DD angry at mature student for inappropriate email

OP, are you sure the others aren't just egging your DD on so they can make her a laughingstock? Unfortunately it seems like that might be the case.

Bullying does exist at uni and I feel you're helping your DD be the subject of mockery instead of helping her realise what's going on.

The DD seems to see herself as some kind of overseer in all of this. So she’s satisfied, er ok so now she’s ‘spoken’ that’s the end of the (non) matter.

There is a boundary when one is teaching the other . In most British universities a lecturer is not allowed to date their UG student until after the teaching relationship has been dissolved

Daughter and mother alike need to get a grip.

Your DD is young so seeing this as more a teacher/pupil relationship, rather than two adults.
But it is good to teach her not to meddle in things that have nothing to do with her unless there is a safeguarding or health and safety issue involved. We all know that employee who reports other employees who spend ten minutes too long on their break or bunks of early. They are always hated. Encourage her not to be like that. Tell her the lecturer will deal with any issue themselves, but that they will do it privately as it is nothing to do with her. It is an important lesson to learn.

Another academic who agrees with this.

Possibly the student is trying to curry favour. If so they have badly embarrassed themselves. In any case it should be no business of the other students, and every academic knows how to deal with this privately.

I can’t even wrap my head around why she gave it more thought than the time it took to read the email. One of the mature aged students in my postgrad cohort was sleeping with the lecturer. None of our group cared at all, we weren’t wanting to fight her for him!

Thank God for that 😒! I hate to think what can happen when dd is not satisfied.

This is quite a scary message to the OP.

Well it’s not really her business whether the email was sent to everybody or not. Exactly what does she gain from reporting it? Have either of them actually done anything wrong? Does the teacher treat her differently? Honestly I’d be having a serious word if this was my daughter and to tell her to grow up.

Honestly OP your DD is ‘satisfied’!

None of her business, if you teach her to keep her nose out of people's business (unless this is a serious threat to health/life) she would do well in life.

I think I'd be asking my DD why she was so upset about it, and what she hoped to achieve by the complaint. You never know, there could be some backstory of inappropriate conduct or favouritism behind it. I'd also be pointing out to her the appropriate response to receiving an email sent in error and clearly not meant for you, as she will need to learn this before moving into any professional circles.

In what way way? I’m struggling to understand how it’s flirty? And even if it is does it matter, work is marked anonymously and ratified at the end from the independent exam board. So it’ll make no difference. Does DD have her own small crush going on? Remind her to not team up against said mature student with the rest of the cohort. Bullying accusations will stick faster than the flirt ones.

Not deliberately though. Which is a pretty crucial difference.

whilst the younger ones, who are often more competent, don't have the personal skills yet to pull a sly one.

'Often more competent'? In what way and on what evidence?

Your post is full of random generalisations with no proof to back up any of it. I might just as well say that younger ones come to university from school extremely competent at blaming others for their own failings and for putting forward reasons why they should have special consideration for missing deadlines, etc.

There’s a couple of likely reasons for this, the most important one being that mature students generally really, really want to be there. They’ve worked their socks off to get in and they work their socks off while they’re there, they’re taking a hit financially, not just in terms of fees and living costs, but also because of the lost income they’d have had if they’d be working, and they understand the system better.

At 18 I knew nothing about working abroad, joining clubs and societies, networking, getting extra credentials, sourcing a good placement, etc. I was too busy having a good time going out and going to class. I thought uni was 12 hours a week because that was the contact time - when that’s just a small part of the work. If I went back now it would be because I was desperate to do it and for the career at the end. I’d be all over placements, at guest lectures, networking events, etc. because I get that it’s important. I work in a business school in a RG university. Everyone has the opportunity to take part in lots of events, but it’s mostly the mature UG and PG students who attend, and that’s simply because they’re thrilled to be there, they want to get the most of it and soak up every minute, and they want to get their money’s worth - and good luck to them, I say. That’s not a ‘leg up’, that’s recognition that they have put the work in and demonstrated their ability and potential.

NarwhalsJustDontLetEmTouchYourBalls · Today 12:54

Personally I don't agree with mature students taking Uni places from 18 year olds. There are plenty of other ways to study when you are older.

You what? Exactly when did university become solely the province of 18 year olds - don't be ridiculous. It has never been, nor should it be. And if some of the 18 year olds behave in such an immature fashion as the example on here, then it's a good job. Perhaps schools should spend a bit more time explaining to the little darlings that (a) University isn't the school playground and (b) that they should try developing some maturity before they get there.

I do hope you’ve addressed with your daughter her gross attitude.

yEven if you went to uni now, oyu would not be a 'mature' student 😂

I hope you haven't emailed that picture to anyone - it could cause offence, doncha know! 😂

Because "the boss" is now prepared to let things drop, I celebrated modestly....with a coffee and a rich tea biscuit (but I secretly covet your chocolate twist).

You think only older people who can afford to pay privately should have access to Higher Education? Despite a record fall in University applications and a skill shortage in our economy.

What on earth did you study?

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