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To actually hate people who say bought instead of brought

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GentleButter · 08/04/2024 21:41

Why?
WHY DO PEOPLE SAY BOUGHT WHEN THEY SHOULD SAY BROUGHT?
It's unbearable.
I cannot bear it when someone says it.
I'm polite, so I have to use every muscle in my throat and mouth to stop myself from screaming "But you didn't BUY it! So WHY are you saying BOUGHT????"
It happens constantly.
I was in a meeting at work. Someone said "Yes, I bought this issue up the other day" internally, I screamed "But you didn't BUY this issue, so WTF are you saying you BOUGHT it?".
This goes on and on all around me.
Worst of all, my own husband says it, which is insufferable. No amount of me correcting him will make him understand the nonsense of saying 'bought' when he should say 'brought'. And he went to private school, so he was well educated and he still can't get it right. There's no excuse.

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whyismysoupcold · 09/04/2024 11:22

Bring/brought vs. buy/bought.

Same thing applies to wary & weary when spoken out loud.

"Back in ten, I need to rest my wary head."
"No, you need to rest your WEARY head!"

Combattingthemoaners · 09/04/2024 11:16

I hear you. The internal rage I feel when people say “generally” instead of “genuinely” is enough to make me implode.

“I’m generally upset over that comment.” Arghhhhhh.

Arraminta · 09/04/2024 11:05

MrsPinkSky · 09/04/2024 10:59

And what are you doing about your problem?

I suggest you learn coping strategies before you end up on a disciplinary.

All I'm doing is giving basic SPAG lessons and having to proof read emails.

CheezePleeze · 09/04/2024 11:04

MsLuxLisbon · 09/04/2024 10:57

Honest question: if you make the same mistake time and again, why would you not work to correct it? I knew a man who claimed to be incredibly intelligent, yet his spelling and grammar were both very poor. It always annoyed me that I would correct him and he would ignore it: if he were as intelligent as he claimed to be, he should have taken on the corrections and realised his mistake (although he was actually as thick as mince!!)

Surely to God you must know that some people just simply can't remember all the spelling and grammar rules?

There are people who try all their lives and still can't get it. They know some small minded people think this means they lack intelligence and yet they still can't manage especially when they're typing about a problem and their thoughts are flowing.

Why would you assume they don't work to correct it unless you're one of the aforementioned small minded people?

Just leave them alone unless their mistakes affect you and your life personally.

RedPony1 · 09/04/2024 11:04

IBegYourBiggestPardon · 08/04/2024 22:08

I always struggle with the 2 so try to find ways around not having to use bought/brought

My mum always said the R stands for rent so you havent bought it, Stuck with me forever haha

muddyford · 09/04/2024 10:59

luckylavender · 09/04/2024 10:56

I only hear it the other way round too but it gives me the rage.
I also loath should off, would off, could off and gifted instead of given. Loads more though.

All these induce the red mist, as well as the OP's original point.

MrsPinkSky · 09/04/2024 10:59

Arraminta · 09/04/2024 10:56

Okay, I know it probably makes me a bad person but poorly spoken grammar just makes me see red. I launched into a tirade at a member of staff who used 'been' rather than 'being' several times in an important email which completely changed its context. Even worse, they were oblivious to what they'd done wrong! I'm getting wound up just thinking about it again.

And what are you doing about your problem?

I suggest you learn coping strategies before you end up on a disciplinary.

MsLuxLisbon · 09/04/2024 10:57

CheezePleeze · 09/04/2024 10:50

Presumably because if you have poor spelling and grammar, you'll get fed up to the back teeth of some smug wanker telling you you're doing it wrong, on every single internet forum out there.

Or do they think they're so special, they'll be the only ones picking on that person's typing? 🙄

Just leave strangers alone to type as they please, as long as their posts are understandable.

No-one cares if you missed your calling as a proof reader or teacher.

Honest question: if you make the same mistake time and again, why would you not work to correct it? I knew a man who claimed to be incredibly intelligent, yet his spelling and grammar were both very poor. It always annoyed me that I would correct him and he would ignore it: if he were as intelligent as he claimed to be, he should have taken on the corrections and realised his mistake (although he was actually as thick as mince!!)

BettyShagter · 09/04/2024 10:57

GentleButter · 09/04/2024 10:26

I completely disagree with you.
These people aren't going to seek out education if they don't even know they're making mistakes and getting it wrong in the first place.
If someone said something that was factually incorrect, another person would have every right to correct them.
The same applies to people being corrected when they use incorrect words. It's not rude or arrogant to do so.

It's very rude and very arrogant actually.

To the point where MNHQ will delete posts 'correcting' others if their posts are perfectly understandable.

Can you imagine how depressing it must be for that person to feel picked on, on so many different internet forums every time they try to join in a conversation?

It's bound to get to a point where they feel bullied or 'pointed at' every single time.

It's literally none of your business if they've had a poor education or if they have dyslexia for example.

Just leave them alone. You're a random on the internet, you're not going to succeed where all those teachers have apparently failed.

luckylavender · 09/04/2024 10:56

I only hear it the other way round too but it gives me the rage.
I also loath should off, would off, could off and gifted instead of given. Loads more though.

Arraminta · 09/04/2024 10:56

Okay, I know it probably makes me a bad person but poorly spoken grammar just makes me see red. I launched into a tirade at a member of staff who used 'been' rather than 'being' several times in an important email which completely changed its context. Even worse, they were oblivious to what they'd done wrong! I'm getting wound up just thinking about it again.

MsLuxLisbon · 09/04/2024 10:54

Gingernurt88 · 09/04/2024 06:31

Lose and loose for me

I get lose sounds phonetically as loose, but seems extremely common nowadays.

No, it doesn't. Loose rhymes with goose, lose rhymes with booze. That particular error is the most annoying one, IMO.

CheezePleeze · 09/04/2024 10:50

GentleButter · 09/04/2024 09:10

Why do you despise them?
They are trying to teach the correct way of using our language. It's not a bad thing.

Presumably because if you have poor spelling and grammar, you'll get fed up to the back teeth of some smug wanker telling you you're doing it wrong, on every single internet forum out there.

Or do they think they're so special, they'll be the only ones picking on that person's typing? 🙄

Just leave strangers alone to type as they please, as long as their posts are understandable.

No-one cares if you missed your calling as a proof reader or teacher.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 09/04/2024 10:49

Ooh, I forgot ‘mash’ potato, ‘pack’ lunch, etc.
Guaranteed to make me want to e-slap whoever wrote them.

MaybeRevisitYourWipingT3chnique · 09/04/2024 10:46

Personally, I don't really have an issue with people pronouncing covid as 'corvid' or 'covvid'.

The former is just how somebody with a certain distinctive Lancashire (or other various northern) accent might naturally say it - just like they would pronounce home as 'horm' or phone as 'phorn'.

As for the latter, unless you would honestly pronounce it 'coe-roe-na-virus' in full, how can anybody dictate that you must actively change the pronunciation of the remaining syllables when you remove others?

Saymyname28 · 09/04/2024 10:43

GentleButter · 09/04/2024 10:26

I completely disagree with you.
These people aren't going to seek out education if they don't even know they're making mistakes and getting it wrong in the first place.
If someone said something that was factually incorrect, another person would have every right to correct them.
The same applies to people being corrected when they use incorrect words. It's not rude or arrogant to do so.

You genuinely think that by pointing out someone's use of the wrong word that you've now changed their speech and their life forever? No. They will continue to speak exactly how they always have. Becuase we don't all speak the same, not everyone is good at that. Could I teach you the correct way or solving a complex mathematical equation once and you'd remember it and apply it everytime you came across a similar equation? No. I could, becuase maths sticks in my brain and makes sense to me. You can teach me a word and it's gone. How well can you speak other languages? I know plenty of Thai, if I taught you to count to 20 once how many times could you repeat that correctly?

You're good at something, congratulations, there's also plenty of things you're shit at. But the rest of us don't feel the need to correct you. How would you feel if someone stopped you in the street and told you your dress sense was wrong, those colours don't go together. Your gait is wrong, you're not walking properly. Sit straight, you're slouching. A man at the gym stop your workout to tell you how you're doing it wrong. Someone stops you while you're getting some dinner to educate you on healthy eating and suggest some healthier foods you should eat.

You'd appreciate all these people stopping your day to point out your faults yeah?

It's rude to correct people when they didn't ask you to.

BettyShagter · 09/04/2024 10:33

VestibuleVirgin · 09/04/2024 07:52

But that perpetuates the incorrect. Better that mistakes be pointed out while on an anonymous forum than in a meeting at work

You may genuinely think you have a super power that means despite around 14 years of schooling, one post from you means that person will finally learn the error of their ways, and that you can succeed where all teachers, books and everything else over the years failed.

But in the real world it's just rude to pick at someone's spelling and grammar when that's not the point of their perfectly understandable post.

A lot of people over the years have said it puts them off posting about their problems, so stop 'marking their work'.

InsomniacA · 09/04/2024 10:28

'Her and her daughter went to the shop'.

The DF is notorious for confusing subject and object and possessive pronouns. I always assume that people I know doing this have limited their own reading to the DF and similar.

GentleButter · 09/04/2024 10:26

Saymyname28 · 09/04/2024 10:16

Becuase it's not your job to point out everyone's faults and educate everyone. If people WANT to be educated on the way they speak they could seek that out themselves. To just decide that it's your right to go around telling people they're wrong is so rude and arrogant. It makes people feel uncomfortable having conversations for no reason, you know what they meant.

I completely disagree with you.
These people aren't going to seek out education if they don't even know they're making mistakes and getting it wrong in the first place.
If someone said something that was factually incorrect, another person would have every right to correct them.
The same applies to people being corrected when they use incorrect words. It's not rude or arrogant to do so.

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MaybeRevisitYourWipingT3chnique · 09/04/2024 10:21

AngeloMysterioso · 09/04/2024 09:13

There’s a woman whose YouTube tutorials I watch for my hobby, who says eck cetera. I watch them on mute now.

I presume she's just talking about Peter Cetera's less famous Scottish cousin Alexander...!

Catsmere · 09/04/2024 10:18

HiddenLaundry · 09/04/2024 08:37

There are so many like that!
I saw, ‘to all intensive purposes’.

People must learn it one way and then never realise it is wrong. Like the well known ‘rest bite’.

I remember laughing internally at one of my teachers who used "to all intensive purposes" back in the 1970s.

Saymyname28 · 09/04/2024 10:16

GentleButter · 09/04/2024 09:10

Why do you despise them?
They are trying to teach the correct way of using our language. It's not a bad thing.

Becuase it's not your job to point out everyone's faults and educate everyone. If people WANT to be educated on the way they speak they could seek that out themselves. To just decide that it's your right to go around telling people they're wrong is so rude and arrogant. It makes people feel uncomfortable having conversations for no reason, you know what they meant.

MaybeRevisitYourWipingT3chnique · 09/04/2024 10:16

HiddenLaundry · 09/04/2024 08:43

Clever people can be bothered by many things simultaneously. It’s a curse! I would love to be ignorant of all these errors. I do wish I were more like you. Genuinely (not generally).

I do love it when people see a thread that's clearly about something that doesn't interest them, so they take the trouble to participate in the thread in order to tell everybody on it that they shouldn't find it interesting and 'inform' them that they must stop caring!

I'm off to find an online forum for football fans, so that I can enlighten them that (to me) football is really boring, thus they are wrong to care about it and want to discuss it too!

Catsmere · 09/04/2024 10:13

BingoMarieHeeler · 09/04/2024 07:57

Omg another one I’m seeing alllll the time on instagram is peak instead of peek. SNEAK PEEK. They’re literally different words so why is it hard?

Here it's so often peak when it should be peek, or worse, peak when it should be pique!

GentleButter · 09/04/2024 10:10

Oneearringlost · 09/04/2024 09:16

Hang on GentleButter,
Wasn't it you who used the word 'hate' people?

Yes. I hate people who say the word bought instead of brought when they are talking about the past tense of bring, because it is literally the wrong word.
This poster said they despise people for correcting mistakes that other people make when they are talking. But they are being corrected because they are using the wrong words. So why despise being corrected if they are using the wrong words?
People are trying to teach the person who is using incorrect words.
If someone said something that was factually incorrect, the person listening would be well within their rights to correct them. So why can't people correct others who use the wrong words?

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