Guy lied about which university he went to

This exactly.

he could turn out to be a massive liar or you got him in a day when he was feeling a bit down on himself

it’s something to note but enough on its own to make a decision

He's spoken about uni. I just didn't know ( or care) the name of it. No to uni friends. There was one guy he was close to but he is dead. Maybe your OH is younger and that makes a difference. When you left uni 45 years ago maybe these things not so important. And when he did go ( I didn't) he was unusual. Most kids didn't. It's not like nothing when the world and his wife are all at uni

I think this is a head-screwed-on assessment: it could be either. One is harmless enough in its own way; the other is a massive red flag. You might need to proceed cautiously to find out - though it sounds to me as though yours not too into him anyway.

Same here! My husband went to university in a different country, but I know the schools he went to, his friends names, I even know the name of the kindergarten he attended! Doesn’t your husband ever reminisce about his past? No friends from his university days? All sounds very odd to me…

I agree, I think you should bring it up to him tbh. If he’s telling the truth he can clarify things, if he isn’t - see how he reacts when a lie is challenged. Don’t ignore this but ignore the posters who are being deliberately obtuse and banging on about you caring what uni this person went to. This is clearly about the issue of lying.

I went to a red brick/Russell group type uni for undergrad and a newer uni for my masters too. I don’t care what uni someone went to but I would rightly care about someone showing a tendency to tell frivolous lies.

A little lie like this right at the start of seeing someone would not bother me too much.

He was trying to impress you and worried you might judge him. Of course he shouldn't, but I can understand it. He did go to uni in that town, it's not like he's lying about his entire life/ background.

I would give him the benefit of the doubt for now if you otherwise like him. It will soon become clear in other ways if it's a big personality flaw.

And he is probably a pedo too.

So if he was lying, he wouldn’t have mentioned the specific campus, knowing that you know the city, surely? He’d have pretended he was somewhere attached to the other uni. If you were discussing, say, Bristol, and he said “Oh, I went to uni there”, that would be correct whether it was Bristol Uni or UWE. They’re both universities.

If I’m honest you’re both throwing a few red flags.

Him if he wasn’t being truthful and you for looking it up… honestly that’s a bit creepy if you ask me.

You can’t be 100% sure right now that he’s definitely lying, if it was 5 years ago the campus could have closed but it seems pretty likely he is lying.

I would want to find out for sure. Does he have Facebook/ Instagram? Any friends on there from uni with photos or photos from graduation etc.

If he’s lying I don’t think you should give him the benefit of the doubt. If he lies over something as small and irrelevant as this then what else will he lie about?

Guys who lie to try to manipulate your impression of them are gross.

It has made me lose respect in that they lie so much about everything my now default is to believe nothing they say anymore.

He's definitely insecure, maybe pay attention to see if he's lying about more stuff.
If he's just ashamed and lied because he's insecure I wouldn't really mind, definitely he's not perfect, but nobody's perfect, right?

Just ask him if it bothers you that much! I had a work colleague in London once who was tres posh, daddy was a bigwig in Shell, and she referenced her studies in Oxford. Turned out to be Oxford Brookes, not Oxford uni!

Love the fudge/judge concept! I’m pretty surprised, it being so many years since polys became unis, that there’s still such strong views agin’ them. The original concept of polys - as well as the innovative unis many became - should be something to be proud of. Agree that the guy probably thought he’d be judged. The most straightforward thing would be to just ask him to clarify which of the two he went to.

Who has said he's evil and terrible? I must have missed those posts...

He'd already stated the name of the Uni as eg. The University of Nottingham, so there would be no reason for OP to ask which uni and whether he meant Nottingham Trent.

It is odd for someone to pretend they went to a higher ranking uni than they did. I went to a very low ranking uni in London and it would be the equivalent of me saying I went to UCL or Imperial if someone who went to Anglia Ruskin said Uni of Cambridge or said Uni of Nottingham for Nottingham Trent. Different if he'd said I went to Uni IN Nottingham, which is fine.

Not sure he actually lied. You had the chance to ask him to clarify Uni & Campus which might have changed … oh well

YABU and a snob to say “poly” and look down on it because of that, and the amount of research you’ve put into looking into it is weird. Red flag. You not him.

I'd keep an open mind. Maybe it changed names? Maybe he's confused? Maybe he did cross credits?

My first degree was a three year one and I graduated from X university. However I did the first two years of it at Y university and cross credited it to finish. To add to that, that could sound like a lie because most universities now won't cross credit more than a year, but they did for me then. In a discussion I would tell you in the same breath that I graduated X university. I'd also tell you I'd attended Y university, which I did for two years, even though I didn't graduate from that one in the end. Tertiary education can be all sorts of constructions sometimes.

I'd keep an eye on it though. If you find it's less honest in other areas, then I'd have more concerns.

I'm sure all of you decrying that he is evil and terrible because of a potential white lie (which might not be a white lie based on OP's superficial stalking) have never told a lie ever!

Also, I'm sure if OP came here saying "I was talking to my new partner about university and mentioned where I'd been and that I stayed elsewhere. The next time we met he said he'd looked it up and I must be lying because the campus by where I was staying was for the old polytechnic not the university of city. Is this creepy? (Oh and I did go to University of City. I stayed in accommodation across town because it was cheaper/when I went the campus was part of UofC but was later sold to the old polytechnic)" then the partner would be called creepy, she'd be told to run, it was a red flag etc

So many red flags here. Run for the hills. Perhaps try and humiliate him in public first? You deserve so much better than this. Men are such vile creatures.

Are people missing where the OP said he left university 5 YEARS AGO.
This clearly has nothing to do with whether it was uni vs poly.
It's about him telling a lie and the OP being a bit (I hate to say it @Snoopy104 ) a bit stalker like.

Your friend is a dick, what on earth is he talking about?

Not about the ‘poly’, mate, it’s about the lie.

Are people not understanding that?