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Neither parent wants to live with their child fulltime what happens?

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WhatWillHappenToTheDC · 08/04/2024 17:21

It’s a relatives child.

The DC is 10. Has lived with the RP, their mother alone since they were 2. Seeing NRP Father for 2 nights EOWend and half the school holidays.

NRP agreed to have DC over Easter Holidays fulltime so RP could have some work done on the house.

RP has now said they do not want DC home and want to trial a switch of residency for awhile or wants to do 50/50 arrangement. NRP also does not want DC fulltime and wants to go back to previous arrangement.

Social Services are involved now due to the arguments and DCs school reporting it, but what will happen if neither parent wants to live with their child full time? Is there some sort of foster care where parents can still see DC?

I can't put myself forward to have the child as I live too far from them. Parents live around 7 miles from each other.

OP posts:
PicaK · 08/04/2024 17:25

Current NRP needs to get a grip and step up.

MrsPS3 · 08/04/2024 17:25

Poor kid...
But can RP say that she doesn't want him??The Easter arrangement was a temporal and informal

WhatWillHappenToTheDC · 08/04/2024 17:24

KoolKookaburra · 08/04/2024 17:23

Why don't they want to live with their child? Am assuming child is violent or on drugs or something

@KoolKookaburra Mum thinks there should be more contact between the child and father and feels like she does everything for said child while father gets all the fun so she either wants a switch for awhile or 50/50 so it's more fair.

Dad wants to keep the status qo and stick with previous arrangement of Every Other Weekend for 2 nights.

OP posts:
Sahara123 · 08/04/2024 17:24

The poor child . No one wants them ? That’s one way to mess them up .
i have no solution, I just cannot imagine myself in this situation, I’m sorry .

Blondeshavemorefun · 08/04/2024 17:24

Why don't either parent want the child

Poor child

Mariannas · 08/04/2024 17:23

God that poor child.

TheShellBeach · 08/04/2024 17:23

If there is no relative who can take the child, SS will find a foster carer.

KoolKookaburra · 08/04/2024 17:23

Why don't they want to live with their child? Am assuming child is violent or on drugs or something

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