Guy lied about which university he went to

If people ask me, I just tell them the name of the city. They can ask for further clarification if they are interested. I went to the RG uni of..., not the newer uni with a similar name. I'm not misleading them. I don't think he was either. If I ask someone (outside of a job interview), it's is more likely I'm interested in where they spent those years rather than the ranking of their uni. He was not being misleading as he clearly told you where his campus was located. He didn't fake anything.

@Geebray what I meant is do the younger generations really know what institutions used to be called.
I mean in education we used to have Elementary Schools, Mechanics Institutes and Central Schools.
Now they are known as Primary Schools, College and Secondary Schools.
Would your average 18 year old looking at university know that?

Some people know about the culture and history of their country. Amazing!

@DietrichandDiMaggio but if he only left 5 years ago and she is a similar age (ie mid 20s) I am still surprised she even uses/knows the word "polytechnic".
Another poster upthread said I would be wrong about that - but I really find it hard to believe.

Another one who had an exH who lied about which university he had gone to and later found out this was the first of many lies, both small and big. You are right to be wary OP.

Yes, we all know they haven't been polytechnics for years. As has been pointed out to numerous other people who have felt the need to say this, the OP used 'polys' as shorthand for post-1992 universities, to differentiate from the pre-1992 ancient/redbrick/plate-glass universities. Entry requirements continue, generally, to be higher for the latter group and they are therefore seen as more prestigious.

Jeffrey Archer did this. Oxford, when he meant Oxford Poly, I think. And look what a wrong 'un he turned out to be.

Run

My thoughts too.

Poly's do not exist anymore they were converted to new unis' many years ago traditional universities are called Red Brick universities.

Why are you talking about polytechnics? They haven’t been called out for a generation. You’re either very old or just weird.

OP I totally understand where you are coming from . Irrelevant what the lie was about it was a lie and there will be more. Huge 🚩for me . I can't stand blatant lies.

But she’s not saying he failed to use the old name for the university he attended, which did not have university status when he went there.

He is claiming that the university he attended was a different, more prestigious, one.

I understand Exactly where you’re coming from. It’s the lying that’s the red flag or the reasons behind the lying. Do you feel you could take the conversation further, maybe expressing your opinion about why you feel lying is unacceptable?

This is daft.

Lots of uni's change names or have more than one in the city.

For example, someone of a certain age might say they went to UCLAN when, in reality, it would have been called Preston Polytechnic or Lancashire Polytechnic.

I wouldn't care less.

It's more you fact-checking him as a red flag.

@SimSam he left 5 years ago apparently!
Wherever he went it can't have been a "poly" !

@SimSam "ask him directly was it a uni or poly when he graduated"

Well, unless he's over 50 it won't have been a poly, because the last of them got "university status" in the early 1990s.

You sound completely bonkers (sorry)
Just ask him! Or don’t….

Have you watched Baby Reindeer on Netflix yet? 😂😂

ask him directly was it a uni or poly when he graduated ?
explain you understand many institutions have changed over the years ….
if you can’t ask the question directly problem is with you red flag
if he can’t answer directly, then yes it’s a red flag for him

I would speak to him about it. Tell him you think he's lying. Just be honest.

I don't think he's lying as such, just a massive snob.
I can remember years and years ago I went along to a yoga class (of course) with my sister who was 10 years older than me. I must have been 12.
The teacher asked her where she read English and she said Manchester....did she shite, she went to Warrington College....I seem to recall her degree was presented at Manchester and she was just stretching the truth so far. Unfortuately you get families where a 'Jeffrey Archer' lie isn't really a lie it's called bettering yourself. I'd avoid if I was you.

I went on a date with a guy who said he'd be to LSE Some months later when I met his family, in passing, I mentioned about him being at LSE. They laughed and told me he'd never been to LSE but did a year at Kingston as he'd failed his A-Levels but they took him anyway! I was baffled and when we were on our own, I laughed and asked him why he lied and why he'd think I'd even care! It did send me red flags as I thought if he'd lie about that then he'd lie about anything.

He actually went very quiet and said "Yes, I did lie. I only did it to impress you as I know you went to ... "

I told him if it was going to last he needed to be honest about everything and he then admitted to 2 other minor porkies he'd told me to impress me.

I just roared with laughter and said it was him and his personality I liked, not his social status or qualifications or earnings. I also said, moving forward if he lied again we were done. I married this guy and we've be happily married for almost 20 years! You are not being unreasonable to see a red flag here but it's how he deals with it will be a deciding factor. If he owns it like my husband did and swallow his pride to say it was to impress you, it might lead to a really honest and satisfying relationship.

Does it really matter? It seems, from reading some of the comments, there might be room for confusion. What's he like? What's he doing now? Do you enjoy his company? Surely those are the important things. If he's insecure about the uni he went to, does that over rule his good points? No red flag for me just something to bear in mind.

Could it be that his course was validated by the University of …. But delivered within another uni? I’ve done this twice once it was Uni of …. but course was delivered about 80miles away, second time was a different uni of…. But course was delivered in a University College within the same city.