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Is it me? A parking/ boundary one

157 replies

Fleurdalys · 08/04/2024 19:56

Ok,I live at the end house of a cul de sac.
I have a big drive.
I obviously have to drive over my neighbours drive to access my property.
For context my drive/ front garden can happily house 5 cars which it does as I have a car, my DH has a van and my boys both have a car.
Which we park on our drive,
Saturday I weeded my front garden.
Reversed my car to overhang the neighbours property by 2 foot
Her car is on her drive 15 foot away so in no way does it impact her access.
She called the police...
They actually came round!
Wtaf?
Yeah they were suitably embarrassed as I sent them away as they obviously knew she is crackers 😂
Hope the photo works 🫰

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Hoppinggreen · 09/04/2024 10:14

Fairysteps11 · 09/04/2024 10:10

You must all be deliberately being very stupid. It is not hard to understand. The op has a drive. She has to drive past her neighbours drive to get to her house which is on the left and she has a drive. She took her car out of her drive and parked it at the foot of her drive. It was slightly over the neighbours fence line. The op has stated that the neighbour can easily get the car out.
I have read many parking posts where replies have been that if you pay car tax, you can park wherever you like (within the law). The op has not broken the law, she has parked on a road at the foot of her drive and her car is slightly over ndn fence.
The ndn called the police for this.

Made clearer for the awkward ones 🙄

Your neighbour is nuts op. You can park your car on the road

Thank you for your explanation, maybe I was having a stupid moment but I just couldnt visualise it.
If OP parked over her neighbours dropped kerb then she WAS comitting an offense, surprised The Police turned up but then OP does sound somewhat "difficult" and it may have been a pattern of behaviour.

Fairysteps11 · 09/04/2024 10:10

You must all be deliberately being very stupid. It is not hard to understand. The op has a drive. She has to drive past her neighbours drive to get to her house which is on the left and she has a drive. She took her car out of her drive and parked it at the foot of her drive. It was slightly over the neighbours fence line. The op has stated that the neighbour can easily get the car out.
I have read many parking posts where replies have been that if you pay car tax, you can park wherever you like (within the law). The op has not broken the law, she has parked on a road at the foot of her drive and her car is slightly over ndn fence.
The ndn called the police for this.

Made clearer for the awkward ones 🙄

Your neighbour is nuts op. You can park your car on the road

Mummame2222 · 09/04/2024 09:45

I think OP meant she had to drive past her driveway, not across it 😂🤦‍♀️

@Fleurdalys People understand that you were only blocking her drive a little. What you don’t seem to understand is that not many people agree with you that your neighbour was in the wrong. You’re coming off entitled.

rainbowstardrops · 09/04/2024 09:13

I'm clearly being thick because I can't imagine the set up either. Were you on her driveway, or just parked a bit over the start of her driveway? As others have said, a diagram would be so much clearer!
Why didn't she just come out and speak to you because unless there is a huge backstory, calling the police was ridiculous.
Our selfish neighbour sometimes parks a couple of feet over our driveway just because it's more convenient for him and makes it nigh on impossible to get onto our driveway. Just knock on the door and tell them to move. Every time.

BoudiccaOfSuburbia · 09/04/2024 08:47

She was clearly ridiculous to call the police.

But from the diagram it looks as if your car was on the road outside her house, not on her drive?

And it still makes no sense that you would drive over her property to access your drive, just drive in the shared road?

SoupDragon · 09/04/2024 08:43

I imagine it's a similar set up to this near me. House A has a driveway all the way to the dropped kerb, House B has to drive over the end of House A's driveway to access the road.

From the OP's photo it's more likely she's in the position of House A, set back from the road access, with House B owning the drive that joins the roadway. Obviously the actual layout is different.

Is it me? A parking/ boundary one
rainontherooftop · 09/04/2024 08:39

OneFrenchEgg · 08/04/2024 21:52

Here is my starter for ten - the access road goes to op's house, past all the other houses and stops at op's driveway.
Op parked with a couple of wheels over this road, in front of neighbour's house.
That's all I've got.

Think you've nailed it.

teenboymom · 09/04/2024 04:42

Could you draw and overview as it's not easy to distinguish from the photo exactly what the lay out it's

imforeverblowingbuttons · 09/04/2024 03:03

Most cul de sacs are a semi circle where you can access your drive from the road without issue.

I think you mean you have to drive in front of your neighbours drive to get onto your drive not that you have to access her property to reach yours.

Calling the police was ridiculous and a waste of time. She should have asked you not to block her property first (which you shouldn't have been doing in the first place)

She is either a person who over reacts or she's not a fan of your.

YaMuvva · 09/04/2024 01:22

Fleurdalys · 08/04/2024 20:06

Ok?

I honestly cannot figure out where your neighbours drive is from that photo? It looks like the grey car is parked half across your drive and half across a footpath/in front of a fence.

When you say “drive across her drive” I picture you railroading over her flower beds and squashing gnomes that are in the way 😂 I assume you mean ‘in front’ of her drive? Your wheels don’t touch her driveway?

primroseteapot · 09/04/2024 01:17

Fleurdalys · 08/04/2024 20:31

Correct
At least you get it!
My car was one foot on her driveway
I'll leave it here now as nobody else gets it

Nobody else gets it because you are incoherent.

WhichEllie · 09/04/2024 00:25

I think previous posters are right and OP has just worded it incorrectly, saying she has to drive “over” her neighbour’s drive (meaning drive on their property) when she actually means drive past their drive (on the road).

So yes, they are unreasonable for calling the police for her car being parked on the road partially in front of their house. However OP is definitely being unreasonable for the entire contents of this thread.

Abi86 · 09/04/2024 00:10

I still don’t get the geometry. I’d need an overhead view for it to make sense. But the OP BU in that you can’t park in your neighbours … anything. Two foot or twenty foot. Just don’t.

TeenLifeMum · 08/04/2024 23:45

You were a bit of a dick but her response was rather extreme.

curveofcarus · 08/04/2024 23:42

Is it a shared driveway? Is it that you are allowed to drive over it to access your part of the driveway but not allowed to park on it? Was your car parked on your neighbour's land in breach of title deeds/covenants/easement? If so you are being very rude and inconsiderate. Legally you would be trespassing (civil matter). Maybe this isn't the first time she has been affected by you and the other vehicles belonging on your property. I pity your poor neighbour (been there, got the tee shirt)! Give your head a wobble.

WhereYouLeftIt · 08/04/2024 23:26

Fleurdalys · 08/04/2024 21:36

I have to to access my house?

And this is why people draw a diagram, because "I obviously have to drive over my neighbours drive to access my property" makes no sense to anybody who doesn't know the physical layout of the drives. "Obviously" just isn't obvious to anyone but you, OP. Even your photo - still clear as mud.

Please - a diagram!

Constantdistractions · 08/04/2024 23:01

I don't really understand the point of the thread. Yes you were a dick for parking on her drive if that's what you're asking? She maybe over reacted but if you're unpleasant neighbours then I can understand why.

TinyGingerCat · 08/04/2024 22:59

I also live in a house at the end of a cul de sac and so fully understand why you have to drive over your neighbours drive (without needing a diagram). However you were wrong to park in a way that impinged on her property. It's irrelevant that you didn't think it affected her. Also love the stealth brag that you can fit 5 vehicles on yours. If that's the case then use the full breadth and width of your own property. My neighbour currently only has one car on her drive, i haven't taken this as an open invitation to park on hers. The only way a shared drive situation works is if everyone sticks to their own property.

alittleworriedlamb · 08/04/2024 22:53

So it's as if she's parked a couple of feet in front of this house on the right in the photo, but the driveway for that house is another 10 metres down the lane so not impacting them at all.

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2proseccosplease · 08/04/2024 22:49

I've looked at the photo and read all your posts but I'm still completely confused about:

  1. Which part is/isn't your drive
  1. Why you have to drive over her drive to get to your drive, that is not usual
  1. How her drive comes off the road

I agree a diagram is required

alittleworriedlamb · 08/04/2024 22:49

She means like this. But usually one end has bollards. Common in new builds.

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whynotwhatknot · 08/04/2024 22:47

where do you live that police came out for this? they dont come out if your cars stolen round here

shootingstar1 · 08/04/2024 22:40

I personally believe that the neighbour has massively overreacted here. If you were blocking her drive she could have spoken to you rather than waste police time . Sounds as if it was only a one off while you were doing some weeding. Although next time might be worth asking first .

If you block her drive one a regular basis then fair enough ... I'd be annoyed at that too !

olympicsrock · 08/04/2024 22:36

Draw a diagram OP . Thems the rules

Freshstarts249 · 08/04/2024 22:34

Most confusing thread I’ve ever read