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Is 2.5hrs+ of travel excessive expectation?

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ChildcareQ · 09/04/2024 22:57

GPs live ~40 mins away.

They occasionally help out with odd day here and there of school holiday childcare.

Usually travelling to the family home and looking after children in their own home (so approx 80 mins travelling).

One parent WFH and has expressed this situation does not work for them. It's too disruptive. They want GP to look after children in their home. This was raised day before childcare had been arranged for, no time to rearrange/make alternative arrangements.

At short notice other parent arranged to drop DC off at GP house in the morning before work. Not ideal as GP house is 40 mins in wrong direction for work. Will make parent "late" for work (not an issue, parent works flexi). GPs will bring children home at the end of the day.

WFH parent is now incredulous and thinks this is unreasonable. GPs should pick up children and drop them back - so over 2.5hrs of travelling.

Other GP with a similar arrangement will drop and collect, but they live 20 mins away. Is WFH parent unreasonable to expect the same of other GP who live further away?

Before anyone says it, other parent is now planning to use holiday clubs in future for the odd days that GPs would usually help out. Not worth the hassle (although children will miss out on GP time and be sad as they would prefer to be looked after by GP).

Other parent does not think WFH parent is being unreasonable to find WFH with children and GP in home difficult. However expecting GPs to provide childcare, plus travelling 2.5hrs seems unreasonable.

OP posts:
CheshireDing · 09/04/2024 23:03

What a lot of extra travelling for one days DC minding.

wouldn't it be cheaper to put them in holiday club ? They can be collected by whichever parent is free then in the afternoon too

LameBorzoi · 09/04/2024 23:02

WFH parent is super unreasonable.

bridgetreilly · 09/04/2024 23:02

WFH parent needs to find somewhere else to work, or put up with childcare happening at home while they are working. That amount of totally unnecessary travel is ridiculous.

OatFlatWhiteForMe · 09/04/2024 23:00

WFH parent sounds like a selfish individual at best.

KeinLiebeslied54321 · 09/04/2024 22:59

Not sure who you are in this scenario so cannot answer if YABU.