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To actually hate people who say bought instead of brought

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GentleButter · 08/04/2024 21:41

Why?
WHY DO PEOPLE SAY BOUGHT WHEN THEY SHOULD SAY BROUGHT?
It's unbearable.
I cannot bear it when someone says it.
I'm polite, so I have to use every muscle in my throat and mouth to stop myself from screaming "But you didn't BUY it! So WHY are you saying BOUGHT????"
It happens constantly.
I was in a meeting at work. Someone said "Yes, I bought this issue up the other day" internally, I screamed "But you didn't BUY this issue, so WTF are you saying you BOUGHT it?".
This goes on and on all around me.
Worst of all, my own husband says it, which is insufferable. No amount of me correcting him will make him understand the nonsense of saying 'bought' when he should say 'brought'. And he went to private school, so he was well educated and he still can't get it right. There's no excuse.

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Scottsy200 · 10/04/2024 00:21

Wow you might need to get laid OP, the level of rage you have over this is not normal

margolyes · 09/04/2024 23:09

Surely someone has mentioned "versing" by now. For example,when referring to football "next week we are versing the Saints ". All of my DC say it. I gave up years ago.

margolyes · 09/04/2024 22:50

luckylavender · 09/04/2024 10:56

I only hear it the other way round too but it gives me the rage.
I also loath should off, would off, could off and gifted instead of given. Loads more though.

So you are reluctant to hear them (loath) or you hate them ( loathe).

SabreIsMyFave · 09/04/2024 22:39

I must admit I am guilty of saying 'can I get a latte please?' I do say 'CAN I GET,' instead of 'can I have.'

A bit of a habit, picked up from my millennial daughters! 😬

BeakyPIinders · 09/04/2024 22:32

MsLuxLisbon · 09/04/2024 10:57

Honest question: if you make the same mistake time and again, why would you not work to correct it? I knew a man who claimed to be incredibly intelligent, yet his spelling and grammar were both very poor. It always annoyed me that I would correct him and he would ignore it: if he were as intelligent as he claimed to be, he should have taken on the corrections and realised his mistake (although he was actually as thick as mince!!)

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I enrolled on a computer course waaaaaay back and uttered the word imput once. The lecturer looked at me and said 'It's input' I never ever said imput again and still remember it. So yes, once corrected never forgotten.

My old man says to me, can you borrow me a tenner? I say to him, who do you want me to borrow it from? Annoys the crap out of me, but he still says it!

trainboundfornowhere · 09/04/2024 22:07

I know it’s a local thing for both of these but I still want to cringe whenever I them.

My sister in law will say “The train what got me in at two o’ clock.” Instead of that got me in and my mother in law talks about going out in the cor instead of car.

teacheroffsick · 09/04/2024 21:44

Dint instead of didn't.
Cos instead of because.

Both my kids do this no matter how much I correct them!!

SOxon · 09/04/2024 20:47

SOxon · 09/04/2024 13:11

@CathbadsCloak unless it is Mick and Keith, ‘Waiting on a Friend’

Can anyone step in here? I tried and failed to deliver a link, couple of vids for choice on YT, tia

unnumber · 09/04/2024 20:41

Justkeeprollingalong · 09/04/2024 20:27

Is he a Geordie? Chimley is very commonly used.

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And chimbley. It's how language evolves - people "tame" combinations of sounds that aren't usual in their languages. Hence febyouary and lieberry and jography for February, library, geography.

People are often doing something quite sophisticated when they get words "wrong", and they rarely get them wrong in ways that stop language from working - people understand things like brought / bought, him and me, teas and coffee's etc. Mistakes that interfere with comprehension don't proliferate. They just annoy people sometimes. But uniform pronunciation and spelling among speakers of the same language isn't normal, historically.

Everythinggreen · 09/04/2024 20:32

Genuinely and generally! Argh!! I hear these used in error constantly on reality shows!

unnumber · 09/04/2024 20:31

Abitofalark · 09/04/2024 15:03

En route. It should be either the original French or the English on the way.

This reminds me of another half French and half English construction for the French word enclave which in French is pronounced 'onclav' but Anglicised it's nclave (non-nasal plain n and rhyming with gave).

Instead you get the French sound on hitched to the English sound clave, resulting in onclave, from the BBC correspondent.

You can pronounce the en in enclave either way, like envelope. (It's a long time since I've heard anyone say onvelope, though).

Justkeeprollingalong · 09/04/2024 20:30

LaCerbiatta · 08/04/2024 22:15

All of these, but lately people being unable to turn a word plural without using an apostrophe drives me mad. How??

"My daughter did her GCSE's." Her GCSE's what???? Why do people not know how to pluralise a word?? Is it not the most basic thing??

My pet hate is getting incorrect and correct in the same piece of writing.... the café sells teas and coffee's..... WHY?!

Justkeeprollingalong · 09/04/2024 20:27

abracadabra1980 · 08/04/2024 22:21

I have never heard anyone say this. Sometimes it can be because they have misheard a word when young and it has not been heard or spoken, very often, therefore nobody corrects them. My ExH mispronounced the word chimney as chimley until he was corrected at 21, purely because he'd misheard it.

Is he a Geordie? Chimley is very commonly used.

StormingNorman · 09/04/2024 20:26

Oakbeam · 09/04/2024 16:25

One pence.

Pence is plural. You can only have two or more pence. If you only have one, it is a penny.

I never knew that!

MsLuxLisbon · 09/04/2024 20:19

LlynTegid · 09/04/2024 19:55

I don't like it either, OP.

Though down my list of dislikes. Over use of 'big' (all birthdays are 24 hours long), 'literally', 'super' feature more for me.

I think it is foolishly nitpicky to object to the term 'big birthday'. Obviously, your fortieth birthday isn't longer than your forty first, but it has more impact. It is clear that the word big is being used idiomatically in that context.

LlynTegid · 09/04/2024 19:55

I don't like it either, OP.

Though down my list of dislikes. Over use of 'big' (all birthdays are 24 hours long), 'literally', 'super' feature more for me.

OnHerSolidFoundations · 09/04/2024 19:53

MiffedandMiserable · 08/04/2024 22:02

My mum says Peter bread instead of pita bread. Makes me want to claw my ears off.

Ha! My mum says "Two Nah" fish.

OnHerSolidFoundations · 09/04/2024 19:52

My colleague constantly emails calling me "yourself " - arrrrgh!! She's in the comms team too!

Eg: "I've created a meeting invite for Jane, Roger and yourself"

I have to try REALLY hard not to comment.

Oakbeam · 09/04/2024 19:32

Preparing for the worse.

Writing “suppose to” rather than “supposed to”.

timetodeclutter · 09/04/2024 19:27

Oh dear, OP, this thread seems to be making you angrier and more convinced of humanity's stupidity than you already were (quite an achievement).

I'm sorry, I did have a quick look through your subsequent posts before I wrote mine, but didn't clock that you'd said you only ever correct your DH and not other people.

I also see now that your DH "disagrees" with you about brought/bought... LTB!

BirthdayRainbow · 09/04/2024 19:19

Oakbeam · 09/04/2024 19:15

I often wonder where the “one pence” thing came from when “one penny” is clearly written on the coin.

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Because it is two pence, five pence etc and people sometimes extrapolate things wrongly.

2mummies1baby · 09/04/2024 19:16

GentleButter · 09/04/2024 19:04

I've made it very clear in my posts that I correct DH, but I don't correct anyone else because I don't feel it's my place to. I've literally stated that. I've also given examples of conversations I've had where I've kept my mouth shut about wrong words used by others.
My post was about people SAYING bought instead of brought. So many posters have gone on to get upset about spelling and grammar errors being corrected, which has completely missed the point of my post which comes across as quite stupid. SPaG was not what my post was about.

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SPaG stands for Spelling, Punctuation and Grammar. Your post was literally about grammar. Grammar is grammar, whether it's spoken or written.

Sorry, who is it who is coming across as 'quite stupid'?

Oakbeam · 09/04/2024 19:15

MsLuxLisbon · 09/04/2024 17:16

You are of course correct, however I have to admit that I prefer 'one pence' to 'one p' even though the latter is probably more correct.

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I often wonder where the “one pence” thing came from when “one penny” is clearly written on the coin.

To actually hate people who say bought instead of brought
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GentleButter · 09/04/2024 19:07

CheezePleeze · 09/04/2024 10:50

Presumably because if you have poor spelling and grammar, you'll get fed up to the back teeth of some smug wanker telling you you're doing it wrong, on every single internet forum out there.

Or do they think they're so special, they'll be the only ones picking on that person's typing? 🙄

Just leave strangers alone to type as they please, as long as their posts are understandable.

No-one cares if you missed your calling as a proof reader or teacher.

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You've missed the entire point of my original post.
Yawn.

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GentleButter · 09/04/2024 19:04

timetodeclutter · 09/04/2024 17:03

I notice things like this (e.g. using "myself" instead of "me" sets me on edge).

I bet, though, that there are things I say that are incorrect or which grate on people.

I also bet that some people who make mistakes in their spoken/written English, would think I'm really thick about some things that they find really easy (i.e. I'm not good at parking, I can't rewire a plug, I'm pretty poor at quick mental arithmetic, I'm fairly ignorant about some major sports etc.)

So, YANBU to be irritated by the mistake, but YABU to hate people over this. Love the sinner, hate the sin!

PS I hope you are only correcting your DH and not others. Correcting people's speech is really boorish (but I reckon that like a lot of otherwise ill-mannered behaviour, it's kind of ok with family / at home).

I've made it very clear in my posts that I correct DH, but I don't correct anyone else because I don't feel it's my place to. I've literally stated that. I've also given examples of conversations I've had where I've kept my mouth shut about wrong words used by others.
My post was about people SAYING bought instead of brought. So many posters have gone on to get upset about spelling and grammar errors being corrected, which has completely missed the point of my post which comes across as quite stupid. SPaG was not what my post was about.

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