Guy lied about which university he went to

Same here. I wouldn't think anything beyond a quick 😏 in a work or work-related situation, but in a personal situation it's more of a meaningful deception. The ex went on to be deceptive about a great many things.

My degree might not be quite what it says on my CV! But I have always told partners and close friends - I'd expect them to care more about my integrity than my qualifications.

Isn’t it entirely possible that she doesn’t? Most people don’t know this stuff unless they have been involved in applications or have been there themselves.

I have a friend who seems to be doing this with their son, I wonder if it's the same city. The thing is- the son is completely transparent with people so all it has done is create awkwardness. We have wondered if she actually knows the difference.

I’d dump him for saying “Uni” instead of “University” to be honest!

Ha ha, this too!

Reminds me of this 😂

There you go! These days, anyone who doesn't look their potential new partner up online is the odd one, imo.

I was doing this when I was dating and I’m 34 and haven’t been single since 2012!

These people are in their twenties. Looking people up is the first thing you do once you've met them - on social media, LinkedIn, Google etc. I'm guessing you are a bit older?

Nah he is the liar.

My friend tells people they went to Oxford. Then they laugh, explaining they worked in a university there as domestic staff.

Well I hope he was good given St Edwards charges around £40k a year fees just for a day pupil!!!

(I'm afraid I only did my postgraduate studies at Oxford University... I wouldn't have quite got the grades to do my undergraduate degree there! 😅)

I also knew someone who was “tutoring at Oxford.”

Actually St Edward’s School Oxford but hey, he forgot the school bit🤷🏻‍♀️

I think some people get used to being a bit ambiguous about their uni by just saying the place name. Because plenty of people are still a bit snobby about it. But if he told you the campus he lived on (or the area) and its of the other uni, its not really like he's lied about it. If he had created an elaborate web of lies then yeah, not on. I'd ask him about it 'I looked up that campus. It's actually for xx. Is that where you went to uni?'

Remember Sion Jenkins who was arrested for killing his step daughter? He says he's innocent about that and was released from jail, but he's also known for lying on his CV to become a headmaster that he went to Gordonstoun boarding school, where royalty had been. His social worker wife didn't like it he tried to be a Tory MP. He fits my theory there are 2 kinds of Tories. The upper class ones in it to make sure all the power and money stay with them and their friends. Then there are the Hyacinth Bucket types like Ian Duncan Smith, who will do anything to be in with the Eton types and hang on to their shirt tails.

Some universities do amalgamate technically i got my nursing diploma from the university of Salford, but my nursing college only became part of of the University half way through the course, prior to that it was affiliated to the university college Salford which also became part of the University of Salford

This is one of the most outrageously twatty things anyone has ever said! Off the scale!

I think the premise of this thread is dubious! The op said he lied about which university he went to in a particular city she knows, but then went on to say that he correctly named the campus where he was, which is attached to the ‘lesser’ uni, which is how she feels she caught him out. My point in a previous post was - if he was going to lie about which one he went to, he would surely have mentioned a campus connected to the other one, rather than be completely open about where he was actually based? It sounds more like a misunderstanding to me, which has been blown out of all proportion.

@Ace56 is that really true - that 18 year olds would know that a university they are applying to used to be something called a "polytechnic" and what the difference was ?
Something that was changed over a decade before they were even born.
I am genuinely quite curious about that.

I went to Ruskin College Oxford back in the glory days when they offered an Adult Education Bursary. Every time I mention it I have to do the whole spiel:

it’s not that Oxford although they are affiliated…

Since there are 40 odd colleges I’m always afraid if I just say Ruskin College Oxford I’ll sound like a twat.

The lie would bother me. I don't like people who lie about things like this.

A girl I went to school with went round telling everyone she had got into Cambridge (late 1990s). What she actually meant was Homerton teacher training college (now actually a Cambridge University college since 2010!) and the entry requirements was grade C in Maths and English GCSE and passes at 3 A Levels.

She deliberately didn't mention the college or entry requirements as she wanted to people to think she was a Cambridge A grade student.

I didn't stay friends with her much after this but there were so many other little lies. It's not an attractive trait!

@bestmug I wouldn't judge somebody young too harshly for a lie like this. We all learn from the uncomfortable feeling we get afterwards not to do it repeatedly, but when you're young and insecure and there is competition for university places, jobs, opportunities at work, promotion, love it can be a bit confusing and forgivable in your 20s, the energy I emitted was "love me, like me, hire me" and it came from a place of fear that the simpler energy of "make space for me, or I'll move on" wasn't going to be enough (and sometimes it isn't)

Well yes, obviously that makes sense if you didn’t go to uni yourself. But for everyone that did (including the OP), and has had to research where they want to go, apply etc, they will know. As I said, even the 18 year olds applying today!

When I got together with my (now) husband I told him that I had grade 8 piano, when the truth was that I occasionally banged my way through a grade 8 piece but was actually grade 5. Why did I do this? 😭 My excuse is that I was very young, and a random lie just popped out of my mouth (he doesn’t play an instrument at all so it’s not as if I felt I had to keep up). He still has a chuckle about it whenever the subject come up.

I think you should send him a link to this thread. This will enable him to decide if he wants to hang out with you, and will almost certainly save you the bother of deciding whether or not to dump him.

I wish him well.