Have I lost my sense of humour or is this odd?

Wow I’m so glad this thread has helped you see how intrusive this is and you’re not being unreasonable. I’d be furious. I’d also be telling him I’m taking an undetermined amount of time off tidying since it seemed to be the only thing stopping him from showing his colleagues live footage of you. He has so much time at work, he can come home earlier and tidy.

He’s bloody weird.

Massive massive violation with the camera. Absolutely not okay and nothing to do with a sense of humour. He's gaslighting and deflecting.

I wonder why he told you about the camera thing at all. How could he have imagined it was amusing? Very odd guy you have there!

Also I’d be tempted to turn the tables on him and strategically position some notes about his embarrassing personal habits in view of the camera, or something saying “get back to work and stop spying on me you weirdo”. If he complains about his colleagues seeing them, you can accuse him of having no sense of humour.

He sounds like the kind of man who would bully people then say “it’s just banter”. To me it’s always a red flag when somebody doesn’t care if their behaviour is upsetting people. And that’s coming from somebody with a dark sense of humour who has a tendency to laugh when it’s inappropriate and see the funny side in most situations. But I know the difference between banter and bullying and it sounds like he is gaslighting you.

I don’t actually think it’s that’s weird if I’m honest. Not sure I’d be that angry!

Is he trying to get you to leave him?
Something's up anyway

I agree with other folks responses. Why is he watching you from work?
Why is he bringing up past grievances and arguments.
Why is he saying that you are the one with issues.
Mmmmmm! Could it be that he's up to something so looking to make you the problem. Get rid of the camera and I hate to say it but be aware. There may be something else here.

These are Red flags, which is why you are feeling it and posting it on here.
completely unacceptable to be showing anyone the footage of you sleeping! It’s even more concerning he doesn’t understand why that would upset you. Then gaslighting you into having the reaction you did. Making it your problem 🤔.
And sorting himself out while on a family day out.
This isn’t sounding very healthy. Think carefully here. And remove the camera!

On a slight tangent - We had a camera like this when we were trying to sell our house. My husband installed it and we used it for similar reasons to keep eye on kids etc. Husband watched an estate agent showing a couple round our house. The couple asked if they should take their shoes off - estate agent said don’t bother even though specifically asked to make sure people do when shown round upstairs floors, but also over heard him saying we were desperate to sell and would definitely take a lower offer!
Husband was livid, confronted estate agent and we refused to use them.
I ended up taking the camera down and ‘losing’ it after we moved so husband couldn’t check what we were up to as it’s just disconcerting to be watched in your own home (even by your husband) but I would be super mad if he showed his work colleagues.
Does sound like it’s sorted now, but I would defo move the camera 😃

He sounds like a huffy git. Likes to make you the joke (a really childish joke) but doesn't accept he crossed a boundary. Real mature, what a man baby

He sounds like a bell end I'd get rid now before he gets worse.

I equate the loss sense of humor comment with "I was just joking" by others despicable behavior.
The same with ignoring the family and going to obtain his own meal.

I don’t get why he was watching the camera. That’s a big weird.

One of the options I would investigate is if he's having an affair.

He's checking up on you.

a) Cheaters invariably suspect their partners of unfaithful behaviour
b) He's trying to attribute blame on you, in some way
c) If he cared, his response would be supportive "Are you exhausted? How can I help?"

He's also minimising you to one or more work colleagues.

a) I'd think he's trying to build a story of "Poor me. I'm so unhappy in my relationship. My wife's a lazy slob."
b) This excuses why I'm looking elsewhere.

He's pulling away.

a) Why did he go off and buy chips for himself and why didn't he go buy for everyone in the family?

For whatever reason your partner is not your biggest supporter at the moment. He's not being considerate. He's not looking to engage. He's attacking and criticising you.

If this is "your normal", good luck with that.

But I'd also look at if he's under considerable stress at work right now?
And whether he's resentful that he thinks you're not pulling your weight in the relaitonship right now?

But you can only find that out if you sit down and communicate properly. And ask him where he'd like you both to be in 12 months time.

Jokes are meant to be funny, none of your examples have any humour behind them...YANBU! and tbh I think your partner is messing with your mind, to make you doubt yourself, feel self concious/paranoid...might seem like a stretch after 2 examples, but maybe there are more?

I think you should check for any more cameras in the house.

He’s sounds a vile! He’s trying to make you feel in the wrong when clearly on both occasions that you have mentioned, he clearly
is. Get rid of the camera and maybe him too!

I would have went ballistic! What was he thinking, absolutely uncalled for violation. Chips thing, just selfish.

Agree. Not funny at all to invade your privacy like that.
Disagree thatbitvis "a bit selfish" of him to buy food forvhimself and a familybday out. That is a massive fuck-you gesture to you and your child. Hugely disrespectful, huge red flag that he went off a d did his own thing like that without a word.
Horrible man.

What an absolute twat. Cannot stand this type of vile behaviour when they turn round and say, it’s just a joke, where’s your sense of humour? It’s nasty, cruel and demeaning. Tell him so.

why is it funny to go and get chips for yourself i dont get it

the camera thing is just creepy

Creepy. Being "good with the children " doesn't make a good partner. Why go we excuse all the shit stiff men due as long as they are good with the kids.

Imagine if he’d been watching you with colleagues and you’d , in the “ privacy “ of your own home , maybe scratched you bum, or something like that ? I’d be furious !