Teenager at cinema

Lol, it's called disagreeing with a viewpoint.
Hardly a pile on!

A pile-on is when the first couple of posters take a hard stand against the OP and the vast majority of subsequent posters echo this (often using the very same phrases - have a look back through and you’ll see! It’s pathetic.)

Quite different from a reasoned disagreement.

Anyway, do carry on.

Some of you are what makes our jobs so hard.

Granted its the theatre in that case but its the same principle. A dark room and a glow.

"I'm just checking if I've missed a call" often becomes "I'm just checking every social media etc"

Some shows have a complete "Do not get your phone out at all" and people get so aggressive about being told to put their phone away

Also, as you'd moved seat you probably had annoyed her. When we book the seats at the cinema we deliberately book ones with no one else around them, at the time. Someone moving in front of us deliberately in an empty cinema would annoy me. Even more so if they then got their phone out.

You used the phrase losing the plot but you're the one looking for middle ground? I think people ought to behave in a certain way in a public space. I disagree with your premise that phones in cinemas are not distracting. I do wonder what has happened to make people think that their desire to check their phones (or any other behaviour which disturbs others) in a setting like the cinema is more important than the people around them.

I'm quite capable of thinking these things while retaining full control of my emotions. I can even think about other things at the same time!

Pile on
Outrage

Lol, it's called disagreeing with a viewpoint.
Hardly a pile on!
If you don't want to hear that yes it is unreasonable and here's why, maybe asking whether you are or not isn't the greatest thing to do

I disagree. Phone light in a cinema is distracting.

Mostly people try to ignore it, because we are brought up not to rock the boat. It's about time people started telling others to put their phone away.

Cinemas don't tell people to switch off their phones for no reason.

But you can continue trying to argue that it wasn't distracting if you like.

Well, no. I’m just engaging with this comment because I don’t like nonsense:

The fact that she noticed it at all means it distracted her.

Noticing something does not equal being distracted by it. That’s all 🤷‍♀️

For all we know, the girl could have been bored to death by the film and looking for any sort of distraction. She could be a right pain in the arse who delights in picking hole in other people’s behaviour. She’d be right at home on here tbh!

I just find pile-ons pathetic so am looking for the middle ground. But you carry on with your moral outrage.

Coughs, fine.
"Split second" 🙄 look in a bag, not.

If you are noticing the colours of jumpers when the room is dark and the film is on, then I would suggest you are very easily distracted.

Jeez. There is other sensory information present in the cinema. Most people can cope with a cough or a split second glance into a bag. Or do you have to go into some sort of sensory deprivation booth before you can engage with a film?

Christ, you're reaching now lol 😂
Yes , yes the colour of someone's jumper is a fantastic equivalent to someone's phone lighting up 🙄🤣

Logic fail. If I’m in the cinema I might notice that the person in front of me is wearing a blue jumper. Doesn’t mean it’s distracted me.

I do find it slightly hard to believe that someone in front of you briefly looking at a tiny lit screen distracts you from the massive noise and light of the cinema screen

Why is it so hard for you to understand? The light of someone farting about with their phone in front of you /to the side of you or wherever is nothing to do with the cinema or the cinema lights, and is distracting.

If she wasn't distracted by it, how else would she have known that op checked her phone?

The fact that she noticed it at all means it distracted her.

Maybe. Maybe not. Sounds like the girl was being a bit of a busybody. I do find it slightly hard to believe that someone in front of you briefly looking at a tiny lit screen distracts you from the massive noise and light of the cinema screen; it’s not as if there aren’t worse things going on - people coughing, toddlers wriggling, people coming and going to the toilet. The only difference is that there’s a rule about phones that there can’t be about the other things.

The OP wouldn’t have disturbed anyone. We all know this

Well she clearly did , to have someone pull her up on it!

The op clearly disturbed at least one person.

😂

It was this that prompted my inane response really:

What is wrong with you all?

Makes you sound like you’re losing the plot.

The OP wouldn’t have disturbed anyone. We all know this. But everyone loves to give OPs a good bollocking, and this one was a gift real because technically she was wrong!! The pure joy of all the keyboard warriors is palpable 😂

Some people seem to think that the phone wasn't distracting - which it clearly was - if it wasn't, nobody would have said anything at all.

I'm not sure it's us that hasn't read the op properly! A drip feed of it being in a bag changes nothing.

I don’t at all object to people saying YABU or YANBU as that is the point of AIBU as some of you have pointed out in no uncertain terms in some cases 🤣🤣- but some PPs have not read the post properly and have then commented erroneously and to me that lack of comprehension is more annoying to me than glancing at one’s phone. 🤭And I say this as a person who always puts my phone on flight mode when in theatre/ cinema etc…

@BernardBlacksBreakfastWine why such an inane response? I'm not losing sleep over people who can't be separated from their phones for a couple of hours, I'm expressing annoyance when they disrupt something I'm trying to watch.

It's not hard. If you are in the cinema switch your fucking phone off. If you are expecting a terribly important call, don't go to the cinema.

You were wrong, she was right.

Chill!

In real life everyone does not check their phone during the film. It's fucking annoying. Why are people at the cinema if they can't cope without checking their phones all the time? It's a couple of hours.

Honestly, public behaviour does my head in sometimes. Last time I went to the theatre people were checking their phones and a group of women were talking through the show. What is wrong with you all? Why do you think you are exempt from social norms around this kind of thing?

Well done that girl. Yabu

I imagine she expected a mix of responses 🤷‍♀️What’s happened is classic AIBU - the first few posters set the tone, and the mob mentality kicks in.

Also classic: I don't agree, so everyone else is a bully/a baying mob.