Husband has a lot of time of work 'sick' with regular flare-ups of a bowel condition. This latest absence, he has been off for 4 weeks, 2 more still to take off before his return. He is physically fine to do general housework. I work a very manual job and come back shattered to a filthy house, which I'm then expected to clean and then make dinner for him and the kids. I ask him to do chores while I'm out. Yesterday I asked him to hoover and deal with all the bins. This was too much info for him, and he forgot the bins. I lost my shit. He's making out I'm a maniac over forgetting to empty bins. This extended time off happens a few times each year. There is nothing physically stopping him lending a hand. I'm filled with resentment. Feel used and taken advantage of, and it's got to the stage where I wonder if we should go our separate ways. He says things like he can't see that the toilets need cleaned, he didnt notice the mud from the dogs splashed up the white kitchen units. I just can't get my head around this and feel he's taking the piss out of me. When I lose my shit he starts to say he'll change, make lists so he remembers, etc, but nothing ever changes. WTF do I do??