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Sex for rent

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Hartley99 · 08/04/2024 23:16

I was just watching a documentary on the sex for rent scandal. Basically, landlords offer a room in exchange for sex. In most cases, the landlords are older men and the renters are young women. Apparently, it is common in places with large student populations - in other words, where there are lots of very young women who are struggling with debts/ loans.

The whole thing really sickened me. A journalist (herself a young woman) secretly filmed a meeting with one of these landlords. She posed as a young student who had seen his ad and wanted to know more. It made my skin crawl. He was late 40s, and a repulsive, creepy little nerd who could hardly contain his excitement. But what sickened me the most was that not only did he not think he was doing anything wrong, he thought he was being generous! He seemed to think he was doing her a favour! That seemed to be the attitude of all these men.

The other thing that got me was the comments below the video. I had naively expected people to write how vile it all was, how these men were taking advantage of the housing shortage, how they were targeting very young women, and so on. In fact, I read comment after comment (all by men) angrily defending the landlords! The general view seemed to be that it was a big fuss over nothing, that it was up to the women, and that if it was consensual it was OK and we should mind our own business. So many people were defending the landlords that I honestly began to doubt my own judgement. Is it wrong? Am I being over-sensitive and naive?

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Northernsouloldies · 09/04/2024 00:33

KreedKafer · 09/04/2024 00:29

It’s gross and exploitative. It’s not new, though. It’s been going on for at least couple of hundred years, depressingly. It was pretty common in Victorian slums, for example - women who didn’t have the rent money that week being told they’d be let off paying if they had sex with the rent collector or landlord. Horrible stuff.

Sorry I don't know how to do the mentioned bit.
Not a dig at your comment.
I'd like to have thought we'd come along way since Victorian times but obviously not.

KreedKafer · 09/04/2024 00:29

It’s gross and exploitative. It’s not new, though. It’s been going on for at least couple of hundred years, depressingly. It was pretty common in Victorian slums, for example - women who didn’t have the rent money that week being told they’d be let off paying if they had sex with the rent collector or landlord. Horrible stuff.

SabreIsMyFave · 09/04/2024 00:21

Gobsmacked at the fella with the Geordie accent near the end, who is utterly denying that he has done anything wrong. 'Well I just want a fuck in exchange for a free room, so what? I'm not forcing the lasses to come here.' Shock

YOU ARE BREAKING THE LAW, YOU DUMB FUCK-NUT! I hope you get caught -and serve 7 years in JAIL, you pervy piece of shit!

Then at the VERY end, all the landlords featured (around half a dozen,) were questioned afterwards, and denied doing anything wrong - OR they refused to comment. Not one of them expressed shame or contrition, or offered a single apology, for treating young vulnerable women like pieces of meat, prostitutes, and borderline sex slaves.

I am fucking RAGING after watching this! Angry

Tragic thing is, this will not stop, ever. As long as MEN exist.

MrsO3 · 09/04/2024 00:14

Wow this is disgusting! How awful!

Northernsouloldies · 09/04/2024 00:13

Sickening that anyone should be backed into a corner and having to consider this.its most definitely not ok and how any man could think this is ok speaks volumes about their character.

SabreIsMyFave · 09/04/2024 00:09

I've just watched this, and it's official; some men are utterly vile repugnant pigs. Man in his mid-late 30s said 'Oh yeah I want a fuck every second day,' 'or a blow job,' and a middle aged man casually said 'just come and sleep in bed with me, keep your pyjamas on, and then we'll see how it goes. You will come and stay with me. You will.' Grin

Hmm

Many more men were asking women to send pics of themselves, their breast size, their clothes size etc, and saying they want a fuck for a free room. One revolting speciman wanted the young woman to sleep in a shed in the fucking garden. (He called it a cabin in the garden.) Hmm

Upshot is they are breaking the law, and could face up to 7 years in jail. The charges can be anything from inciting prostitution, to sexual deviancy. The ads are on Craigslist apparently.

MintGreenC · 08/04/2024 23:48

I know someone that does this, he has a flat in central London and rents rooms out for sex..

OhBumBags · 08/04/2024 23:44

This has been going on in Barking for years and it's absolutely horrible.

Some of the men (or sometimes their wives!) put photos of grubby nasty looking little rooms in the local Facebook group, and make it pretty clear that sex and housework is the 'rent'.

MLC13 · 08/04/2024 23:21

Where did you watch this documentary please?

Screamingabdabz · 08/04/2024 23:20

I agree op it’s revolting. A complete power imbalance and young women who may seriously regret and be traumatised later on. Sad but predictable that thick people will defend it - misogyny is a powerful ideology.