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DD angry at mature student for inappropriate email

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KeepCalmPlease · 09/04/2024 23:11

NC just in case.
Daughter is angry this eve as a mature student on her course has mistakenly replied all to the class, instead of just her lecturer. In the email, apparently they brag about finishing their assigned work early, and then flirt about a shared hobby with lecturer. Daughter wants to bring this up formally with the institution along with other friends of hers. I haven't seen the email so I'm not sure what "flirting" is but I suspect the mature student, being older, just shares a hobby with lecturer (and likes being teachers pet).
My advice to her is just ignore the mistake, keep your head down and make sure your own work is done. AIBU?

I'm not sure why DD is so exasperated by this. I'm sure many emails fly about all day in academia.

OP posts:
Catsmere · 09/04/2024 23:19

The mature-age student has made a complete arse of himself or herself in front of everyone. DD should just smirk, like everyone else probably is!

RytonTarget · 09/04/2024 23:19

None of her business. If the mature student and the lecturer are of a similar age and share hobby then no surprise that they have a less formal and more friendly relationship.

misszebra · 09/04/2024 23:17

why is she bothered? I would find it funny if I was in her position! clearly she fancies one of the parties involved

Crazyclover · 09/04/2024 23:16

She will make herself look ridiculous and childish, she needs to move on

ButterflyKu · 09/04/2024 23:16

How does it impact her? Unless she thinks that the lecturer will be giving the student special treatment (and by that I mean giving extra marks) i’m not quite sure what she’d like to do. And even so, how do you prove a lecturer is giving someone extra marks? I’m sure most teachers/lecturers have a class favourite tbh!

neverknowinglyunreasonable · 09/04/2024 23:16

What would happen if she reported it? Let's just all chill out.

Jellycats4life · 09/04/2024 23:15

Bring it up formally? To what end?

The student has embarrassed themselves enough by sending the email to everyone and outing themselves as a show off and a kiss ass 😄 Punishment enough, surely?

Myyearmytime · 09/04/2024 23:14

She fancies one of them

ballsdeep · 09/04/2024 23:14

She needs to let it go. It doesn’t affect her at all so why is she stressing? Not her circus, not hee monkeys . Forget and move on. Although it does sound like your Dd may be a bit jealous of the flirting!!