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To eat cheese as a vegan?

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Sparksi · 10/04/2024 16:48

I’ve been vegan for 5 years. I’m 8 weeks pregnant and craving cheese triangles. There isn’t a vegan equivalent anywhere. Vegan cheese is not the same. I haven’t had any dairy for years and read somewhere you can develop a bit of an intolerance to it if you’ve not had it for a while - if this is true it would be silly to succumb to the craving if it’s only going to upset my stomach.

I do feel a bit icky if I think about the morals as to why I have been vegan for so long, and definitely wouldn’t be making any permanent changes. I am wondering if it’s my body telling me I need something, though!

WIBU to have it or should I find something else?

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ColourMeBlue · 10/04/2024 20:42

If you were not intolerant before,I would not you would be now.Listen to your body.Eat those cheese triangles,and most of all,enjoy 😊

CatamaranViper · 10/04/2024 20:42

I love that cravings are linked to deficiencies.
I must have had quite the prawn cocktail pringles deficiency.

bakewellbride · 10/04/2024 20:25

Op I would just like to say only do what feels right for YOU and don't give in to any external pressure like I did. I strongly disagree with eating meat but because society makes you believe you 'need' it be be healthy I remember forcing myself to eat it while sobbing my heart out for absolutely ages. I regret it so much and wish I had just stayed true to myself.

bakewellbride · 10/04/2024 20:21

@AmethystSparkles "OP I don’t believe you can build a baby without at least dairy. You just can’t get everything you need from a vegan diet."

I would never 'flame' anyone but just politely point out I have seen several babies who came from vegan pregnancies and they are all completely healthy and thriving and also it states on the WHO website that veganism is completely ok for all life stages including pregnancy. And let's face it nothing really makes it into the WHO website unless it is pretty accurate!

Mumtobabyhavoc · 10/04/2024 20:11

It's likely healthier to eat what you are craving and not be restrictive while pregnant/breastfeeding.

MarriedMama23 · 10/04/2024 20:01

PuttingDownRoots · 10/04/2024 16:50

There is a theory that cravings are related to deficiencies. Calcium for you maybe? Fat?

Or indeed... you might really just fancy the cheese.

Makes me wonder about my pregnancy cravings. I really craved beer during my third pregnancy. I never drink it normally (and did not give into this craving I might add, but I did used to buy the odd bottle and smell it)

I used to joke it was because my DH is Belgian lol.

AmethystSparkles · 10/04/2024 19:57

I’ll be flamed for this but hey ho I don’t care because I never come back and look.

OP I don’t believe you can build a baby without at least dairy. You just can’t get everything you need from a vegan diet. Your baby needs the easily absorbable nutrients that unfortunately only come from animal products. He or she needs meat, fish, eggs and dairy because humans are omnivores. You can go back to being vegan after he or she is born.

OneBadKitty · 10/04/2024 19:57

I would eat the cheese! If you are craving cheese it's probably because your body needs it. However, cheese triangles are really processed and you'd proabably do better with a nice bit of cheddar.

Boxerdor · 10/04/2024 19:50

My mum is vegan and has been for 5 years but did have a moment of weakness when she saw the cake id made for my sisters birthday a couple of years ago. It was dairy free but not egg free. She just kind of lost all control and shoved the whole piece in her mouth which was hilarious! She’s not eaten egg since so it was just a blip. Have a cheesy triangle blip if you need one OP

oakleaffy · 10/04/2024 19:45

QuestionableMouse · 10/04/2024 17:08

The cheese is getting made regardless of it you eat it or not. You're not making things better by not eating it, and you won't be making things worse by eating it.

Have the cheese.

This....I had serious cheese cravings when pregnant @Sparksi - Cheddar cheese in particular.

Cattle have decent, if short lives generally, the beef cattle who are born to make the milk aren't crated like veal calves.

Probably the worst part is where Mother and calf are separated.

Floatinginatincan · 10/04/2024 19:40

Do you have a Joey in your life that can become vegan for the duration of the pregnancy to offset any potential cravings?

OnHerSolidFoundations · 10/04/2024 19:39

gemsgv · 10/04/2024 16:54

I'm tee-total but with (not so) occasional bottle of wine

Oh yes me too!

OnHerSolidFoundations · 10/04/2024 19:38

Omg eat the blinking cheese!

Georgethecat1 · 10/04/2024 19:38

All I can think of is Friends, when Phoebe was pregnant and craved meat so joey gave up meat to equal out the meat consumption.

ilikecatsandponies · 10/04/2024 19:37

Honestly tasty, fauxmangerie and julienne Bruno all make genuinely nice vegan cheese if any of those might address your craving without making you sick?
It's hard when your body wants something so specific. Are you on a calcium supplement? Congratulations and I wish you a healthy happy pregnancy x

Edgeofthesea · 10/04/2024 19:33

I was vegan for 5 years, through a pregnancy and 2 years of breastfeeding, and then vegetarian through another pregnancy. Both times, I had non vegan cravings that I didn't give into (salmon and eggs first time, roast chicken the second). I tried all the alternatives and they repulsed me! I'm now pregnant for a 3rd time and I've learnt that my body knows best and I eat all my cravings, and feel much better for it. Unfortunately a lot of veggie/vegan alternatives just don't have the same nutritional profile or trace elements, and your body will know the difference! I've been where you are and really resisted, but it did me a huge disservice in the long term and I feel like it's only recently that my body is re-balancing. Some people thrive on a vegan diet, and some people unfortunately don't. I'm glad I tried it for as long as I did, but being a fertile woman and growing & nourishing babies is hard work and we need all the support we can get physically. Trust your body, enjoy the food, don't beat yourself up, and I think you'll find that when you've got what you need from the cheese, you won't crave it any more. Best of luck with the rest of your pregnancy!

MenoBabe · 10/04/2024 19:29

As a vegetarian but not vegan for 35 years. I would eat cheese while having pregnancy cravings, then revert to veganism after birth. I would say the same if you craved meat. We are omnivores, that's just a fact.

flyinghen · 10/04/2024 19:29

I was vegan for about a year before getting pregnant. The only thing I could stomach my entire pregnancy was watermelon, mango and Big Macs. I'm no longer vegan, or even vegetarian anymore, not saying it's okay necessarily but I understand the cravings and gave in and I don't regret it at all.

yogagivesmepeace · 10/04/2024 19:27

There's a Laughing Cow vegan cheese triangle.

PoppyCherryDog · 10/04/2024 19:26

I was vegan 6 years then fell pregnant and started eating dairy as was worried she could get a dairy intolerance and didn’t want her to be put off dairy because she was an intolerance. I was absolutely fine eating cheese again. Baby is here now and I’m back being vegan.

Devilsmommy · 10/04/2024 19:23

PrincessFionaCharming · 10/04/2024 17:49

Goodness, who knew vegans were so obsessed with labels. “Eat what you like but I don’t you DARE call yourself a vegan” 🚨

🤭🤭🤭🤭

Hankunamatata · 10/04/2024 19:22

I was dairy free for a few years. Cheese was actually OK when I tried dairy again unlike milk

Devilsmommy · 10/04/2024 19:20

CasperGutman · 10/04/2024 17:10

YANBU to eat cheese. It's the food of the gods! YABU to call yourself vegan if you do, though. Call yourself a vegetarian, or call yourself a fallible lapsed vegan who eats cheese.

Also, YABU to limit yourself to triangles (presumably, Dairylea or something like that?). If you're going to fall, fall hard and have some proper cheese!

100% this😁

SpiritOfEcstasy · 10/04/2024 19:16

I hadn’t had any dairy or gluten for years before being pregnant with DD1. Not strictly vegan, just a healthy eater. My DM was nagging at me to eat more protein… and food in general, so she made me a cheese sandwich one day 😂 OP you may never go back is all I can say! I can still remember how good that tasted sixteen years on! I think when we’re pregnant it’s okay to listen to our bodies and eat what we like …

Dancingontheedge · 10/04/2024 19:15

Call yourself a vegetarian, or call yourself a fallible lapsed vegan who eats cheese.

Or do what I did and blame the baby. Or you could eat stealth cheese and not tell any intolerant, pedantic arses who haven’t got a clue. As I said, whatever makes you happy.