Would you have turned her away?

No. Would never let anyone I didn't know in. Seen too much Crimewatch. I'm a single woman with a child. Although I live in a flat with an intercom system so no one ever comes knocking anyway!

Think things were different back then and yes probably would of let you in to pee. When I was only 17 back in the 80's a group of us went to Slane Castle to see Queen and the people we hitched a lift with let us camp in their garden not far from the venue and the 2nd night it was raining let the 4 of us sleep in their living room. Unthinkable to do that now but we were all so young and people were different then. The world has changed a lot since the 80's. Not sure if I would let someone in now as would be too afraid. If it was a bunch of young girls I probably would let one girl in but only if my son was here as he would protect me if anything got dodgy as he's 6ft 2 and strong.

I probably would but only because we have a loo right by the front door and only the person using it would be allowed in.

Of course you would. But this is mumsnet where no one ever crosses the doorstep and they don't let workmen use the loo so expect a flurry of nos, she could have been an axe murderer.

.*think is daft!

YABU for responding to a question that you think is fact!

YABU for not understanding that a disability can make some things difficult, you don't need to understand the disability. Just accept that life is more difficult for some.

YABU to say you found a toilet in the Australian outback, the OPs friend was a passenger with someone unwilling to look for a place where she could use a toilet.

YABU in 1994 we didn't have servos or shoppes, still don't! We do have many more service stations and shops though in 2024.

I did let a teenaged girl in to use our powder room right beside the front door. I waited right by the door and was on the phone to my neighbour...in case something went down.

As a single woman living with only primary age DC, with currently the only toilet being in the bathroom on the first floor (I'm saving for an extension which will allow me to put in a downstairs loo), I would not have let her in unless:

• I could see the minibus full of teens and driver
• I had a gut feeling that she was genuine

Unfortunately dishonest people have used children/young women as a way of getting into homes for nefarious purposes, and in my situation I wouldn't be prepared to take that risk.

I'd have a slightly different view if I'd done my house extension, and the toilet was a single cubicle right by the front door.

So funny!

I can not wee for 9 hours, you need to wee after 5, just what is wrong with you???

You should be the same as me !

I would've done

1994, probably.

Now, If I saw a minibus & a leader came with so it was clearly true, yes. Just a teen in their own? Nope. We've a youth crime problem & they'll try anything to get access to your home.

I've never been able to crouch and have a wee. I've tried it, bladder always so full that I create a little puddle around my trainers that the bottom of my jeans start soaking up!

If a downstairs loo yes. Upstairs probably not.

I am one of these people that doesn't open the door unless expecting a knock though. It causes me huge anxiety.

She'd be peeing in my hedge (which I don't really have any objection to in an emergency), because chances of me actually acknowledging an unexpected ring or knock at the door are virtually nil.

If I judged the situation to be safe (I work with teens, so would like to think that I'd have a fairly good inkling), then no, I would not have turned her away.

YABU for posting such a daft question.

Where on earth were you that were were no service stations or shoppes?
You found a residential area but no servo or shoppes?

I've driven in the outback of Australia several times and managed to find a toilet without knocking on someone's private home.

How could their disability prevent them from peeing in a bush? It seems like they could walk, as they walked into the person's house. Were their gentiles located on their back?

But no, I don't let anyone into my home. I have PTSD.

So no, I wouldn’t let a stranger in but I wouldn’t have any issues with them going in my garden if desperate.

Umm, it would be less weird not to answer the door than suggest this

I would. I always ask local window cleaners/gardeners etc if they need a loo break when doing mine or neighbours to knock on. Often offer them a brew if I have a spare few mins.

im self employed and work from home.. can you tell I need to get out more. 😂

I wonder why a youth leader was prepared to let girls get out of the bus and knock on the door of strangers

As a woman with bladder issues I’d 100% let a lass in, or a mother and small child. No men, no standing with the door open. God almighty, what a world we live in though. Didn’t occur to me til I read this thread that you could end up accused of malfeasance for helping someone who was bursting for a piss.

I'd let the guy who delivers my parcels in to use the loo, or get some water. He's been coming to my house for years now and I feel okay about it. In fact, I've offered him drinks on hot days.
Random man knocking at my door, no.

We've moved so far from being trusting (sometimes sadly for good reason...) but I hope I'm still a person who would - esp if I could see the mini van!

I let the Amazon man in for a pee once. He was very grateful.

You'd be welcome to use the outside tap on the front of my house. I once had a man come and ask for a drink. I felt bad saying no but I've seen too many crime shows and I was home alone. Shops to buy a bottle of water - ten minutes walk away. His poor planning is not my problem.

Glad it wasn’t my door you knocked on, how cheeky!