DD angry at mature student for inappropriate email

And so what if it was?

And no-one ever exaggerates on the internet so it must be true.

Well the OP has updated and said that she has seen the email and that it was flirty and I suppose I should have said that the mature student isn’t wholly in the right either.

What a lot of drama over nothing.

Nobody has said the mature student is on any kind of horse.

Nor is their any evidence whatsoever that the email was flirty or inappropriate.

Did you go to university? Because both you and your daughter seem to think it’s the same as school. There is no way the lecturer asked her to send that email.

What a lot of bitchy responses on this thread , really mumsnet at its worst . There is no suggestion that the dd started this but she was being whipped up by the what’s app messages ( frankly a lot of much older school mums do this every day) . Sensibly she obtained the view of an older person ( her mother ) and also let her overactive and impulsive teenage brain settle over night by which time she realised her over reaction.

Frankly the ‘mature student ‘ is clearly not very mature at all if she was sending flirty inappropriate emails to her tutor and worse copying them to all so I hardly think they can get on their high horse either .

Still not her business. This says a lot about your daughter. Why would she want to make an awkward situation worse?

Apologising for the tone?
Behave yourself @KeepCalmPlease

The email said "oops sorry everyone, I accidentally sent to all yesterday"
Not "sorry I shouldn't have bragged about my immense (and mature) brain that's so big I have to wheel it round on a trolley and do my assignments even before they've been set I'm so clever and btw I shouldn't have said I fancied Ms. Lecturer in the email either".

Did it now?

Goodness gracious me. I was late to the party on this one. So relieved to see the update that DD is satisfied with the outcome of the situation.
I wouldn't have been able to sleep otherwise.

Thank fuck the princess is satisfied. Whatever would we do?

Am I the only one

a) wishing the DD had actually made a complaint, and got her arse handed to her on a plate

No, you're definitely not the only one!😂

I'd remind your DD that one day she might be in a position where she accidently writes an email and ccs it to people she shouldn't. Most people have done something along these lines. Ask her how she thinks she would like to be judged in a similar situation.

My old boss gave me a pearl of wisdom once, never write down anything you aren't prepared for the whole world to see. It's stood me in good stead during my career.

Dreaming spires, huh? Oxford's standards of maturity in their accepted candidates must have slipped.

And they wonder why people don't want to go into teaching! 😆

If the email was really bad, the lecturer may have addressed the tone with the student. I work in a business school and we expect our students to communicate with us in a professional way. I have told students that the tone of their emails is inappropriate, and wanted to do so countless other times.

If the email was obviously flirty, the lecturer may have wanted any gossip stamped on for their own sake.

This.

The DD sounds very entitled but thank God she is "satisfied".

Agree.

Mature student has probably had a lot of "Is this for me?" e-mails, and thought "Oh. bollox! I know what this lot are like - They don't like anyone being pally with the tutors . Better pour a drop of oil on troubled waters"

I think she needs to calm down and gain a sense of proportion here. Unless the email's content is clearly inappropriate and from the tutor meant to go to only a particular student, then what is going to be done about it? OK, someone might have a quiet word with the student who sent it, but it's probably best your daughter lets it go.

I don't have mature students on my programme, but I do of course become friendly with some students over the course of their studies. I wouldn't take it any further than friendly chat in class until they graduated as a closer friendship than that doesn't feel appropriate. It's not a pupil/teacher relationship, but it's not colleagues either.

I'm so incredibly glad to be out of teaching.

😂😂
Nope. The lecturer won't have asked her to do this. They aren't the students boss!!

IF such an email has been sent it probably because either the student in question is self aware enough as to how her email may have been perceived or someone has given her the heads up that she's being slagged off by the other students.

PHEW!! Dds in her righteous heaven, alls right with the world.
Now remind her that really she still does need to chastise the mature student... (as she is self appointed leader)
A few months of the WhatsApp cool kids shunning them they'll know their place...

Am I the only one

a) wishing the DD had actually made a complaint, and got her arse handed to her on a plate garnished with parsley, and possibly with a sprinkling of croutons?

or
b) wondering if the frenetic "whatsapping" has cause umpteen idiots to actually make a complaint (while the DD, having kicked off the furore has stood back and watched the ensuing carnage) and they have all been laughed out of court, but the mature student has learned a vital life lesson about the "reply all" button and has sent a "calmyourtits" e-mail to reduce the wrath o' the student body?