Page 8 | To actually hate people who say bought instead of brought

GentleButter · 2024-04-08T20:41:32+00:00

Why? WHY DO PEOPLE SAY BOUGHT WHEN THEY SHOULD SAY BROUGHT? It's unbearable. I cannot bear it when someone says it. I'm polite, so I have to use every muscle in my throat and mouth to stop myself from screaming "But you didn't BUY it! So WHY are you saying BOUGHT????" It happens constantly. I was in a meeting at work. Someone said "Yes, I bought this issue up the other day" internally, I screamed "But you didn't BUY this issue, so WTF are you saying you BOUGHT it?". This goes on and on all around me. Worst of all, my own husband says it, which is insufferable. No amount of me correcting him will make him understand the nonsense of saying 'bought' when he should say 'brought'. And he went to private school, so he was well educated and he still can't get it right. There's no excuse.

Thindog · 10/04/2024 12:06

Was you really upset? Me two.I think you done amazing to say so, and not loose your calm.
Me personally, don’t like people who advertise “draws,” when you arrive to buy them they are selling a chest of drawers, and not the big knickers you wanted.

Hadjab · 10/04/2024 12:03

GentleButter · 08/04/2024 22:12

Why do you struggle??

Present tense: Buy
Past tense: Bought

Present tense: Bring
Past tense: Brought

It hurts my head that people get this confused.

It's
So
Easy.

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A bit patronising, don't you think?

Some things come easier to some. The English language isn't as simplistic as it seems, and old habits die hard.

ASighMadeOfStone · 10/04/2024 12:03

Georgyporky · 10/04/2024 11:29

Re "been" and "being", it's probably regional rather than bad grammar.

Some areas say singin', walkin' bein' etc

The sound used to pronounce "n+g" in a word are different from an "n" without a following "g", or a "g" without a preceding "n".

That's why "being" often sounds like "been". And why it sounds as though someone isn't correctly pronouncing the final sound in each syllable of a gerund. They are. It's our ears that don't quite hear it.

MinervaMcGonagallsCat · 10/04/2024 12:02

Different accents, dialects, colloquialisms are joyful things in my opinion and should not inspire hate.

TheLizardQueen · 10/04/2024 12:00

My MIL says perscription instead of prescription and phortographer instead of photographer. Drives me nuts especially since I actually work as a photographer! Also loose instead of lose makes my teeth itch!

Hadjab · 10/04/2024 11:57

TreesAndSandAndWaves · 08/04/2024 21:44

I don’t think I have ever heard someone say that. At risk of reaching peak MN … could it be a regional thing?

My pet hate is when people use “text” instead of “texted” for past tense e.g. “I text her yesterday but she didn’t answer”.

My pet hate is text or texted.

'Messaged' exists!

godmum56 · 10/04/2024 11:55

SabreIsMyFave · 08/04/2024 21:59

Some people say tennant instead of tenant. Drives me potty! And 'alot' instead of 'a lot.'

if they are saying it, how can you tell?

FangsForTheMemory · 10/04/2024 11:49

Georgyporky · 10/04/2024 11:29

Re "been" and "being", it's probably regional rather than bad grammar.

Some areas say singin', walkin' bein' etc

Not when it's written down, it isn't. People don't write in their regional accents. I'm from Yorkshire but you don't catch me writing 'nowt' instead of 'nothing', although I might say it.

ColleenDonaghy · 10/04/2024 11:48

FangsForTheMemory · 10/04/2024 11:47

The brought/bought thing drives me nuts. I assume these people have virtually never read a printed book or newspaper. Of course on mumsnet if you point it out you're a snob, or abusive, or mocking people with dyslexia or whatever. Also annoying: 'been' instead of 'being', 'are' instead of 'our', and more noxious of all 'a' instead of 'I'.

Affect/effect is more difficult because they do sound more or less the same.

For some people, being and been sound identical and our and are are very similar as well. If you will excuse affect/effect then you should excuse the others too.

FangsForTheMemory · 10/04/2024 11:47

The brought/bought thing drives me nuts. I assume these people have virtually never read a printed book or newspaper. Of course on mumsnet if you point it out you're a snob, or abusive, or mocking people with dyslexia or whatever. Also annoying: 'been' instead of 'being', 'are' instead of 'our', and more noxious of all 'a' instead of 'I'.

Affect/effect is more difficult because they do sound more or less the same.

Purplebunnie · 10/04/2024 11:36

IBegYourBiggestPardon · 08/04/2024 22:08

I always struggle with the 2 so try to find ways around not having to use bought/brought

I think of brought because you bring - they both have an R and bought because you buy it

Haven't read the whole thread so I don't know if this one has appeared but my pet hate is eg my son is 3 year old instead of 3 years old but I think it's a regional thing - sorry

Edited Now having started to read the thread I can see brought and bought have been explained far better than I did😂

ColleenDonaghy · 10/04/2024 11:36

Georgyporky · 10/04/2024 11:29

Re "been" and "being", it's probably regional rather than bad grammar.

Some areas say singin', walkin' bein' etc

Yes, being and been sound the same in many accents around me. I have a DD whose name ends in -ing but which many where we live pronounce -een, I don't correct it as they aren't mispronouncing it, they're just pronouncing it in their own accent.

Georgyporky · 10/04/2024 11:29

Re "been" and "being", it's probably regional rather than bad grammar.

Some areas say singin', walkin' bein' etc

2mummies1baby · 10/04/2024 11:26

ConsistentlyElectrifiedElves · 10/04/2024 11:03

DH does a lot of these things, but given his atrociously poor reading ability and hearing about his struggles at school, I think he is dyslexic, so I do forgive him. I try and (kindly) educate him where I think it's useful to him, for example, in a professional setting, I'll help him re-word an important email or his CV.

We've been together nearly 20 years and the flinching when he uses something wrong has definitely subsided!

People using "was" instead of "were" drives me mental though.

"We was in town last weekend"

Oh, and 'people' is plural, so you should have used 'drive' instead of 'drives'.

2mummies1baby · 10/04/2024 11:24

RabbitsRock · 10/04/2024 11:10

Your instead of you’re is so common - I have a teacher friend & even she uses your! Apostrophes in the wrong place are annoying too eg pizza’s, toilet’s

I will absolutely agree with you that teachers should be getting that right. However, in your ire over apostrophes, you have missed three full stops (one after e, one after g and one at the end) and one comma (before too) in your second sentence. So maybe we could all do with being a bit more understanding about people making punctuation errors.

Daisyblue77 · 10/04/2024 11:24

ThursdayTomorrow · 08/04/2024 21:44

Present and presant
Affect and effect

What so you mean? Presant is not a word

2mummies1baby · 10/04/2024 11:19

ConsistentlyElectrifiedElves · 10/04/2024 11:03

DH does a lot of these things, but given his atrociously poor reading ability and hearing about his struggles at school, I think he is dyslexic, so I do forgive him. I try and (kindly) educate him where I think it's useful to him, for example, in a professional setting, I'll help him re-word an important email or his CV.

We've been together nearly 20 years and the flinching when he uses something wrong has definitely subsided!

People using "was" instead of "were" drives me mental though.

"We was in town last weekend"

I will (kindly) educate you: you need a full stop before your closing speechmarks.

But it's okay, I forgive you.

dickdarstardlymuttley · 10/04/2024 11:19

inappropriateraspberry · 10/04/2024 11:01

Turnt instead of turned!

You certainly wouldn't like my part of Ireland 🇮🇪 😂

Georgethecat1 · 10/04/2024 11:13

This thread makes my anxiety jump! I had a lisp and speech therapy as a child and there are still words I avoid as I struggle with them. I’ve never been great with English and more science / maths inclined. There are lots of things people get wrong with scientific terms (use of the word chemicals being one) but I would never correct someone as I know what they mean.

RabbitsRock · 10/04/2024 11:10

Your instead of you’re is so common - I have a teacher friend & even she uses your! Apostrophes in the wrong place are annoying too eg pizza’s, toilet’s

inappropriateraspberry · 10/04/2024 11:07

@Oakbeam yes, burnt and learnt are in common usage, but turnt is not! You turned around, you burnt the bread. You can also say burned and learned.

RabbitsRock · 10/04/2024 11:07

I stopped correcting because it can upset folks that are dyslexic or maybe have a learning difficulty but I still get frustrated when I see the misuse of words etc.

Oakbeam · 10/04/2024 11:04

inappropriateraspberry · 10/04/2024 11:01

Turnt instead of turned!

Similar to burnt and learnt. Both of which are correct.

ConsistentlyElectrifiedElves · 10/04/2024 11:03

DH does a lot of these things, but given his atrociously poor reading ability and hearing about his struggles at school, I think he is dyslexic, so I do forgive him. I try and (kindly) educate him where I think it's useful to him, for example, in a professional setting, I'll help him re-word an important email or his CV.

We've been together nearly 20 years and the flinching when he uses something wrong has definitely subsided!

People using "was" instead of "were" drives me mental though.

"We was in town last weekend"

inappropriateraspberry · 10/04/2024 11:01

Turnt instead of turned!