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He needs "a break" ... does this necessarily mean it's over?

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stoppedmakingsense · 08/04/2024 22:29

Exactly that ... together for less than a year, long distance, all pretty intense and positive. But very odd flare-up at end of last week, prompted by me responding too emotionally, and now he wants time without having to second-guess my emotional reactions.

I see where he's coming from, but can't help but think the time / break is his way of saying he really doesn't want to deal with me any more and this is simply a breather before I get, to be blunt, dumped.

AIBU to even imagine there might be some more positive outcome?

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StormingNorman · 08/04/2024 22:43

Did you respond too emotionally? I’d need to know what the situation was and how you responded to be able to judge.

Saying you are being too emotional could be a way of trying to control you, or he’s just a bit uncaring and disinterested in other people’s feeling.

Livinghappy · 08/04/2024 22:42

Do you agree you over reacted?

Uncooperativefingers · 08/04/2024 22:41

Did you actually overreact? Or is he basically accusing you of being "too emotional"? In which case, do you really want to be with someone like that?

I think repairing a relationship long distance is tough, especially when one party wants space. How are you supposed to do that when you aren't talking or seeing each other? But equally, you can't not respect his decision for space as that will push him away more. One of the reasons long distance is tough.

HeddaGarbled · 08/04/2024 22:39

I assume it’s to punish you and make sure you don’t step out of line in future.

Createausername1970 · 08/04/2024 22:37

Possibly.

Depends on what you do at this point.

If you own the fact that you responded inappropriately, and let him know that you would be sad to lose the relationship, then give him the space he is asking for, then he might decide it's worth another go.

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