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To be annoyed about her collecting the stones?

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forestblade · 09/04/2024 00:02

I thought there was an unwritten rule that if you found a stone someone had painted you would pick it up and hide it somewhere else for someone else to find on their walk etc.

My SM now has a collection of painted stones she's found and leaves on her doorstep. I was round the other day and noticed the collection had grown somewhat and was quite surprised and then annoyed. She doesn't paint stones and leave them for others herself, just collects everyone elses!

AIBU??

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Blondeshavemorefun · 09/04/2024 05:55

7 posts a year. Not a well known Group then 😂

We have done both - taken or hide

But we have also did our own to replace if taken /took - grammar police 😂

There is a more common group. Can't R.E.M. what but we found a few during lockdown 4yrs ago and my dd then 3 loved finding and hiding and then took a pic of stone and put it on the Facebook group so the painter knew it had been found

marshmallowfinder · 09/04/2024 05:42

Domino20 · 09/04/2024 00:12

Here's what the group says..... (attached)

Annoyingly, it should say, "If you're lucky enough..."

ShortLivedComment · 09/04/2024 05:39

I really dislike the concept of painted rocks being hidden in natural areas. I don't mind in urban areas though.
I think your SM is fine. She is enjoying them. The OPs outrage is a bit OTT

PeopleAreWeird · 09/04/2024 05:22

These were displayed for a church service and then put on the graves of our local heroes

To be annoyed about her collecting the stones?
To be annoyed about her collecting the stones?
WhatWouldJeevesDo · 09/04/2024 05:21

I’ve never come across this stone hiding thing. It might get irritating if it takes over the world.
Impossible looking stacks of rocks on mountains seemed like a novelty at first. I soon began to find them so annoying I kicked a few of them over.

DrJoanAllenby · 09/04/2024 05:20

Morgan Rocks! Is a group of Morgana Army followers who are seeking to raise awareness of childhood cancers through hiding beautiful stones for others to find across the U.K. and beyond!

Decorate your own stone and add the words 'Morgan's Army! or our hashtag #MorgsArmy and help spread our message far and wide!

........

That's a Facebook page called Morgan Rocks. The website - morgansarmy.co.uk/morgans-rocks/

PeopleAreWeird · 09/04/2024 05:13

These were displayed for a church service and then put on the graves of our local heroes

To be annoyed about her collecting the stones?
Fimofriend · 09/04/2024 05:12

I'm with @TheCoffeeNebula on this one: People can't just make up rules and then be offended that other people don't follow them. SIL didn't agree with the rules of the game or to play the game at all

I absolutely hate it when other people decide that because I have done one thing I am honour bound to do another specific thing. Just because in their head it is "First A then follows B" it doesn't mean that it is obvious for other people. Especially, when you then think "Oh, that was why he was so eager for me to do that/ go there. He knew I didn't want to do B and now he thinks that he can make me".

My DH and I once found an old lady with Alzheimer's who had wandered off from her nursing home and escorted her home. The staff then expected us to start visiting her. We were both studying really heavy subjects and didn't have time to see our own families! But in their heads because we had voluntarily given a bit more than an hour once we were now honour bound to continue to donate our time.

PeopleAreWeird · 09/04/2024 05:12

These ones travelled from Washington USA

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PeopleAreWeird · 09/04/2024 05:07

MaybeRevisitYourWipingT3chnique · 09/04/2024 01:29

I suppose, if you're supposed to re-hide them, then doing so outside on your doorstep is technically adhering to this.

Also, where did they get the stones from in the first place? Assuming they just found them and helped themselves, nature purists might consider artificially painting them as 'spoiling' them - so they could also be seen to have done a bad, anti-social thing, depending on your viewpoint.

You buy them from building merchants normally
So they are big

JanglingJack · 09/04/2024 05:04

I wonder if there is one poor rock painter who keeps putting them in the same place and your SM just ambles along and takes them all 😂

PeopleAreWeird · 09/04/2024 05:04

Yellowsubmarineunderthesea · 09/04/2024 00:30

Not exactly a huge group or wildly followed for people to be aware of this "rule"

Thats just her local one

Alot of places have local ones
Then there is one main national one called ‘Love on the rocks’ which has over 150K members

annoyingboyfriend · 09/04/2024 04:59

Aghast lol
You sound utterly insufferable your poor step mother

Garlicked · 09/04/2024 04:54

I like the sound of your artist friend, @MolkosTeenageAngst. Someone placed a few 'fairy houses' around my town, and then it stopped. Perhaps there's a travelling crafter distributing them around the country!

I can understand the enthusiasm for stone-painting, though I've never found one myself. I don't like them; stones are supposed to look like stones, imo. They probably make a cheerful display on your SM's step, leave her be!

CheekyHobson · 09/04/2024 04:38

“aghast” lol

ImpishOrAdmirable · 09/04/2024 04:00

Never heard of this or ever seen a stone, and am in my 50s. It’s amazing and quite nice, the number of hobbies and communities there are in the world that you’re unaware of!

It seems that the ethics of the game are keep or replace, so don’t think your SM can be criticised really.

GingerScallop · 09/04/2024 03:50

As much as I like the sentiments around painting rocks and putting them around spaces I also don't like it. It feels like another unnecessary way in which humans alter the environment for their needs and not consider nature. Sure its not great for nature? But am an evil spoilsport so off before am pitchforked😘

ImustLearn2Cook · 09/04/2024 03:41

@forestblade The keep or hide is a beautiful sentiment and respects freedom of choice. Please don’t ruin it with judging others harshly for choosing to keep. Anyone who visits her will
see these painted rocks and perhaps share in the joy.

EmmaGrundyForPM · 09/04/2024 03:39

caringcarer · 09/04/2024 01:23

Well one of my nieces painted a rainbow stone and left it on my Mum's grave and someone took that one which upset my niece.

That's awful. I can't imagine the person who did that thought it was part of the game. They were just a horrible person. Your poor niece

claudiawinklemansfringetrimmer · 09/04/2024 03:31

Our local group also says keep or reside- there were a couple in our front garden when we moved in that I assume the kids of the previous owners had found, and my daughter has found and kept one too. I think if you have loads it’s probably nice to leave some for other people but you’re really overreacting here

Concannon88 · 09/04/2024 01:30

In barmouth we saw someone selling ones that had been hidden in the town, in their shop!

MaybeRevisitYourWipingT3chnique · 09/04/2024 01:30

caringcarer · 09/04/2024 01:23

Well one of my nieces painted a rainbow stone and left it on my Mum's grave and someone took that one which upset my niece.

That is appalling. Under a hedgerow or behind the swings in the park is fair game; but you don't desecrate somebody's grave - ever.

MaybeRevisitYourWipingT3chnique · 09/04/2024 01:29

I suppose, if you're supposed to re-hide them, then doing so outside on your doorstep is technically adhering to this.

Also, where did they get the stones from in the first place? Assuming they just found them and helped themselves, nature purists might consider artificially painting them as 'spoiling' them - so they could also be seen to have done a bad, anti-social thing, depending on your viewpoint.

MumChp · 09/04/2024 01:27

Who cares?

MaybeRevisitYourWipingT3chnique · 09/04/2024 01:26

IncognitoMam · 09/04/2024 00:17

What's an SM?

Step-Mother, presumably.