Friend doing my head in

CocoapuffPuff · 2024-04-08T17:32:55+00:00

I have a friend staying this week. She us from the USA. She's fab, fun and fucking LOUD. She's working whilst here, via zoom and I'm so tired of the fucking noise. She's so loud. Shouting, shrieking, etc. The cats are jumpy, I'm longing for some silence and now She's just told me she has a zoom meeting between 1am and 3am. She's leaving Thursday and I'm so looking forward to the lack of noise. Why are Americans so bloody loud??? She knows, she's making an effort to dial it back when she remembers but it's not very often that she remembers. It's not an Aibu really, just an anonymous moan on an anonymous forum to stop myself from exploding. JFC.

Horses7 · 09/04/2024 22:10

Agree always very loud - but prefer the term gobby in my part of the world 🤣

Screamingabdabz · 09/04/2024 22:04

bellezarara · 09/04/2024 18:34

Oh FFS give it a rest.

Americans are raised to be confident and loud, it’a a positive trait.

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I was going to say this. I’ve looked after children in America and they’re encouraged to be bold and assertive and precocious.

I’m not sure it’s a completely ‘positive trait’ though - there is something to be said for good ol’ British values of ‘quiet reserve’ and self effacing politeness occasionally.

Dmsandfloatydress · 09/04/2024 21:47

It's just a cultural difference! Italians loud extroverted culture, Colombians ditto, British introverted culture that values privacy and quietness. We are miserable moany fuckers though which is why the Aussies can't stand us.

OnHerSolidFoundations · 09/04/2024 21:37

JustGettingStarted · 09/04/2024 19:32

I was only joking about Americans being dreadful. I'm American. (and dreadful)

You're terrible Muriel!

OnHerSolidFoundations · 09/04/2024 21:36

"Americans are raised to be confident and loud, it’a a positive trait."

@bellezarara sometimes. Understanding there's a time and a place is also important!

BobbyBiscuits · 09/04/2024 19:35

I get the time lapse, but if she needs to do a call then, she can go outside to a 24hr McDonald's or just sit at a bus stop, lol. It's not acceptable to do calls in the middle of the night in others people's homes who are asleep. What a twat.

JustGettingStarted · 09/04/2024 19:32

I was only joking about Americans being dreadful. I'm American. (and dreadful)

Notinthemood12 · 09/04/2024 19:20

Why was the funny post deleted, it wasn’t that deep!

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CocoapuffPuff · 09/04/2024 19:20

Runnerinthenight · 09/04/2024 19:08

Could you be any more juvenile?!

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You want me to be more juvenile?

Crikey, really? I was winding down, to be honest. You paying overtime?

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JustGettingStarted · 09/04/2024 19:14

YABU to befriend an American. And to host them over here.

They're absolutely dreadful!

Runnerinthenight · 09/04/2024 19:08

CocoapuffPuff · 09/04/2024 18:48

Ah, how lovely. Sadly, im just a ragamuffin urchin from the mean streets. Maybe you could instruct me more, give me a fighting chance to better meeself?

Could you be any more juvenile?!

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CocoapuffPuff · 09/04/2024 18:57

suki1964 · 09/04/2024 18:51

Its things like this that make me so grateful that I lost the garage and turned it into a family room

When Im watching a concert late night and have taken a drink or five - off I toodle, if the grandkids are here and fancy a late one - they know where to go.

I live in a multi generational household so turning the garage into a place where any noise was ok was a god send

That sounds amazing!

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CocoapuffPuff · 09/04/2024 18:57

SevenSeasOfRhye · 09/04/2024 18:53

Of course - always happy to be of service 😀

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Thank you!
You're a doll.

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SevenSeasOfRhye · 09/04/2024 18:53

CocoapuffPuff · 09/04/2024 18:48

Ah, how lovely. Sadly, im just a ragamuffin urchin from the mean streets. Maybe you could instruct me more, give me a fighting chance to better meeself?

Of course - always happy to be of service 😀

suki1964 · 09/04/2024 18:51

Its things like this that make me so grateful that I lost the garage and turned it into a family room

When Im watching a concert late night and have taken a drink or five - off I toodle, if the grandkids are here and fancy a late one - they know where to go.

I live in a multi generational household so turning the garage into a place where any noise was ok was a god send

Greenfinch7 · 09/04/2024 18:50

I know a loud person who is English!

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CocoapuffPuff · 09/04/2024 18:48

Ah, how lovely. Sadly, im just a ragamuffin urchin from the mean streets. Maybe you could instruct me more, give me a fighting chance to better meeself?

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SevenSeasOfRhye · 09/04/2024 18:46

CocoapuffPuff · 09/04/2024 18:45

Thank you so much for the etiquette lesson. Are you a finishing school teacher?

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Yes.

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CocoapuffPuff · 09/04/2024 18:45

SevenSeasOfRhye · 09/04/2024 18:28

You have a strange idea of being 'scolded'! Being on AIBU isn't an excuse to be downright rude to people civilly offering an opinion in response to your request for opinions. You could have replied that all the Americans you know are like this or whatever. I get that you thought it was Chat, but my use of 'reasonable' and 'unreasonable' should have alerted you to the fact it was in AIBU.

Thank you so much for the etiquette lesson. Are you a finishing school teacher?

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Notinthemood12 · 09/04/2024 18:38

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Not doing sides but the sarcasm dripping off this response made me laugh 😆

SiobhanSharpe · 09/04/2024 18:38

When I worked in a newsroom we had a very loud Yank, a New Yorker, who liked to create noise. His excuse was it (we) were all too quiet and he liked to shake things up. (It was a newsroom, ffs! Hence not at all quiet and very sweary to boot.)
Sudden shouts, cheers, yips and whoops. If it made you jump, he was happy. Nice enough chap but tiresome, he just loved noise and hearing his own voice.
I sympathise, I definitely could not be doing with that in my own home.

bellezarara · 09/04/2024 18:34

SevenSeasOfRhye · 09/04/2024 18:28

You have a strange idea of being 'scolded'! Being on AIBU isn't an excuse to be downright rude to people civilly offering an opinion in response to your request for opinions. You could have replied that all the Americans you know are like this or whatever. I get that you thought it was Chat, but my use of 'reasonable' and 'unreasonable' should have alerted you to the fact it was in AIBU.

Oh FFS give it a rest.

Americans are raised to be confident and loud, it’a a positive trait.

SevenSeasOfRhye · 09/04/2024 18:28

You have a strange idea of being 'scolded'! Being on AIBU isn't an excuse to be downright rude to people civilly offering an opinion in response to your request for opinions. You could have replied that all the Americans you know are like this or whatever. I get that you thought it was Chat, but my use of 'reasonable' and 'unreasonable' should have alerted you to the fact it was in AIBU.

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CocoapuffPuff · 09/04/2024 18:22

Well, I didn't mean to hurt your feelings, it was an expression of frustration and irritation at being scolded. Maybe aibu isn't the place for you, either?

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SevenSeasOfRhye · 09/04/2024 18:14

AtrociousCircumstance · 09/04/2024 18:13

Even though it’s AIBU that doesn’t mean every single opinion has to be agreed with or valued by a grateful OP. The OP can also respond how they see it.

Because, you know, it’s AIBU.

They can, but 'Piss off' is a bit much when my response was perfectly civil and partly in agreement with the OP.