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To wonder how people book holidays without arguments?

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Schne · 08/04/2024 21:28

I’ve been in the process of planning this year’s family holiday for the past month now and still not decided where to go. It will be us, DC, my parents and PIL. It’s just so hard to find somewhere all 9 of us can agree on without arguing. I hate it and it’s so stressful every year. It’s like we’ll decide somewhere and at least someone will be put off by something or want to go somewhere else!

Does everyone else have this struggle??

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PermanentTemporary · 08/04/2024 21:34

I can't even imagine taking my parents and PILs on the same holiday. So frankly, well done for even trying!

I'd agree with picking a holiday that you and your children can afford and want to go on, and then see if your parents and PILs want to stay somewhere nearby for all or part of it.

Notimeforaname · 08/04/2024 21:34

Because if you do go away with them, when you get there itll be "nobody can agree where to eat or where to go for the day" itll be horrible.

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Schne · 08/04/2024 21:34

@Notimeforaname No one can ever agree even on a destination. I finally thought I had something this afternoon. I was looking at Miami but MIL messaged me saying she and FIL doesn’t fancy Miami because they’ve been there before. I’m so frustrated.

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StrawBeretMoose · 08/04/2024 21:34

We try not to mix in-laws at all, even for birthdays so th thought of all going on holiday together would have me readying for the smelling salts. I would say since a plan hasn’t been agreed you think it’s best if each family unit goes to their destination of choice.

Notimeforaname · 08/04/2024 21:32

If they dont agree by a certain point just book your own holiday. They can follow suit if they like or do their own thing.

I wouldn't be sitting around letting flight prices go up while I wait for other people to pick and agree where I'm going.

WhiteLeopard · 08/04/2024 21:32

We don't argue but then I'd never go on holiday with my parents and PIls!!

Echobelly · 08/04/2024 21:31

Generally, either I take the lead and sort it all (most of the time) or DH takes the lead and sorts it all and I let him because I'm glad to have someone else sort it all!

SergeantDawkins · 08/04/2024 21:31

Just go with people who you won’t argue with.

donthaveaname · 08/04/2024 21:31

Just tell them where YOU are going and then they can decide if they want to join you or not!

lumierplate · 08/04/2024 21:31

No because we go just us. Bollocks to taking in-laws and parents away. That’s not a holiday…..for us anyway. I’d rather not go away if I had to go with them for exactly the reasons you say.

Notimeforaname · 08/04/2024 21:30

Pick a destination and everyone can pick their own type of accommodation near to each other.
Or do you mean nobody can even agree on a destination?

SummaLuvin · 08/04/2024 21:30

one single destination is hardly going to be the dream location for 3 different adult couples as well as children.

toomanydiets · 08/04/2024 21:29

Be single or don't do it 😁😁

All joking, get parameters, offer max three options and most popular wins, no come backs