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To think keep buying books when you haven’t read the ones you’ve got is odd

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Saymyname777 · 09/04/2024 22:18

Like having over 100 and keep buying how are you going to get through them

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KimberleyClark · 12/04/2024 13:57

Just back from lunch in a local coffee shop, prior to that visited two charity shops and bought some more books. 😊

Giggorata · 12/04/2024 13:52

No, if you're an avid reader, there are always books that you want to read, when you can. (Looking at my to read pile, 20+ books, plus a number on my Kindle)
I will read them, too. Unfortunately, I also have to cook, clean, go shopping and see people, all of which massively get in the way.

DistantSkye · 12/04/2024 13:44

The comments about not being a book person or "tell me you're not a reader" are next level patronising! There is a lot of judgement on this thread 🤣

I am also surprised by the number of people who have piles of unread books next to their beds for years/random boxes under beds/so much clutter that they forget what they actually have, but people can buy and store what they want in their house 🤷‍♀️

I have a selection of unread books on my shelves but I try not to impulse buy, and I don't like having excess amounts of stuff so I clear out unwanted things or books I've read fairly regularly.

mathanxiety · 11/04/2024 22:12

Momstermunch · 10/04/2024 07:40

Well I'm amazed this is so common. I am absolutely a book person, I read loads and always have a book on the go. I read one then buy another though unless I'm reading a series. Apart from anything else it's expensive to keep buying them! My daughter's a book worm too and I can't afford to buy us both 100s of books.

My mum is next level book worm and she doesn't buy books and not read them either. She always has two books on the go and has had to turn one room into a library (with books spilling out all over the rest of the house too) but she has genuinely read them all.

I'm a bit perplexed by the slightly patronising 'you don't like to read do you?' comments to the op from people who by their own admission are buying books but not reading them!!

It's only expensive if you buy new books.

The books I buy cost less than the average bar of chocolate here.

I recently bought a biography of Coco Chanel and one about the Boston gangster Whitey Bulger, costing $1 apiece, at a thrift shop. My local library does an annual book sale fundraiser where they sell books they're taking out of circulation and thousands of books donated by the public. Books cost $2 at most at the sale. I'd say most of my books come from there, and if anyone wants to buy me a book as a present, I tell them to look on Thriftbooks first.

SoapCollector · 11/04/2024 21:27

Stoptherideiwannagetoff · 10/04/2024 21:01

I don't buy them, I just re-home all the poor lonely books no one wants anymore for free and give them all a wonderful shelf to sit on until I get round to them... Which will be in about twenty years 😊Does that count?

Like a book sanctuary! 😁

Acapulco12 · 11/04/2024 21:20

Doctorbeach · 11/04/2024 20:34

How does this work, that when I post on these threads (which are often quite clickbaity) my Instagram feed becomes full of really specific reels about ‘you can never have too many unread books’ and similar ?

Maybe Mumsnet sells our data/post info? 😧 Not sure.

Doctorbeach · 11/04/2024 20:34

How does this work, that when I post on these threads (which are often quite clickbaity) my Instagram feed becomes full of really specific reels about ‘you can never have too many unread books’ and similar ?

alwayscrashinginthesamecar1 · 11/04/2024 03:16

Books are never a a waste of money.

ToxicChristmas · 10/04/2024 21:47

Catsmere · 10/04/2024 21:36

And "visit the local library" makes the assumption that a) you have one and b) if you do, they have anything you want to read. I tried the local library. Airport novels and assorted crap I would never enjoy.

Agree.
We had a great "local" library (as in 8 miles away) which has now been closed, along with lots more in the area. Our nearest now would be a 35 mile round trip. The closures have cut off a vital resource for children, elderly and lonely people, many who really looked forward to their visits and the social aspects/free events for children. Not everyone can afford to buy books, even second hand.
We set up a book station in the village bus stop which has done well but isn't the same. I donate books there all the time, hopefully people enjoy them.

Catsmere · 10/04/2024 21:36

SevenSeasOfRhye · 10/04/2024 16:52

Such a waste of money! Try visiting the local library ;-)

95% of my books come from charity shops, so not a waste of money at all - benefiting a good cause. If I don't think I'll want to read the book again, I donate it back to another charity shop.

And "visit the local library" makes the assumption that a) you have one and b) if you do, they have anything you want to read. I tried the local library. Airport novels and assorted crap I would never enjoy.

Stoptherideiwannagetoff · 10/04/2024 21:01

I don't buy them, I just re-home all the poor lonely books no one wants anymore for free and give them all a wonderful shelf to sit on until I get round to them... Which will be in about twenty years 😊Does that count?

SoapCollector · 10/04/2024 20:41

I don't think it's strange at all. I always like to have a few books on my "to read" pile, it's nice to have a choice. Also some of my book purchases are from charity shops so I tend to buy when I see something interesting as the good books don't always hang around for long!

BlueFairyBugsBooks · 10/04/2024 19:30

TwirlyWhirlie · 10/04/2024 10:30

I’m an awful for doing this. I’ve got about 10 to read. I even bought a duplicate by accident and ended up giving the second one to my MIL! I still haven’t read the original, which I bought about three years ago. It looks really good though 😂

I saw a book that I wanted to read in a National Trust 2nd hand book store just before Christmas. I didn't have cash for the honesty box, and there wasn't a manned till. So I didn't get it.

About a week later I pulled the sofa out to hoover and found a copy that I didn't know I had.

But. Worse than that. I then found another copy in a box in my bedroom. Grin

Youdontevengohere · 10/04/2024 18:09

Our library is open 9-3 Mon-Weds. I’m at work.

AddictedToBooks · 10/04/2024 18:08

I don't think it's odd - I love books and read every single day so often get through a book in around a week - if I see a book that interests me, I buy it because you can't always get the titles you want at a later date.
I buy books both second-hand and brand new and I also give a lot of my completed books away for free so that other people can enjoy them as not everyone is as fortunate as I am to be able to buy so many.
Having said that though, because I have a quick turnaround on my books, all of my books fit neatly on a large bookcase (I've not got 100, but I do have a lot) and any books that are special interest that I intend to keep, we've built a little reading nook and library in the space under the stairs, to keep those books.
I don't drink, smoke or even go out anymore due to disability, so books are my luxury.

Love51 · 10/04/2024 17:57

GBooArt · 10/04/2024 05:16

Such a waste of money! Try visiting the local library ;-)

The local library has a much more limited selection of books than my house.
I go there because I want to support it, every time we go the kids or I order something in, which may or may not finally arrive.
Occasionally we visit the big library in town, that's worth a visit. If you don't live in a city, a decent library isn't guaranteed nteed.
The kids tend to swap books with friends and cousins. I don't spend a fortune on books, mostly pick them up for 50p.

WeRateSquirrels · 10/04/2024 17:30

I agree with @Momstermunch on this:

The thought of a hundred books waiting to be read actually gives me the heebie jeebies. I'd feel pressured and like my love of reading had become a chore. If it brings others pleasure and they have the money and space for it then fair enough. I am amazed so many people want and are able to do this though.

I have one book and one audiobook on the go at a time. One library book waiting for when I finish current book. Nothing unread on my kindle. I keep a small 'want to read' list on Goodreads. I think I can trace this back to when a childhood friend made a remark about the number of unfinished books by my bed - turned me into an extreme completer finisher!

I would never actually run out though, I'd just download something from kindle or borrowbox.

Abhannmor · 10/04/2024 17:12

I know....thought I'd get through my TBR pile during lockdown. But doomscrolling got even worse 😭

SevenSeasOfRhye · 10/04/2024 17:02

DisforDarkChocolate · 10/04/2024 16:53

The thing is some books are just waiting for the right time to be read.

100%. I don't want to read something I have hugely looked forward to, e.g. on the train, or late at night when I am nodding off, I will save it for something like a rainy Sunday afternoon when I have nothing else to distract me and can really settle down with it.

Momstermunch · 10/04/2024 16:58

JaninaDuszejko · 10/04/2024 11:17

Well I'm amazed this is so common. I am absolutely a book person, I read loads and always have a book on the go. I read one then buy another though unless I'm reading a series.

@Momstermunch So, what do you do if you finish a book at, say, 4pm on a Sunday and the shops are all shut and you don't have any unread books in the house? What do you read? Do you reread a book you've previously read until you can get to a bookshop or the library? Or are you happy to not read anything until you can get to a bookshop and buy the next book? Or do you have a small TBR pile of <10 books to avoid ever getting in that situation and it's just people saying they have hundreds of TBR books that you object to?

You have said your Mum is a big reader too. So do you not buy books as presents for each other? Because e.g. this year I've bought two books for myself so far. But I also received 16 books for my birthday and Christmas. I've read 14 books so far this year, so I still have a TBR purely because of gifts (looking at what I've read it's actually about 50:50 books I've been gifted and books I've bought previously). In fact a large chunk of my TBR pile is made up of gifts, some of which will definitely be read very soon, others which will be read in the next 6 months to 10 years or longer (e.g. War and Peace was bought when I was in my 20s and read in my 40s, a far better age to read it), and others (mostly presents) which will possibly never be read.

As a percentage of all the books in the house the TBR shelf is <10 %, the majority of the books in the house have been read by a resident of this house.

I don't actually object to people buying books they don't read. I object to the idea that people who don't do that must not be keen on reading.

To answer your question, it's pretty easy to see a book is about to finish and line up your next one. I also have a kindle so I can download a book immediately.

There's no way I'd attempt to buy my mum a book. She reads so much and so widely that I'd struggle to figure out what she'd love and hasn't already read. My husband is the same with me, he doesn't know what I've read as lots were library books or stored on my kindle.

The thought of a hundred books waiting to be read actually gives me the heebie jeebies. I'd feel pressured and like my love of reading had become a chore. If it brings others pleasure and they have the money and space for it then fair enough. I am amazed so many people want and are able to do this though.

ClickClackClock · 10/04/2024 16:56

Oops wrong one!

To think keep buying books when you haven’t read the ones you’ve got is odd
Notreat · 10/04/2024 16:56

No not odd at all. There are books in my house I have never read but I still buy new books if I see something I want

ClickClackClock · 10/04/2024 16:56

Just this!

To think keep buying books when you haven’t read the ones you’ve got is odd
DisforDarkChocolate · 10/04/2024 16:53

The thing is some books are just waiting for the right time to be read.

purpleme12 · 10/04/2024 16:53

Most of mine are from charity shops too.
The new ones are mostly presents from people