Teenager at cinema

I was at the school performance of a classic musical . All dark in the seats....Lady next to me started reading on her phone using her kindle app About 10 mins into the I politely asked her to read elsewhere as the light was really distracting. She apologised but really....reading during a show? The mind boggles! Was a fabulous performance too from the kids..

The adults are the ones wrong in this scenario. OP for even considering she was wrong in the first place and her dad for trying to stop her

So you didn't mute the buzzes?

am I the only person who switches off the phone or puts it in airplane mode? And silences it?!

Good for her. I took a coupe of my grandsons to the pics over Easter and a woman next to us was constantly on her phone. Really annoying and distracting

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I think she was a pain in the hole. I don’t love people looking at phones in cinema but would not pull anyone up for a quick glance. There’s many reasons someone might need to check a phone very quickly. I’d be pretty tolerant of a quick check. I also think a child chastising an adult is not a good sign regarding the type of person she is and will be.

She's not the one that has 'more front than Brighton'. She's 100% in the right.

You are the CF. The fact that you are a 'grown adult' doesn't change that.

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I'm not going to continue with another update, I think I can see where it's going.

I love her. You absolutely sound like you think she shouldn't have said anything because she's not a "grown adult". You were out of order, not her. It's really irritating seeing multiple people "just quickly check their phones" throughout a film.

Good for her!

You weren’t adjusting your hearing aids though, you were just on your phone so your “whatabout”ing is a bit irritating to be honest. My mum has phone controlled hearing aids and she’s conscientious about making any adjustments needed during the trailers.

If it was a teenager getting their phone out and an adult asking them to put it away, I don't think this would even be a question. As you say, that's the rule. So she did nothing wrong, regardless of either of your ages. I think it's great that a teenager isn't being a pain in the cinema as I see most times I go.

Legend!

The usual rule is that you should not have your phone out during the film. It applies to all. I don't know if cinemas have any exceptions for people with hearing aids or diabetics who need to monitor their blood glucose. I presume they do have to, as long as people don't take the piss.

She had a point. The light from a phone screen is bright and distracting. If you had been using it to adjust your hearing aids then that's potentially different and could have been explained to her because so many things work via Bluetooth or an app now.

I wonder if she would have done that if her Dad was not with her. I would not want any teenager of mine to challenge an adult in those circumstances.

I think she’s going to grow up in to an adult who doesn’t tolerate any crap and hope my DDs do too. Children should feel able to complain no matter who is doing the twatty behaviour. Perhaps it was a quick glance and I would have tolerated it too, but I also think it’s great that she felt able to speak out.

I get it, OP. It's a bit humiliating to be told off by a 12 yo. Even more so when you realise that you don't have a leg to stand on because she is completely in the right!

The days of children being seen and not heard are long since gone, thankfully, and honestly, I admire her assertiveness. It is annoying when people use their phones in the cinema, and they shouldn't do it because it spoils the experience for other paying customers.

I reckon you'll think twice about whipping your phone out next time. Good on that girl, I say!

I'm not sure why you think she's possibly in the wrong, OP. Phones aren't allowed in cinema screens for a reason. You can sort your hearing aid out during the 30mins of trailers and adverts.
I'm pleased it was a teen girls telling someone to stop rather than being the one on her phone. There is hope for our phone addicted younger generation!

YABU. Good for her for asking you to put your phone away. You're the adult and should know better.

I hate it when people have their phones out during a film. Surely you would have felt the phone vibrate if the call came through. I have a watch that will display the caller or texter without me even needing to look at the phone unless I want to take the call.

My son would have done the same thing. The rules also apply to grown ups.

Good on her. People checking phones in cinemas are dicks.

Rustling packets are acceptable in cinemas. Annoying but acceptable. Bright lights from phones are not

Precocious. I’d be cross if my DD did this. Different if you were on it for ages.

It was muted. The buzzes were the phone ringing but I’d muted it so it was quietly vibrating in my bag - no one else would’ve heard it. It was my DH calling me to get to the hospital quick. I didn’t know until I read the texts after the film.