For me now that turned 5 I can see a bit of a light in the tunnel

I four and five months each time when I put them in nursery and went back to work.
The turning point was around three years.

"It's as easy or as hard as you want it to be."

Pmsl!

What about single mums or skint mums or mums with SEN children or mums who are SEN themselves or mums with abusive partners or those, who like many mums, just want to go for a wee without someone shouting mumeeeeee!

Around 20-24 months it gets MUCH easier because they understand enough that you can reason with them. "You get another potato if you eat your carrot first." "You can have another turn when Sam has had a go." It no longer feels like you're negotiating with terrorists.

And I would say about 2-2,5y it gets much easier again when they are potty trained, and you have much less need to schlepp a stroller everywhere.

Then from age 4-5 they can put on their own jackets, go pee, walk properly, space out meals (if necessary with a snack) to suit your plans... You don't need eyes on them as relentlessly - you can just tell them not to leave the playground. Then it really starts to feel soooo much easier.

You'll get there, you got this!

I found 18 months or the 1-2 age the hardest! So active but unable to communicate or reason. You literally can’t take your eyes off them and usually have to constantly be bent over scurrying after them too. Sleep often still dodgy at that age , plus I had gone back to work and was trying to juggle that transition.

I think from 2 there was quite a big leap with language which made a difference to me, plus their physical development improving meaning a bit less of the constant Velcro next to them at all times. Agree that potty training also was a great milestone.

Hang in there xx

The easiest age I found to be 5-8.
Once they turn 2 it gets easier in my experience so not long to go now.
I'm currently in the teen bracket with mine and this is by far the worst age for me (but that's specific to me as I much preferred the practical support needed by younger children to the emotional support needed by teens so it very much depends on what type of person you are!)

It does get easier. I found from 2 things got easier every 6 months or so as they hit new developmental milestones. You’re in a really tough phase where they are very demanding. The biggest thing is sleep tbh. My eldest was full on during the day as a toddler but slept like a dream. My youngest was full on and didn’t sleep well until she was at school.

It gets better in stages. 3+ was easier for us because their sleep improved. 5+ is wonderful as they can be more independent.

And everything feels better if everyone gets proper sleep and winter colds are a thing of the past for a few months

Is there a play group where they can be left for a couple of hours a few times a week? Usually around 2 and 1/2? Or a crèche attached to a gym? I used to love that option as ds had to be pre booked and paid for so it made me go to the gym, have time spent on me, headspace and a good shower/hair wash/hair dry into the bargain. But this was 20 years ago.

Hopefully the weather improving might help with spring and summer coming and you could go to the park or outside a coffee shop especially if you have friends with similar aged children. Not child free but more human

I enjoyed their primary school years the best and was far less stressful than parenting under 5s or teenagers.

Around 24. Years.

Age 0-4 was hell for me. I wished each year away. Age 5/6 has been an absolute dream and I’m enjoying every second which is something I never thought I’d say.

They are hard work at 19 months. On move with a strong will to explore the world in usually horrendously dangerous ways so you have to watch them like a hawk lest they tumble down a flight of stairs or plunge into a river or stick a battery in their mouth etc etc. The emergence of tantrums when they don’t get their own way, or even just if something doesn’t quite go the way they think it should (I remember DS howling all the way home once because the moon was in the wrong place in the sky). In all honestly I also found 2-3 tricky with two of mine, ( my third was much easier- purely her personality being more chilled out). 3 onwards a noticeable shift to easier for the other two, and then gradually easier from there. Hang in there OP!

For me it got easier at 3 months when I stopped BF, 6 months I went back to work with my first and 10 with my second. I couldn't be a sahm but so much respect for those who do it. I found 18 months-2 very hard with tantrums though her communication has always been good. Then she was toilet trained, could play independently and just generally more fun by 2.5. She just turned 3 and the baby is 1 and I'm missing all the previous stages so much.

I also found the first year the easiest. By far! Two has been brutal, both times.

It started feeling easier when she was around 20 mths. Alas what did I do? Immediately got pregnant with him.

They're 15 and 13 now. I'm ill and they've just tucked me up in bed with some fresh water paracetamol and a hot water bottle.

So it's definitely got easier.

Hang in there.

Honestly I literally came back to life when he turned 2. Glorious. Felt like I’d been reborn between his second birthday and 2.5… less stressed, life returned to some type of normal, lost my baby weight, just healed from the whole ordeal.
Now he’s a little person it’s just lovely. Unless he is ill in which case it’s torture!! Hated newborn until 18 months. Really really really hard for me and I hated how little you could get done… love him but do still feel I had ‘all that time’ yet got nothing done!!!

With my twins, it was probably 5.5.
Different, in that both have SEN, but it took a long time to feel like I was doing more than just winging it.

It might depend a bit on the child, I remember thinking when they were small, I could of had 5 like my 2nd. Whereas my first felt like 5...Quite high needs, intense and demanding. That said they settled down about age 8 or 9 and my second started to be more challenging.

When they start amusing themselves and don't need to be watched all the time to keep them safe, that's a turning point. You can then do a few things for yourself and get that headspace. Hang in there!

4 and onwards was much easier.

The reason I asked if you have help is that I think it's actually crucial to have breaks and have time to do your own things.

If you're not getting that, why not?