To actually hate people who say bought instead of brought

loathe - verb, as in ‘I detest’
loath - adjective, as in ‘I am loath to make a comment’

Yes, what is it with so many people writing 'women' when they mean 'woman'? You never see people making the same mistakes with men/man.

I also hate the common use of 'woman' as if it were an adjective. If you genuinely do need to point out a woman's sex, then the adjective is 'female'.

Nobody ever talks about 'man authors' or 'man tennis players' or 'man teachers' - you would find it hugely weird if anybody ever did.

If you spend any time with small children in the USA or watching American cartoons you will see that 'to go potty' is a very widespread informal usage in AmE for very young children. As AmE is the dominant influence on international English it's no surprise that your student has picked it up. 'Potty' for 'mad' is exclusively BrE and arguably becoming fairly quaint on its way to archaism.

Wonderful 😂

Never seen this. Often see “brought” instead of “bought” though. And “women” when they mean “woman”.

This reads like you're criticising the student here, when all it is is a misunderstanding about a word with two different meanings. She isn't speaking in her native language, and I think it's very obvious why she might think "potty" would be a polite way to say the dog had done a poo. Good for her.

Actually hating someone for grammatical or linguistic errors seems a little strong. I feel a bit sorry for people who make these routine errors as it will really hold them back in life, and I count my blessings. Perhaps they have not had the advantages I have in life.

Tender Hooks.

Grrrrrrr.

Ahh I see. I didn't realise she was talking about the written word. I thought she was trying to type it how it sounds when spoken 👍

I want to jump in here as this comment alerted a memory : years ago I worked
in an aircraft factory, typing technical reports, safety checks, calibrations -
we were regularly required to decipher written instructions akin to a foreign language.

The Engineers’ spelling, grammar, lack of punctuation, syntax, sentence construction was an endless source of surprise and dismay, a challenging time.

Apparently, the extremely bright, clever Engineers with first class degrees from Imperial College were wired differently, specialised early, relied on scribes as they
genuinely could not acknowledge the importance placed on accurate means of communication, heads full of torque, thrust, pressure, VtoL, maximum weight.

That any of these aeronautical boffins could be dyslexic was never ever mooted.

100%. I always notice SPaG errors because I'm a teacher and it's my job, and I can't deny they irritate me, but I would never point them out to anyone who isn't a child in my class. It's just so rude and unnecessary.

My exception is on Mumsnet when someone like the OP is being so unpleasant and supercilious or has corrected someone else's SPaG and has made an error themselves- then, I'm afraid, they are getting a taste of their own medicine.

Those who irritate me far more than the makers of mistakes, are those who say these things don’t matter any more, nobody but nitpicking pedants care - and especially those who put (particularly) verbal mistakes down to ‘dialect’ or ‘evolution of the language’.
In the vast majority of cases it’s neither - it’s just sloppiness or ignorance, or both.

I do in fact really like genuine quirks of dialect, e.g. a Scot I used to know saying ‘I should ha’ went…’ instead of ‘should have gone’, or an Irish friend saying, ‘I was just after (doing something)’ - meaning she’d just done it.

To me ‘evolution of the language’ includes words such as ‘nice’ or ‘vicious’, which meant something different in e.g. Jane Austen’s time.
And, from the JA era, someone saying, ‘It rains!’ when nowadays almost everyone would say ‘It’s raining!’

Same - I lived in south London for over a decade and never heard 'should off' with a soft 'ff' (IPA /f/). The usual error is 'of', as the /v/ sound is confused with 've, as in 'should've'.

Yes I think it must be more common in non-rhotic accents. I'm Irish and you would never hear bought and brought being mixed up here because they sound different.

And understand the very obvious reason why people may think it's should of. Should off sounds completely different in most accents.

I think attitudes like OP's, where they think it's fine to correct others' spelling or grammar in a non-work or school context, come from insecurity. If you are insecure about your ability in some areas, it must feel good to be able to correct others' grammar.

I've never known anyone who's doing well, and happy and confident in themselves, who would correct grammar. They might have an internal eyeroll, we all have those about all sorts of things, but they wouldn't seek to make someone feel like shit just so that they can show the world they know the difference between bought and brought.

I'm in South London, and have never heard anyone say or seen anyone write 'should off'! 'Should of' is an extremely common error, both written and spoken.

Apologies to @luckylavender if that's what they meant, but as I say, I have never come across 'should off' instead of should've, only 'should of'.

But people do say 'should off', 'could off', etc.

I think that's what this poster is complaining about (their accents?)

I'm in East London and that's very much how people speak.

I have never heard the usage described in the OP. I find that 'brought' for 'bought' is absolutely endemic in my region of the Midlands, however (e.g. 'I brought the kids some new shoes in Clarks'). I think people genuinely cannot hear the 'r' sound in the words in order to distinguish them.

Oh dear. No one says 'should off', 'could off', etc. What they say is 'could of' or 'should of'. If you're going to criticise others for using the word 'of' incorrectly, you should be able to spell it, surely?

People who say 'I tret myself' instead of 'I treated myself'
Tret isn't a word!

So am I justified in 'hating' you for failing to punctuate speech correctly, something which you keep refusing to acknowledge? Does that seem reasonable to you? Do you think you are deserving of my hatred because of some punctuation errors?

Wary rhymes with Mary.
Weary rhymes with dreary.

I would also add people who use swear words as punctuation - especially adults who do it in earshot of young children.

I don't at all agree with the suggestion that anybody who ever swears is only doing so because of a lack of vocabulary - but I do think that people who use a pointless swear word as every second or third word can't be all that bright.

They may think it makes them sound tough and 'street', but it does just make you sound stupid, especially those who don't even realise that they're doing it anymore and can't stop it, however inappropriate the circumstances.

It's not even just swear words, though, as I tend to have the same opinion of people who use 'like' as punctuation, 10 times in every single sentence. Absent genuine special needs, learning difficulties or conditions such as Tourette's, it's just the perfect way to make yourself sound extremely lacking in intelligence.

My question was 'what are you doing about your problem'?

If you didn't understand it I'll try again.

What are you doing to stop you from being unprofessional by seeing red and launching a tirade on another member of staff?