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To actually hate people who say bought instead of brought

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GentleButter · 08/04/2024 21:41

Why?
WHY DO PEOPLE SAY BOUGHT WHEN THEY SHOULD SAY BROUGHT?
It's unbearable.
I cannot bear it when someone says it.
I'm polite, so I have to use every muscle in my throat and mouth to stop myself from screaming "But you didn't BUY it! So WHY are you saying BOUGHT????"
It happens constantly.
I was in a meeting at work. Someone said "Yes, I bought this issue up the other day" internally, I screamed "But you didn't BUY this issue, so WTF are you saying you BOUGHT it?".
This goes on and on all around me.
Worst of all, my own husband says it, which is insufferable. No amount of me correcting him will make him understand the nonsense of saying 'bought' when he should say 'brought'. And he went to private school, so he was well educated and he still can't get it right. There's no excuse.

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Jovacknockowitch · 10/04/2024 13:48

The recent trend for interchangeable use of worse and worst (and indeed the reversal of the previously understood meanings) is my niche item of common contemporary usage to be annoyed about.

Cotonsugar · 10/04/2024 13:43

Finding this “unbearable” and hating people for their grammatical errors is a bit strong isn’t it? Plenty of other things to find unbearable and hateful in the world other than this☺️personally I find the use of loose instead of lose irritating but I don’t dwell😊

unnumber · 10/04/2024 13:16

MaybeRevisitYourWipingT3chnique · 10/04/2024 12:48

Yes, that's what you would assume. I wonder who the first person was who decided arbitrarily to make 'text' its own past tense, without the expected 'ed' suffix? Unless people somehow think that the verb is 'to tex', in which case the past tense would sound like 'text', but surely you would then spell it as 'texed' to be consistent?

Lots of people will have started doing it independently, because they were all triggered by a real language rule - xted endings rarely / never happen in English. And then, -t is an alternative past-tense marker where -ed doesn't seem right. And then - but -t never adds another syllable when it's used that way.

We don't learn our native language by learning rules about grammar. We learn them by absorbing and reproducing patterns, which gives a 99% fit with rules in grammar textbooks.

It would be interesting to see the first use but I suspect impossible to identify. Changes in language usually happen for reasons affecting lots of people simultaneously, and that helps them to spread and stick.

ASighMadeOfStone · 10/04/2024 13:09

dancemummy · 10/04/2024 13:03

My pet hate is the word specific. Even TV presenters can’t seem to say it correctly, and start talking about the Pacific Ocean for some strange reason!

They actually say:
"To give a Pacific Ocean example...". ?
Do you have a link? I'd like to see this. It would be interesting for a study on why errors are made.

dancemummy · 10/04/2024 13:03

My pet hate is the word specific. Even TV presenters can’t seem to say it correctly, and start talking about the Pacific Ocean for some strange reason!

ColleenDonaghy · 10/04/2024 13:00

Cocorico22 · 10/04/2024 12:58

It blew my mind when I heard someone use ‘ignorant’ to mean they felt they had been ignoring someone. As in “I’m sorry for being ignorant and not replying to you.” Well, quite!

I used to be an apostrophe vigilante but eventually realised life’s too short and I hung up my anorak.

Surely they meant ignorant as in rude, which is an accepted meaning?

jbm16 · 10/04/2024 13:00

If this is all you have to worry about in life, think you are doing pretty well.

Cocorico22 · 10/04/2024 12:58

It blew my mind when I heard someone use ‘ignorant’ to mean they felt they had been ignoring someone. As in “I’m sorry for being ignorant and not replying to you.” Well, quite!

I used to be an apostrophe vigilante but eventually realised life’s too short and I hung up my anorak.

Elltothebeetothejay · 10/04/2024 12:54

Draw instead of drawer......aaarrrgghhhh

MaybeRevisitYourWipingT3chnique · 10/04/2024 12:51

I also rue the near-loss of the comparative in modern-day speech.

I remember in my DS's first week at school, seeing a table display with a drawing of two worms - one shorter and one longer - and the question "Which worm is the longest?"

You hardly ever hear of children in two-child families these days referred to as 'the younger' or 'the elder/older one'.

MaybeRevisitYourWipingT3chnique · 10/04/2024 12:48

ASighMadeOfStone · 10/04/2024 10:13

All new verbs are regular, so "texted" is the correct form.

Consensus is that a lot of people think it's an irregular past simple because so many one syllable verbs ending in "t" are. (Historically and etymologically the ones not derived from French, Latin etc) So, people see a new verb that looks like those ones, and apply the same hardwired rule.

I imagine both forms will be accepted as standard in due course.

Yes, that's what you would assume. I wonder who the first person was who decided arbitrarily to make 'text' its own past tense, without the expected 'ed' suffix? Unless people somehow think that the verb is 'to tex', in which case the past tense would sound like 'text', but surely you would then spell it as 'texed' to be consistent?

ColleenDonaghy · 10/04/2024 12:46

Spottydogtoo · 10/04/2024 12:36

Defiantly instead of definitely. I just don’t understand how grown adults get basic words so wrong. People with good jobs too.

If you think definitely is spelled definately (not a big spelling mistake), then autocorrect will often change definately to defiantly.

MaybeRevisitYourWipingT3chnique · 10/04/2024 12:44

Hadjab · 10/04/2024 12:08

Plueral?

I've had pleurisy twice - I wonder what the plural of pleurisy is 🤔

Am I the only one here with 'If It Wasnae Fer Yer Wellies' going around in my head?!

ASighMadeOfStone · 10/04/2024 12:39

Spottydogtoo · 10/04/2024 12:36

Defiantly instead of definitely. I just don’t understand how grown adults get basic words so wrong. People with good jobs too.

It's been explained many times.
Poor education. Poor cognition skills. Dyslexia. Etc.

NotMyMoneyWorries · 10/04/2024 12:38

I’ve got an Etsy shop and am in some Etsy sellers groups. So many people say sells instead of sales eg I haven’t had any sells this month

Also a lot of people talk about their costumers rather than customers. It could be autocorrect I guess, but it happens so often I don’t know

ASighMadeOfStone · 10/04/2024 12:37

Longsight2019 · 10/04/2024 12:25

Of instead of have.

Usually coincides with people who hold their cutlery in the wrong hands.

Or understand phonology.

MaybeRevisitYourWipingT3chnique · 10/04/2024 12:37

Bishbashbosh9 · 10/04/2024 08:33

Both are correct but 'different to' is the traditional standard in British English.

The Cambridge Dictionary says this:

The adjective different means ‘not the same’. When we compare two or more items, it is usually followed by from. We also use different to, especially in speaking:
Adam is so different from/to his brother.
This house is very different from/to your last one.

I wonder why it would say 'especially in speaking' after the usual 'from'? That does rather suggest, at best, an 'informal' usage; and at worst, an incorrect one.

Others may disagree, but I understand this as part of the descriptive (and not prescriptive) nature of dictionaries, whereby if enough people get something wrong over time, it makes it in - not as proof of its correctness but simply as a record that this is what is commonly said.

I imagine that, in time, 'could of' and 'should of' etc. will be found in dictionaries as valid alternatives, purely by dint of the fact that enough people have consistently got them wrong. I believe 'literally' is already listed in dictionaries as effectively meaning either 'literally' or 'NOT literally'.

Maybe, in time, the word 'green' might be described as 'either the same general colour as grass OR a descriptor of anything of any colour that is the same as, similar to or absolutely nothing whatsoever like the colour of grass'! It does very much run counter to the whole purpose of language for communication and common understanding when words can come to mean absolutely anything or nothing at all.

Spottydogtoo · 10/04/2024 12:36

Defiantly instead of definitely. I just don’t understand how grown adults get basic words so wrong. People with good jobs too.

Strictlymad · 10/04/2024 12:31

This thread is making me chuckle I can’t stand want instead of won’t and he ‘arrksed’ instead of asked grrrraaahhhhhhhhh

ASighMadeOfStone · 10/04/2024 12:27

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe · 10/04/2024 12:24

I despise stupid people who start threads about SPaG.

Just another 'unpopular opinions' thread. Same old shit.

It's fun when Muphry gets them, though! As he always does. The OP of this thread has made some absolute shockers.
Almost makes it worth it.
Weird though, isn't it...has to start a thread over bought/brought, yet can't spell "plural" or use commas. Funny old world.

Longsight2019 · 10/04/2024 12:25

Of instead of have.

Usually coincides with people who hold their cutlery in the wrong hands.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe · 10/04/2024 12:24

I despise stupid people who start threads about SPaG.

Just another 'unpopular opinions' thread. Same old shit.

Georgyporky · 10/04/2024 12:13

FangsForTheMemory · 10/04/2024 11:49

Not when it's written down, it isn't. People don't write in their regional accents. I'm from Yorkshire but you don't catch me writing 'nowt' instead of 'nothing', although I might say it.

That's why I wrote "say".

hobocock · 10/04/2024 12:08

People writing loose when they mean lose drives me crazy.

I also can't bear the overuse of the word would when describe activities in the past. Every fucking past tense verb used with would instead of just the simple past....

Similarly, a conditional sentence such as "If we would have gone to the airport earlier we wouldn't have missed the flight", instead of "If we had gone to the airport earlier we wouldn't have missed the flight". You don't need fucking would in both parts of that sentence. Fucking hell. Fuck's sake.
I need to calm down!

I don't know why I have started to notice would everywhere but it is really ever present, both in speech and written texts. Why the fuck is it appearing all the time?

It's far worse than bought and brought (though they drive me mad too).

Hadjab · 10/04/2024 12:08

GentleButter · 08/04/2024 22:23

Oh God this is so true.
I see this all the time too!
I work in a professional setting and there are signs up at work saying "This way to the toilet's". I feel like writing across it "The toilet's what?" And another sign saying "In case of emergency's". When I saw this I lost the will to live. Never mind the emergency. Just spell the bloody word correctly.
I see it all the time outside of work to. An apostrophe instead of a pleural spelling.
What is going on with these people?

Plueral?

I've had pleurisy twice - I wonder what the plural of pleurisy is 🤔

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