Guy lied about which university he went to

Saying “the uni of” is a strange way of describing a uni, I would think from this sentence that they were trying to inflate their story.

Not in Manchester. Current students at both universities generally call the redbrick “uni of” and the one down the road either “Man Met” or “MMU”.

I would say he is someone with a chip on his shoulder and overly concerned with ‘status’. I couldn’t be with the someone like that and it’s likely a personality trait so where else in life may he be like this too?

OP I went to a uni of and had a guy tell me he also went to the uni of. Let me go on about our union, the area of the city etc and then told me via text weeks later that he didn't actually go to uni of and was embarrassed to admit the uni he went to.

I couldn't care less where you go to uni or even if you do! But the lying was it for me and I got the ick completely

I used to occasionally lie about having gone to university when I was younger, not to boast, rather, to avoid being excluded or relegated or othered by the crowd/person who was about to pigeon hole me. Obviously, I know now that I shouldn't have bothered, but at a certain age, young people want to make connections only with people like them. As I grew up, I realised that some people want you to help them judge you, rather than put on their critical thinking and assess you over time based on how they find you.

So I'd judge a young person less. If somebody in their 30s or older was still lying then I'd be wary.

I know lots of people who went to Plymouth uni but had all their lectures at the Marjon (aka the "poly") campus, it happens all the time. Especially these days with the pressure to offer a million courses but not have the funding.

Made me laugh out loud. 😂 I was thinking the same thing 😂

And if he was trying to lie then saying he had lectures at "the other campus" would be a bit of a give away if it wasn't

In which case he didn’t attent a polytechnic.

Saying 'uni of ...' is pretty standard in my experience of current students. It's just shorthand to distinguish from other unis that share the city name.

@Wolfpa Saying “the uni of” is a strange way of describing a uni, I would think from this sentence that they were trying to inflate their story.

But a lot of universities are literally called "University of Someplace"? I went to the University of Birmingham and always describe it with the definite article because it sounds weird not to.

Not that anyone is ever impressed, even though it was apparently in the top 7 universities back then: Poor Birmingham!

You say this but I’ve just finished a degree in Plymouth. My course and 2-3 others only were a Plymouth degree at the other cities Campus.

Did he specifically say he went to the Uni of X , or was it more like I went to Leeds Uni which could have been University of Leeds, or Leeds Metropoliton for example.

I don't see the reason to lie about it as there is no shame if he went to a met compared to a red brick, however maybe he's had other people make comments about it and he's trying to be vague about it. It does happen unfortunately that people look down on this sort of stuff, but a lie is a lie, and it depends if you can look past that.

That's really sad!

You checked up on his story?
That's a bigger red flag to me!

Nearby city has several universities. They all get called X University even though they have different names.

This hang up is a tedious one too. Coupled with the misnaming of the uni I wouldn’t bother going on another date.

From what you’ve described, I think that’s fine - saying “I was at uni in Bristol”. It’s totally different from the unambiguous and downright dishonest description OP’s acquaintance has said about his university.

It would be a pink flag for me for sure. I used to work with a girl who told me she went to Oxford (we were talking about my ex who went, so we were clearly talking about the Uni of). When I asked which college she matter of factly said ‘Brooks college’. I resisted the urge to laugh but it was fairly indicative of her personality when I got to know her better…

Ha, that is brilliant!

It would give me the ick. I have a friend who constantly fibs about things for convenience, or to make himself look better. I see him much less frequently now I have figured him out. No way would I go out with a person like that.

Agree red flag.

Especially as it's so common now for people to retrain and have portfolio careers

If he's got that "tells lies, not happy with who he is, overly concerned what people think about him" vibe it's hard to break out of!

If people have that superficial mindset then they tend to project that onto others too and socialise with similar so you'll end up "giving him a chance" and sucked into his weird world.

Hopefully he'll grow out of it (assume you guys are in your 20's) but you don't want to take the risk.

(I know a guy who put on his LinkedIn profile he went to

X training school, Cambridge

He had gone to the supermarket management training course for the job he did).

Liverpool isn't as prestigious as Oxford, Cambridge or Bristol anyway, so there is less implied deception IMO.

Saying “the uni of” is a strange way of describing a uni, I would think from this sentence that they were trying to inflate their story.

every embellishes things when first meeting someone. I wouldn’t say it’s a red flag.

it does however sound like you are looking for an excuse to get rid. You don’t owe him anything if you are not interested just stop seeing him.

Also the campus where I studied at university in 2nd/3rd year closed down and the site now redeveloped. All courses are now taught at the campus where I did my 1st year. Things change over time.

Look him up on LinkedIn.

Yes, Anglia Ruskin. I also knew someone who went there and claimed to have gone to the University of Cambridge.