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Visiting your adult children

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worriedMiL33 · 10/04/2024 13:20

We usually visit for a weekend every few months.

However, husband has suggested that, as an alternative, we should visit for a few days during the week.

His reasoning is we could see them at breakfast, then go out for the day and then come back, have dinner and spend the evening with them.

I immediately said it's not a good idea as they work full time and it would be much more inconvenient for them and probably wouldn't want their parents rocking up after a full work day.

They both work hard in fairly stressful jobs and their downtime is usually on the weekend,

He's irritated cos he thinks I didn't give it enough thought, to me though, it's a no-brainer.

To my mind IANBU but am I missing something?

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ZippyZappyZoo · 10/04/2024 13:48

Ask them.

my in laws usually visit mid week and they recently stayed for a weekend instead. It was absolute hell. Much prefer mid week when we can all have a break from eachother!

BreakfastAtMimis · 10/04/2024 13:47

It wouldn't work for me. I work from home and have found it quite distracting and inconvenient to have my parents stay on work days. So much so I've stopped agreeing to it, it's weekends or nothing.

AGodawfulsmallaffair · 10/04/2024 13:46

Having to be compus mentus before work would drive me nuts, never mind the evening as well ! That’s what weekends are for.

MereDintofPandiculation · 10/04/2024 13:44

You both seem to have missed the step that says "find out from them what they prefer". Though what he suggests does sound like he wants to use them as a free hotel. (And let's face it - socialising over breakfast isn't going to happen)

Summerholpls · 10/04/2024 13:43

No that wouldn't be desirable at all for us, with young dc. Weekdays are for busy family life, work, pick ups, clubs, cooking, chores and grabbing any downtime we can before an early bed. Weekends are for socialising.

PiffleWiffleWoozle · 10/04/2024 13:20

Ask them?

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