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A son is a son until he finds a wife, a daughter is a daughter for life

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Eminemmilkshake · 10/04/2024 19:20

AIBU to find this comment offensive, sexist and untrue?
Its something DH family say often, suggesting I have ‘taken’ him from them and that my son will be taken one day too. Apparently my DDs will never leave.
My eldest DD is a teen and spends a lot of time with her boyfriend. I rarely spent time at home as a teen and I eventually went NC with my parents for various reasons. I know plenty of men who spend more time with their parents than their sisters do. Outdated comments like this need to stop being spouted, have any of you been the focus of this statement?

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fieldsofbutterflies · 10/04/2024 19:34

It's absolute bullshit.

Screamingabdabz · 10/04/2024 19:31

It’s not meant to be an accurate statement of what happens in 100% of everyone’s lives - it’s an old saying that, like a lot of old sayings, has a nugget of truth.

I’m in my 50s and over the years I’ve found it to be ‘broadly’ true of many, many families who had sons and daughters. Even if you take the content here on MN as a rough rule of thumb, surely the level of MIL hatred, and favouring of DMs over MILs, tells you something?

ssd · 10/04/2024 19:28

Bloody hope not, i have boys..

Dentistlakes · 10/04/2024 19:28

It’s a load of crap. Children will stay close with their parents if they maintain a fair and respectful relationship. If not, they won’t bother to maintain much of a connection.

QueenOfHiraeth · 10/04/2024 19:27

Close relationships take consideration and effort on both sides so not determined solely by sex. Maybe males are likely to make less effort but that's not always the case

OffToBedforshire · 10/04/2024 19:26

Sexist bullshit

Tatas · 10/04/2024 19:25

It's something said by people who raise sons who don't know how to manage their own lives / relationships themselves to maintain a proper relationship with their family in my experience 🤷🏻‍♀️

YouwouldthinkIhavemoresense · 10/04/2024 19:22

It is bullshit. Both boys and girls can have good or bad relationships with their parents .
We are all different and no two families are the same.

Ignore. It’s tripe.

Polly345 · 10/04/2024 19:22

Definitely, my MIL often quoted this. She made no secret of the fact she thought i had taken her boy!

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