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To actually hate people who say bought instead of brought

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GentleButter · 08/04/2024 21:41

Why?
WHY DO PEOPLE SAY BOUGHT WHEN THEY SHOULD SAY BROUGHT?
It's unbearable.
I cannot bear it when someone says it.
I'm polite, so I have to use every muscle in my throat and mouth to stop myself from screaming "But you didn't BUY it! So WHY are you saying BOUGHT????"
It happens constantly.
I was in a meeting at work. Someone said "Yes, I bought this issue up the other day" internally, I screamed "But you didn't BUY this issue, so WTF are you saying you BOUGHT it?".
This goes on and on all around me.
Worst of all, my own husband says it, which is insufferable. No amount of me correcting him will make him understand the nonsense of saying 'bought' when he should say 'brought'. And he went to private school, so he was well educated and he still can't get it right. There's no excuse.

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Wilop · 10/04/2024 09:28

Jjjj1980 · 10/04/2024 07:24

I have only seen this the other way round, so incorrectly using brought when they should have used bought.

I can’t add a screenshot but this is the exact wording from part of a Facebook comment I saw a few days ago on a holiday park guest page:

I was wandering about the rent shop an weather they would delver. If I have to collect and drop it they would brake. An can their be a fone in are shally. Last time I brought food at the ALDIs an it waisted so shall I of not took it? Do we get a pacific shally as soon as book or do we weight until are brake date?

There was so much more but it got deleted as every reply was just confirming the correct words they should’ve used.

Surely if you are unsure of the correct word or spelling to use, you’d check an online dictionary or thesaurus before posting!

If you struggle with spag, it’s pretty exhausting to check it constantly for informal stuff like posting on a forum or a Facebook group. People dog piling on someone asking question, to give them grammar lessons rather then scrolling past or actually answering the questions are knobs.

Packingcubesqueen · 10/04/2024 09:09

Most of the examples people are giving are spelling. As a dyslexic I find it petty, I think people just like to feel superior.
A lot of the other examples are regional variations of grammar. Which are the same as an accent- again petty and probably classist.
The bought/brought issue is likely to do with how the words have been processed at an early age and regional variation. In running speech, they sound extremely similar. Once you have in your head, a word is a certain way or is interchangeable with another word, it’s extremely difficult to relearn.
I’m not saying it doesn’t jar when I hear bought/brought, but I’m not gonna go around implying people are stupid and I am so much clever than them. People process language differently, get over it.

PTSDBarbiegirl · 10/04/2024 08:58

Winnading · 09/04/2024 08:07

That is a lot of falling, maybe when one is falling a lot one should see a dr.

On a related note, where is the line between I fell and I had a fall?

With one phrase you are still young and got up and carried on, with the other you are bedridden for weeks, maybe even in hospital.

Asking for a friend because just last week I had a fall and cracked a rib, where even a year ago I would have said I fell.

Fuck, I feel super old. And in pain.

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It depends, did you fall inside on the floor or outside on the ground?

Silvers11 · 10/04/2024 08:55

'I seen' instead of 'I saw' or 'I've seen'
'draw' instead of 'drawer'

Smoothbananagram · 10/04/2024 08:55

BettyShagter · 08/04/2024 22:25

Yes, let's pretend it did.

Either way, ignoring poor spelling and grammar by strangers on the internet (unless you genuinely can't understand them), is the adult thing to do.

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This exchange has made me smile. Well done for being the adult Betty!

AngelinaFibres · 10/04/2024 08:54

My brother. Well educated, senior academic, not ND, not dyslexic " I'll just have a slither of cake". It's bloody SLIVER.

Girlking · 10/04/2024 08:53

Berlinlover · 08/04/2024 22:05

The majority of people on Mumsnet can’t tell the difference between loose and lose. When I pointed this out a few days ago my post got deleted.

This. Really grinds my gears 😬

Kazzybingbong · 10/04/2024 08:51

TreesAndSandAndWaves · 08/04/2024 21:44

I don’t think I have ever heard someone say that. At risk of reaching peak MN … could it be a regional thing?

My pet hate is when people use “text” instead of “texted” for past tense e.g. “I text her yesterday but she didn’t answer”.

I don’t believe texted is in the OED either is it? Text wasn’t a verb until relatively recently.

Language is fluid and will naturally adapt alongside us. I think using text as a past tense verb is perfectly acceptable.

AngelinaFibres · 10/04/2024 08:47

MiffedandMiserable · 08/04/2024 22:02

My mum says Peter bread instead of pita bread. Makes me want to claw my ears off.

My mum says fuck-a- chee-a instead of foccacia. So bad,so, so bad.

TigerTraveller · 10/04/2024 08:46

Dyslexics struggle phonetically and might not be able to hear the difference between the words. Others may not have had a good education or parents who are educated and able to teach them. I cannot see why someone would get angry about this. Its only my daughter I will correct with this sort of thing or Americanisms as its my job to educate her and have her speaking well. Would not look down on people for using the wrong word.

dickdarstardlymuttley · 10/04/2024 08:43

Having read this thread, I find it really no wonder that neurodivergent people mask their symptoms.

CottonbudQueen · 10/04/2024 08:41

I feel your pain OP. I am the Pacific/specific murderer ! What the hell is wrong with people.

Robin198 · 10/04/2024 08:40

Zyq · 09/04/2024 14:32

Clearly you don't have a life that is above such things, or you wouldn't have clicked on the thread or posted.

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Clicked on the title AND read to the 14th page....

DontTakeThePiss · 10/04/2024 08:37

I've got a friend who can't tell the difference between to/too/two - she's 66!
She also gets confused between through and threw. It's pathetic.

ColleenDonaghy · 10/04/2024 08:36

ThanksItHasPockets · 10/04/2024 08:27

Imagine adding insult to injury by having your post reproduced on MN for pedants to mock…

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Indeed, it's just nasty.

Robin198 · 10/04/2024 08:34

Using "pacifically" in place of specifically or Pacific/specific raises my blood pressure to dangerously high levels. One is an Ocean...ARGH!

Anyotherdude · 10/04/2024 08:34

IME, it’s usually the other way round (brought instead of bought) and also lend/borrow used incorrectly!

Bishbashbosh9 · 10/04/2024 08:33

MaybeRevisitYourWipingT3chnique · 08/04/2024 23:32

'Different TO' always hugely annoys me. You'd never say "It differs TO that", so why say "It's different TO" rather than from?

Both are correct but 'different to' is the traditional standard in British English.

Butterflytown · 10/04/2024 08:30

CoffeeAndEnnui · 08/04/2024 22:00

His in place of he's is the one I see at least once a week on my feed. "His done so well on his mocks!" actually hurt my mind because how can you use something correctly and incorrectly in the same sentence?! Baffling.

The mixing up of his and he’s baffles me! He went to he’s friend’s house. Aargh!! Only came across it since I’ve lived in the south though- think it’s an east London/ Essex thing particularly, written as it’s pronounced in that accent.

And don’t get me started on would of/ should of. And Chester draws!!

Seymour5 · 10/04/2024 08:30

SabreIsMyFave · 09/04/2024 22:39

I must admit I am guilty of saying 'can I get a latte please?' I do say 'CAN I GET,' instead of 'can I have.'

A bit of a habit, picked up from my millennial daughters! 😬

I was taught, in Scotland, to say ‘may I have…?’. I hear ‘can I get..’ quite often nowadays, I assume it’s an import from the USA.

Notforbeef · 10/04/2024 08:29

GentleButter · 08/04/2024 22:12

Why do you struggle??

Present tense: Buy
Past tense: Bought

Present tense: Bring
Past tense: Brought

It hurts my head that people get this confused.

It's
So
Easy.

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Maybe people have dyslexia or learning difficulties or just didn't enjoy school so didn't engage. Doesn't make you superior to them and you are sounding very superior.

ThanksItHasPockets · 10/04/2024 08:27

ColleenDonaghy · 10/04/2024 08:26

That's awful. Imagine posting for advice about a holiday on FB and getting torn apart like that, the poor person must have felt miserable. Would it have killed people to just answer the questions or move past it?

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Imagine adding insult to injury by having your post reproduced on MN for pedants to mock…

ColleenDonaghy · 10/04/2024 08:26

Jjjj1980 · 10/04/2024 07:24

I have only seen this the other way round, so incorrectly using brought when they should have used bought.

I can’t add a screenshot but this is the exact wording from part of a Facebook comment I saw a few days ago on a holiday park guest page:

I was wandering about the rent shop an weather they would delver. If I have to collect and drop it they would brake. An can their be a fone in are shally. Last time I brought food at the ALDIs an it waisted so shall I of not took it? Do we get a pacific shally as soon as book or do we weight until are brake date?

There was so much more but it got deleted as every reply was just confirming the correct words they should’ve used.

Surely if you are unsure of the correct word or spelling to use, you’d check an online dictionary or thesaurus before posting!

That's awful. Imagine posting for advice about a holiday on FB and getting torn apart like that, the poor person must have felt miserable. Would it have killed people to just answer the questions or move past it?

Somersetmumma28 · 10/04/2024 08:25

I loath

”i pacifically asked ….”

I resist the urge to reply “what not atlantically” 🙈🙈

ThanksItHasPockets · 10/04/2024 08:18

ThanksItHasPockets · 10/04/2024 08:06

That honestly looks like the work of a severely dyslexic person who has used autocomplete to give their best guess for each word. Using a dictionary to check literally every word would take them hours. I suspect that fifteen years ago that person wouldn’t have written any of that down: social media has really exposed the literacy difficulties experienced by adults.

They would have been better off using the dictate function on their phone.

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I would also add that with the exception of ‘pacifically’ I bet every one of those words is a phonetically plausible spelling for their regional accent.