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fuckthemail · 2024-04-09T19:19:58+00:00

I'm already on contraception which has helped a lot (no longer suicidal / ruining my life for 2 weeks every month) but I still have around 4-7 days of feeling down, upset, paranoid, rejected, snappy, pessimistic etc What helps?

hottchocolatte · 10/04/2024 09:33

I try to tell myself the whatsapp thing is not personal as there are definitely times other people don't get a response but obvious you notice more when it's yourself

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fuckthemail · 10/04/2024 09:16

hottchocolatte · 10/04/2024 07:47

i really relate to the rejection thing.

I'd be upset with the friend situation too but I'm sure in the past I've said things I wouldn't have said if not for the hormones and I don't think it helps. Saying that I am also okay with cutting off friends who are regularly not showing up!

I even feel rejected if I don't get a reply in a group whatsapp 🙃

Thank you. Yes I've had to apologise before for things I've said. Have cut off friends in the past too.

WhatsApp is what started this off a few days ago! Completely ignored in a group I'm in. Hurts me so much every time

I really do need to get back to therapy!!

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hottchocolatte · 10/04/2024 07:47

i really relate to the rejection thing.

I'd be upset with the friend situation too but I'm sure in the past I've said things I wouldn't have said if not for the hormones and I don't think it helps. Saying that I am also okay with cutting off friends who are regularly not showing up!

I even feel rejected if I don't get a reply in a group whatsapp 🙃

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fuckthemail · 09/04/2024 21:43

SulkySeagull · 09/04/2024 21:40

I had CBT for mine, which it sounds like might help you OP - you realise you’re overreacting so CBT can help you put actions and thoughts in place to stop you doing things you’ll regret. I got mine on the NHS.

i do everything I can to get decent sleep - night nurse if I have to. And try and exercise and eat well (though I must say that bit I find tough. All I want to do is eat junk and sink wine!)

Cross post! CBT! That makes so much sense thank you

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fuckthemail · 09/04/2024 21:42

Thank you all again for being so kind

I was on sertraline, honestly it was amazing but the side effects were too much for me personally.

Pill I take is Rigevidon which I take every day without a break. It helped loads but last 2 months have been awful (life circumstances are stressful so I know that's why)

Rejection - 100% triggering. I'm currently trying to find a therapist now! My last one helped me a lot but I think I need to see someone new, more CBT based appeals so that I can find ways to more forward

So sorry for those of you who have / are struggling too

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SulkySeagull · 09/04/2024 21:40

I had CBT for mine, which it sounds like might help you OP - you realise you’re overreacting so CBT can help you put actions and thoughts in place to stop you doing things you’ll regret. I got mine on the NHS.

i do everything I can to get decent sleep - night nurse if I have to. And try and exercise and eat well (though I must say that bit I find tough. All I want to do is eat junk and sink wine!)

WhatAreYouOnAbout · 09/04/2024 21:36

fuckthemail · 09/04/2024 21:23

Mindfulness really helps me. But I haven't practised meditation in months now so I should get back to that

I'm going crazy here this month. A friend of mine has been flaky and was saying last week how she wanted to catch up with me etc, and then this week is too busy to see me. Like I get that it's a genuine reason but it hurts so much. I've deleted her on whatsapp and dont want to speak to her again. That's how I feel right now. Which I realise is a total overreaction but also can't seem to help it! But at the same time I feel like messaging her about how much she has hurt me but I know I would regret it!!

So sensitive.. it’s all part of it. I do have to stand back and ask myself is this the time of they month? If yes, do not respond. Deal with it when the hormones pass to save having to clean up atomic bomb site afterwards. So often I have literally been ready to call the divorce lawyers. I worry about myself sometimes the action I could take in times like that. I have to keep away from sugary stuff like cakes biscuits and alcohol. The sugar is like kryptonite to me only the effect is not immediate which is why it took me so long to join the dots and believe what I was seeing. Maybe you had rejection in childhood and your friend inadvertently triggered you? Would you get some counseling? 🤍

bluejelly · 09/04/2024 21:30

Prozac really helped me. Take it 2 weeks a month. Felt weird/insomniac for first 10 days of taking the pills - since then just calm and content. It changed my life.

mizu · 09/04/2024 21:28

I had a full hysterectomy - not for everyone I understand but I'd had my children and was 42.

Interestingly, both my mum and her mum had hysterectomies around the same time.

Previous to this, I'd cut down alcohol, sugar, had the mirena (which did not help at all), and had ablation where they scrap the lining of your womb as I had very heavy periods too.

ByGrabtharsHammarWhatASaving · 09/04/2024 21:26

+1 for sertraline. I had side effects for a few weeks but pushed through and now I don't have any. My mood has improved so much, I still get some symptoms on approach to my period but nothing like before.

Kismet79 · 09/04/2024 21:25

Following this thread with lots of interest as really struggling with this at the moment. Have an appointment with GP next week. The contraceptive pill, including Yasmin, never helped me unfortunately. HRT has eased it a little. Antidepressants helped in the past so might have to resume those.

What contraception helps you @fuckthemail@fuckthemail

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fuckthemail · 09/04/2024 21:23

Mindfulness really helps me. But I haven't practised meditation in months now so I should get back to that

I'm going crazy here this month. A friend of mine has been flaky and was saying last week how she wanted to catch up with me etc, and then this week is too busy to see me. Like I get that it's a genuine reason but it hurts so much. I've deleted her on whatsapp and dont want to speak to her again. That's how I feel right now. Which I realise is a total overreaction but also can't seem to help it! But at the same time I feel like messaging her about how much she has hurt me but I know I would regret it!!

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fuckthemail · 09/04/2024 21:19

Thank you all

Re. Coil. I have liver problems so always been reluctant to try it. So glad it works for you though

Yasmin... Thanks, I just don't get how that's different to microgynon? I took it with a break at first, then about 6mo switched to continuous which improved things so much for me

Anti depressants - tried one with awful side effects... Should probably try another but as I said, my symptoms now that I'm on contraception are much better, just not great iykwim

Trauma is interesting. I have had 3 therapists... Might be a good idea to try again thank you

Exercise I do loads

Diet could definitely be improved. I think I eat pretty well but probably should be stricter and just cut out the sugar and alcohol for good as I just keep hearing people saying what a difference it makes

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hottchocolatte · 09/04/2024 20:58

Trying to eat well and sleep well can help but can be difficult. I find I want sugary food and can't always sleep during that time. I avoid situations I'll find difficult such as anything demanding at work or even social get togethers unless I know I won't get worked up. I struggle to concentrate at work at this time so I find having the tv on in the background helps if I'm at home and also setting timers on my phone or watch to concentrate for 30-60 mins and then having breaks.

WhatAreYouOnAbout · 09/04/2024 20:44

PMDD affects me majorly if I let it. To stop it, I have to cut back on sugary processed food, cut out alcohol entirely & get my sleep. I don’t always succeed tho and spend about a month repairing the bomb damage around me, but that definitely helps. Also, they say it’s linked in with trauma in earlier life. I got some counseling and maybe understanding that helped me too,

greezelouise · 09/04/2024 20:44

My daughter saw a specialist about this. What helped enormously was

Exercise every day. Cycling, running, gym
Clean diet, so limited sugar and lots of fruit and veg
No aLcohol
Yasmin pill taken continuously

It worked for her

Thepeopleversuswork · 09/04/2024 20:24

Honestly? Mirena. Changed my life. Had horrendous periods for years. Depression, weight gain, crippling paranoia. Now been on it 20 years. No symptoms and no periods. It’s fucking great. I’m menopausal now but not planning to come off any time soon.

LapinR0se · 09/04/2024 20:20

Medication…antidepressants