Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Guy lied about which university he went to

410 replies

Snoopy104 · 10/04/2024 17:30

We were talking about our backgrounds etc. And he told me he'd been to the 'uni of' of the town, which has a good rep.
I live pretty much next door to that uni so I asked him if he'd lived in halls close by.
He said no he'd lived in an area in the South of the city as his campus was based there.
The area he mentioned is a very nice, affluent neighbourhood and I had a look at the campus.
It turns out the 'uni of' doesn't have a campus there, it's the 'poly' that has a campus there.
I couldn't care less what uni he went to or even if he went to uni, I went to one of these so-called 'lesser' unis for my masters and I think in the grand scheme of things nobody really cares where you went, the right people wouldn't anyway.
However, the lying is a red flag for me. I get it was maybe to try and impress me or that he felt embarrassed, but the lying makes me uncomfortable. Would you say this is a red flag?

OP posts:
PlasticOno · 10/04/2024 17:37

Snoopy104 · 10/04/2024 17:36

It's just that he made a point of saying 'uni of' when the actual uni has a different name.

But you checked the area — so clearly you suspected he was lying?

Snoopy104 · 10/04/2024 17:37

He also specified his lectures were in this area in the south, I looked at the uni of doesn't have any lectures outside of the city centre

OP posts:
UncomfortablyBig882 · 10/04/2024 17:37

Yep red flag. Someone who lies about a small thing like that has serious self esteem issues and does not bode well for the future at all.

PlasticOno · 10/04/2024 17:37

I wouldn’t be impressed by someone lying about their university. How pathetic can you get?

Snoopy104 · 10/04/2024 17:36

It's just that he made a point of saying 'uni of' when the actual uni has a different name.

OP posts:
AutumnCrow · 10/04/2024 17:35

I think the OP means (eg) Leeds vs Leeds Metropolitan

TheYearOfSmallThings · 10/04/2024 17:35

I wouldn't assume he lied without further information. Universities have buildings all over the place, and lots of students stay in accommodation not owned by their university.

MyWhoHa · 10/04/2024 17:34

YANBU. If he lies about this, what else is he going to lie about?

Sapphire387 · 10/04/2024 17:34

'Polytechnics' were abolished over thirty years ago. What is the place called now? I wouldn't particularly say he is 'lying'.

Needmorelego · 10/04/2024 17:32

"Polys" don't exist anymore and haven't for decades.
My husband often says he went to "X University" - it was a Polytechnic in his day and had a different name but is now a university. But it's essentially the same place.

Swipe left for the next trending thread