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To leave my DB’s house after 1 day?

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Mumanddone · 08/04/2024 20:17

For background: DB has a 4 year old, I have a 3 year old. Have travelled from London to European capital to be with his family and for the DCs to spend time together. This morning, my niece has woken up with streaming nose, sneezing, coughing, spluttering: literally a walking microbe 😂 I rebooked our tickets this morning and we’re flying out tonight (was originally meant to stay for 4 more days). Did I overreact?

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Fiddlerdragon · 08/04/2024 21:57

What a horrible way to shit on a family members efforts. I’d have been so ashamed of myself if I pulled this on a relative after the effort they must have go to

LifeExperience · 08/04/2024 21:53

Viruses are contagious a few days before symptoms show, so you were already exposed before you left. You cut your vacation short for nothing.

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Mumanddone · 08/04/2024 21:47

Ilovelurchers · 08/04/2024 21:43

It's your life and (apart from the impact on the planet of all this flying to and fro) doesn't impact anybody else too much I guess - you say your brother isn't bothered - I would worry about the impact on your child tho, if you are going to make a habit of making these rash decisions in order to avoid minor germs. I don't think this is great for the little one who was presumably looking forward to their holiday?

DD was disappointed to leave as was I. I would have made the flight back anyway, just made it earlier.

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Mumanddone · 08/04/2024 21:45

tennesseewhiskey1 · 08/04/2024 21:42

Fucking hell this must be a joke?! If there was ever a PFB thread….. I’m hoping it’s a joke thread though - surely?! No one in their right mind would think this was normal?! SURELY.

Not a joke. I was in two minds about it and you guys are definitely making me feel shitty. I know illness is a part of life but I do try to avoid it when I can ie: pulling DD away from a snotty child at soft play like last week. Guess I may have jumped the gun this time around, but there’s only so many sneezes you can take to the face before you’ve had enough lol

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TheYearOfSmallThings · 08/04/2024 21:45

Gymmum82 · 08/04/2024 21:01

Absolutely batshit. Also your kid will get sick the second you get home

100%

Ilovelurchers · 08/04/2024 21:43

It's your life and (apart from the impact on the planet of all this flying to and fro) doesn't impact anybody else too much I guess - you say your brother isn't bothered - I would worry about the impact on your child tho, if you are going to make a habit of making these rash decisions in order to avoid minor germs. I don't think this is great for the little one who was presumably looking forward to their holiday?

tennesseewhiskey1 · 08/04/2024 21:42

Fucking hell this must be a joke?! If there was ever a PFB thread….. I’m hoping it’s a joke thread though - surely?! No one in their right mind would think this was normal?! SURELY.

Berlinlover · 08/04/2024 21:41

The hysterical overreaction to Covid had made people terrified of headcolds, that’s it in a nutshell.

Axx · 08/04/2024 21:38

You know it'll be too late if she's going to catch it don't you?

Sparkletastic · 08/04/2024 21:38

How...odd.

Justbrowsing2024 · 08/04/2024 21:38

Mumanddone · 08/04/2024 20:59

Sheesh. You guys are ruthless.

I definitely felt it was the right decision at the time. She had symptoms of slapped cheek and i didn’t fancy putting my own DD through that if it could be avoided. DB said he understood and wasn’t mad (trust me, I would know if he was). I don’t think he would have made the same decision, but their daughter gets sick more and they’re less stressed about it. My DD does go to nursery full time yes, and no I don’t scan children upon entry. I trust other parents to not send their children in when they’re coughing and splitting though I appreciate that may not be the case with everyone.

we have tickets to go see them again in summer and it’s not going to be the ruin of our relationship 😂 it was just one of those unfortunate things I guess. If we had driven in from up north or whatever, i would have been straight in the car.

Slapped cheek seems to be going around. My brothers children seemed to have it last week. Didn't run home though lol. Stayed, enjoyed our time and lived life as normal. Noone is ill here. After losing so much time with them in 2020/2021 I value time with family so much and find your reaction so bizarre and unreasonable. I bet they are annoyed just not showing it because you don't seem to be rational.
I still can't believe this post is real to be honest 😂

Doveyouknow · 08/04/2024 21:36

If it's slapped cheek it's too late by the time the rash has appeared, the infectious period is before. Also it's better to get slapped cheek when you are younger and gain immunity. Catching slapped cheek when you are older can be more serious and it's very dangerous for pregnant women.

Toddlerteaplease · 08/04/2024 21:30

Yes, huge overreaction!

Gingernurt88 · 08/04/2024 21:26

What did you do on the plane, ferry, Eurostar? Take an inflatable zorb to hide in to protect yourself against the great unwashed and their germs?

I live with an adult with a barely functioning immune system. The only thing we've ever freaked out about was Covid before there were anti virals or vaccines. When our kids had chicken pox he had a one week stay in hospital watching films whilst being plied with various anti virals. He had a great week being waited on hand and foot.

YABVU

TotHappy · 08/04/2024 21:19

Crumbs. If my sister did this, I might not show my bewilderment and anger - I probably would but I would of course want to seem reasonable- but the more I thought on it the more hurt and angry I'd be. Bloody hell, OP!

PhoebeTribiani · 08/04/2024 21:14

Yes you did overreact. Never heard of anything quite as batshittery as this.

FoxtrotOscarFoxtrotOscar · 08/04/2024 21:08

Why didn't you just pack a hazmat suit?

fungipie · 08/04/2024 21:01

saraclara · 08/04/2024 20:29

I presume your child doesn't go to nursery. It so you presumably check the health of every child there before you drop her off, or whip her back home if someone's sniffling?

just incredible :( truly.

Don't wonder OP why you are never invited again. DB and his DP have probably gone to great trouble getting their place ready, getting special foods in, organising outings, etc.

Gymmum82 · 08/04/2024 21:01

Absolutely batshit. Also your kid will get sick the second you get home

StarbucksQueen1 · 08/04/2024 21:00

Is this a reverse? You can’t think that’s ok? You’ve spent time together, you’ve already been exposed! You’ve wasted money, probably disappointed your son and family all for what?!

Bigearringsbigsmile · 08/04/2024 20:59

Yes you over reacted. Bonkers, rude and hurtful to your brother

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Mumanddone · 08/04/2024 20:59

Sheesh. You guys are ruthless.

I definitely felt it was the right decision at the time. She had symptoms of slapped cheek and i didn’t fancy putting my own DD through that if it could be avoided. DB said he understood and wasn’t mad (trust me, I would know if he was). I don’t think he would have made the same decision, but their daughter gets sick more and they’re less stressed about it. My DD does go to nursery full time yes, and no I don’t scan children upon entry. I trust other parents to not send their children in when they’re coughing and splitting though I appreciate that may not be the case with everyone.

we have tickets to go see them again in summer and it’s not going to be the ruin of our relationship 😂 it was just one of those unfortunate things I guess. If we had driven in from up north or whatever, i would have been straight in the car.

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TheSnowyOwl · 08/04/2024 20:58

But surely she was already contagious and been in contact with you all. Most young children look like they have heavy colds but usually bounce through them.

PeopleAreWeird · 08/04/2024 20:57

Before she caught ‘a cold’

Do none of you leave the house otherwise?
I presume you all wash and antibac your hands after you touch everything? And all wore full protective suits on the plane?

Children need to catch illnesses , now more than ever everyone needs to come into contact with bugs over wise our immune systems are fucked

GeorgesMarvelousCalpol · 08/04/2024 20:57

Mumoftwo1312 · 08/04/2024 20:19

You're cutting short an abroad holiday with relatives because your 3yo has a cold...? Surely that can't be the true reason? Yabu of course.

Is the true reason that the kids don't get along, or you and SIL aren't getting along, or something...?

Edited

The niece has the cold!

Ridiculous overreaction 🙄